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post #1 of 21
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We adopted out a cat named Spike back in, oh, March or so. He was a great cat, but at the time we thought my fiance was severely allergic to him. We later found out that my fiance was in fact allergic to the fleece blankets on the bed, but by that time had already found Spike a new home.

Fast forward to this past friday. We get a call from Spike's new owners. They gave us the "we're moving and can't take Spike and you told us to call if we ever wanted to give him back" speech.

So, we talked it over. We've already got five cats, and two dogs, and live in a mobile home. However, two of the cats are fosters, so they're not technically ours.

Anyway, we decided we'd take him back. I really liked Spike, he was a really cool, sweet cat.

Well, sunday morning we stopped over at their house. We were supposed to come tuesday evening, but were in the neighborhood (had gotten directions previously).

First thing I noticed when I walked up to the door was a very bad smell of animals. I'm not talking about the smell of animals, but the smell of dirty animals, litter boxes, and poo. I knocked on the door for about five minutes (I could hear a tv on inside) and finally somebody I didn't recognize opened the door. I told him who I was, and why I was there. Problem was that I had to shout, as I heard at least six or seven dogs barking.

Imagine this, the apartment is about 15ftx30ft, and that's being generous. It somehow managed to contain two bedrooms, a living room, and a bathroom. There was no kitchen, just a stove and a microwave in the living room. I couldn't see a clean surface anywhere, and there were three people sleeping strewn about in the living room area.

Spike was in the corner of the living room, and the guy brought him over to me. Immediately I noticed that he felt very greasy and just plain dirty. The girl that had called me finally stumbled half asleep out of her bedroom and wandered over to a dresser (in the living room) and brought out the bed and pink cube I had given her with Spike. The bed was atrocious, covered in what I don't even want to think of.

I was so shocked I didn't say hardly anything, just backed away slowly, clutching my dear, poor Spike with all my might. My fiance grabbed the cube and bed, and shoved them in the back of the car. I got in, holding Spike, and cried apologetically to him the whole way home.

These people seemed nice enough when I met them, and now I'm terrified to adopt out my two wonderful foster kitties. Both of them need special, patient people, and I don't know how I'm going to find the right people for them. Spike got a bath as soon as he got into the house, and we washed the bed twice. He's much cleaner, and seems happier already. He even remembered our cat Julius, and our dogs.

I just feel bad because I left him in these conditions for the past six months, I really hope I can make it up to him, he deserves much better than that.

Thanks for reading my novel, I just needed somebody to talk to.

Here's a picture of Spike if anyone's interested: http://s143.photobucket.com/albums/r...t=PHOT0072.jpg
post #2 of 21
oh no!! how awful! thank goodness you got him out of there. Don't feel guilty, some people are just very good at fooling others, and you went with your instincts, which are not infallible unfortunately He's home now and I'm sure you'll do your very best to make it up to him He's very very handsome BTW, reminds me of my Mr Hadems
post #3 of 21
I supose a way to minimise risk is to see the new owners house, but even that cant guarantee anything!

I am so glad yu got him back, he looks like a cutie!
post #4 of 21
At least he is safe now! And I'm sure he forgives you and is just happy to be home!
And on another note, I see by the next picture on your photobucket you are an LOLcats fan
post #5 of 21
I am glad that you got Spike back and I betcha he forgives you.
post #6 of 21
oh you poor thing.. That is soo gross!!!

The poor animals that live in those conditions... Have you thought about calling the shelter for the other animals...
post #7 of 21
Aww, poor Spikey. I bet he was happy to see you. The rescues I've dealt with always make a home visit before placing an animal. Does yours do that, or is it up to you to make the judgement. I would include a home visit from now on. This is a lesson that will enable you to make better choices in the future. No one was hurt, and many more will be better off. It worked out for the best. Spikey did a good deed.
post #8 of 21
So glad that Spike is back with you, safe and sound.
post #9 of 21
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Originally Posted by CrouchingCheese View Post
We adopted out a cat named Spike back in, oh, March or so. He was a great cat, but at the time we thought my fiance was severely allergic to him. We later found out that my fiance was in fact allergic to the fleece blankets on the bed, but by that time had already found Spike a new home.

Fast forward to this past friday. We get a call from Spike's new owners. They gave us the "we're moving and can't take Spike and you told us to call if we ever wanted to give him back" speech.

