Originally Posted by CatsAreBetter
Well, I've threatened to kick my own mother out of my house for not treating my cats the way I want them to be treated.... so perhaps I'm not the best person to be giving you advice. However... I will say that, in my book, you have every reason to make sure your cats are taken care of, and if she does something to them that you're unhappy about, tell her about it. If she continues, I personally don't see any problem with kicking her out, but then your DH might have issues with that.
I am, perhaps, a little more reactive when it comes to my animals than most. I would see no harm in hurting someone if they chose to do harm to my animals.
A few signs to look for are if they *always* shy away from her. She will most likely do things that she doesn't even consider abusive. You may want to keep a watch on it, because if she starts doign things that make them hand shy, it may affect the way they interact with you and DH and not only the way they interact with your MIL.
I'm glad you made the point:
"She will most likely do things that she doesn't even consider abusive"
Animal lovers view animals a different way then non-animal lovers do. For example: I would never, EVER throw my cat. I don't care if you tell me cats land on their feet... I don't care- don't throw my cat! A non-animal lover may not understand this...
So there is a possibility of her doing something to the cat that she just isn't aware of- seriously! I guess you can't get raging mad at her for those things, but you can talk to her...
Just when she gets there, keep an eye on how she treats the cat. And how the cat treats her...hehe!
I'm sure things will be fine. If not, you can always talk to your DH about it.