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post #1 of 14
Thread Starter 
Okay last night I talked to a guy that I had talked to about six years ago but was bad timming. But I had liked the guy well last night we started talking and we talked until 6 am. And talked about everything under the sun. He has three outside cats that he feeds and he took in a baby kitten and bottle fed it and he doesn't mind crazy cat ladies. And he actually knew a bit about history, literature, and art and in my area that says alot cause most of the guys around here are a bit challanged in the brain cells area. And I think he's cute and he thinks I am cute. The one time we went out we did kiss but back then I was so shy that I guess I gave him the feeling that I wasn't interested. But he commented on how pretty my eyes and hair was. He said he had been interested but it was a bit odd because I was so shy and he was so nervous and I am nowhere near as shy as I used to be. And my confidence is alot better.

Last night he asked me when we could go out again and I didn't answer but I did flirt with him all night. And he even wants to check out TCS so he can help his cats he feeds. So would you ask him out or wait on him to ask you out again. He is so sweet and he doesn't even mind my quirkiness and I don't know how else to compliment him I am just kind of in shock that after years we found one another again and remembered each other and started talking again.
post #2 of 14
I would ask him out
post #3 of 14
Ask him out. Something casual. He sounds like a good guy for you! Plus, going out with someone doesn't mean you're going to spend your life together. Don't put pressure on it, just treat yourself to a good night out and have fun.

You never know until you try.
post #4 of 14
Thread Starter 
I would like to ask him out but I am inbetween jobs and so I am broke and I have always heard the one who asks pays. I thought about seeing if he would like to maybe go out to the park or something but its so hot that even at night its too hot for that. The good news is I might have a job by the end of the week if those tcs vibes work. I have maybe six dollars to my name so I can't honestly even pay for mcdonalds. He asked me when I would go out with him for chinese so should I just wait for him to ask again. Silly me never gave him an answer about when but I did say that I would like to.
post #5 of 14
I'd invite him out for coffee at Starbucks/Caribou, etc. or ask him when he's free for lunch.

One thing, be SURE he's single

Ok, if you are broke, is there anything special (event) wise that's coming up - a local county fair, picnic, etc. If you go to church, is there any event coming up where you can invite him. Or even ask if he'd like to go on a picnic at a local park for lunch. You can gather a few things up to have a picnic that won't cost anything
post #6 of 14
Sweetie, he already did ask you out when he said "when can we go out again?"

You didn't answer him so the ball is in your court. Next time you talk to him, let him know that he caught you off guard when he asked you out, and then tell him that you would love to get together with him.

He likes cats. You have a nice but brief history. And you sound like you have loads in common. It's worth the effort
post #7 of 14
Natalie_ca is right, he already asked you out. Tell him you would love to take him up on that offer for a Chinese dinner.

There's nothing wrong with asking him out, either, when it's your turn. I asked my husband out the first time and we've been happily together for over 16 years.
post #8 of 14
Thread Starter 
I never thought about it like that I guess he did ask me out. I think he caught me off guard cause it was about 3 am when he asked me. And I was falling asleep at the keyboard. Hopefully I get to talk to him soon but if I had to guess he's probably still asleep since he had to work from 8pm to 8am. Not sure if he has to work tonight or not. I am a bit nervous but I can't wait to talk to him again.
post #9 of 14
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Natalie_ca is right, he already asked you out.
Yup, he sure did! This is wonderful! He sounds like a good guy, and any man who will talk until 6:00 AM is a rarity!

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[b] I asked my husband out the first time and we've been happily together for over 16 years.
Why, you bold and forward girl! How'd you go about it, if I may ask? I'm rapidly approaching the Age of Desperation and may have to try it someday...
post #10 of 14
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Originally Posted by CarolPetunia View Post
...Why, you bold and forward girl! How'd you go about it, if I may ask? I'm rapidly approaching the Age of Desperation and may have to try it someday...

He put a birthday card for me in my office before he left for Toronto for Christmas, so I emailed him, thanking him. I added something like, "Let's go to dinner when you get back." And we did, as soon as he got back.

I've had several guys tell me that they appreciate when the woman takes the risk. Many are tired of being the ones who always have to take the chance at rejection.

Really, I had nothing to lose and everything to gain. I had asked a guy out before that, and didn't know he had a girlfriend, but he was flattered and very nice about it.
post #11 of 14
Thread Starter 
well I sent him a message and asked him what he was doing on saturday and then I said if you don't have plans then maybe we could go out for chinese and I told him to send me a message when he got a chance and to let me know what he thinks about the idea. now to wait for his answer since that's done with
post #12 of 14
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Originally Posted by SwampWitch View Post
He put a birthday card for me in my office before he left for Toronto for Christmas, so I emailed him, thanking him. I added something like, "Let's go to dinner when you get back." And we did, as soon as he got back.
Ah, nice... nonspecific, nonthreatening... well done! Okay, now if I can just lose a few -- well, quite a few -- well, a LOT of pounds...
post #13 of 14
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Originally Posted by CarolPetunia View Post
Ah, nice... nonspecific, nonthreatening... well done! Okay, now if I can just lose a few -- well, quite a few -- well, a LOT of pounds...
I think if a guy can't accept you for who you are then he isn't worth the time it takes to ask him out. Look at me I am not the smallest girl in the world nor am I the biggest but I still think I am pretty and he apparently thought so cause he started talking to me again and the one time we went out he kissed me. And I have another guy wanting to talk to me but he's not dating material for one he thinks Tavia would be good target practice. And then again there are some guys that don't like me but they must not be for me and so I am smart enough to shake it off and go on to next one.

I know this my thread but not cause of fears of him liking me but because I wasn't sure if I should ask him out or not or wait on him. Besides I have a friend who used to say the silliest things about us big girls being great because we were warmer in the winter.
post #14 of 14
Good job! Let us know what he says!
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