Unhappy cat

I have a lovely tabby called Pussy who was a stray and arrived with us about five years ago. We've treated her like a baby and she has been queen of the house (definitely in charge of our two Jack Russells!). In May, another little kitty arrived in a bad way, just had kittens and she was very underweight and in trouble. We took her in and have done all the necessary and she's taken to us like a duck to water. Unfortunately, Pussy is extremely unhappy about this and has left home several times for a week or so at a time and really seems very miserable. They growl at each other, which appears to be normal, but Pussy's nose is so severely out of joint that I don't think she'll stay. I'm very sad about that - is there anything I can do to cheer her up? I make a fuss of her when she is around but she doesn't want to come into the house or sleep in her usual places any more. We're moving house in a month or so and would like to take the two of them with us when we go. Any advice?

TJ

First of all Welcome to the Cat Site!

Since you are moving soon - you should keep both cats in the house. Get them both used to each other (at least a little anyway). Get them to interact with each other by playing with toys with them. Make sure your cat Pussy knows that she is still part of the family. We are sure you do that but your cat needs to know that she is still queen of the house. Just keep trying! You are doing a good job so far, there must be a way!

That would be great if you could take both of those cats when you move

Hola y bienvenido a TCS, ...Catulina

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(Translate: Hi and Welcome to TCS, Catulina and Milky say hello to you!!!... )
I hope can to get along all kitties...
See you on the forums!

Hello & welcome to TCS. I'm afraid I can't give you any advice as I've never been in that situation. Go to the behavior forum & ask there. I'm sure you'll get the advice you need.

WELCOME!!!!

I would ask your question again in the behavior forum. But, keep trying.....sometimes it takes several months for kitties to get along with each other. Pussy also may not like other cats.....some prefer to be the only one. If this happens you may have to find the other cat a new home....Pussy was your baby first.

The move may be just the thing you need. Your problem now is that Pussy is unhappy about her territory with another cat. She's used to having it all to herself. When you move, both cats will be new cats in a totally new territory, and they'll be starting from scratch and both starting from the same place with respect to their relationship. I know of several instances where this has occurred. I think you may be pleasantly surprised.

PS - you should confine both cats inside for a couple weeks at the new place otherwise Pussy might take in mind to go back to the old place, which to her, will still be "home."

Yay and welcome! I agree with slowly bringing them together and socializing them. I hope your move is successful!

Welcome !

Having just gone through this myself, adding a new kitten , or another cat has to be done very slowly, they should be kept away from each other for at least a week & introduced for short amounts of time, switch rooms the other is in, so they can smell the other cat in a non threatening enviroment. It takes time. There is a product called Feliway I have to swear by, helped a lot.

Pussy needs to be in the house to get used to the other kitty. Please bring her in, and make her stay in for proper introductions! Please, please take her with you when you move...otherwise she will be truly abandoned and on her own, and that's the saddest thing I can think of!