So, we talked it over. We've already got five cats, and two dogs, and live in a mobile home. However, two of the cats are fosters, so they're not technically ours.

Anyway, we decided we'd take him back. I really liked Spike, he was a really cool, sweet cat.

Well, sunday morning we stopped over at their house. We were supposed to come tuesday evening, but were in the neighborhood (had gotten directions previously).

First thing I noticed when I walked up to the door was a very bad smell of animals. I'm not talking about the smell of animals, but the smell of dirty animals, litter boxes, and poo. I knocked on the door for about five minutes (I could hear a tv on inside) and finally somebody I didn't recognize opened the door. I told him who I was, and why I was there. Problem was that I had to shout, as I heard at least six or seven dogs barking.

Imagine this, the apartment is about 15ftx30ft, and that's being generous. It somehow managed to contain two bedrooms, a living room, and a bathroom. There was no kitchen, just a stove and a microwave in the living room. I couldn't see a clean surface anywhere, and there were three people sleeping strewn about in the living room area.

Spike was in the corner of the living room, and the guy brought him over to me. Immediately I noticed that he felt very greasy and just plain dirty. The girl that had called me finally stumbled half asleep out of her bedroom and wandered over to a dresser (in the living room) and brought out the bed and pink cube I had given her with Spike. The bed was atrocious, covered in what I don't even want to think of.

I was so shocked I didn't say hardly anything, just backed away slowly, clutching my dear, poor Spike with all my might. My fiance grabbed the cube and bed, and shoved them in the back of the car. I got in, holding Spike, and cried apologetically to him the whole way home.

These people seemed nice enough when I met them, and now I'm terrified to adopt out my two wonderful foster kitties. Both of them need special, patient people, and I don't know how I'm going to find the right people for them. Spike got a bath as soon as he got into the house, and we washed the bed twice. He's much cleaner, and seems happier already. He even remembered our cat Julius, and our dogs.

I just feel bad because I left him in these conditions for the past six months, I really hope I can make it up to him, he deserves much better than that.

Thanks for reading my novel, I just needed somebody to talk to.

Here's a picture of Spike if anyone's interested: http://s143.photobucket.com/albums/r...t=PHOT0072.jpg
It's so difficult to tell with people because a lot of them are very good liars and poseurs. Thank God you got Spike back while you can still help him!!! This is the dilemma that confronts every person who cares and who is faced with adopting someone out. There are some good guidelines on adopting out, though NOTHING guarantees the adoptees will be that loving, forever home we all want for ALL cats. You can visit http://www.bestfriends.org and navigate to links on adoptions, or if you can't find those, email info@bestfriends.org and I'm sure someone will be more than happy to help you. Best Friends is the premiere sanctuary in the nation and one of the best in the world, and they are very, very effective in adoptions. But I would give Spike a lot of TLC and let him have a rest and recovery period before even thinking about trying to adopt him out again -- provided, of course, that you are absolutely unable to keep him, which (keeping him) would be the best option. GOOD LUCK to sweet Spike -- who is extremely handsome, btw! I always say I've never met a cat I didn't love, and I try not to play favorites, but I have to admit to a weakness for the little black satin boys! -- and you, too.
post #10 of 21
OMG, how horrifying that he was living in those conditions...THANK GOD she called you to come back for him.

Don't blame yourself...you thought at that time they seemed like good people..and you tried to place him in a caring home. You know in your heart you did.

I just can't stand people like that...Why have animals if thats how you and they live!?
post #11 of 21
Quote:
Originally Posted by CrouchingCheese View Post
We adopted out a cat named Spike back in, oh, March or so. He was a great cat, but at the time we thought my fiance was severely allergic to him. We later found out that my fiance was in fact allergic to the fleece blankets on the bed, but by that time had already found Spike a new home.

Fast forward to this past friday. We get a call from Spike's new owners. They gave us the "we're moving and can't take Spike and you told us to call if we ever wanted to give him back" speech.

So, we talked it over. We've already got five cats, and two dogs, and live in a mobile home. However, two of the cats are fosters, so they're not technically ours.

Anyway, we decided we'd take him back. I really liked Spike, he was a really cool, sweet cat.

Well, sunday morning we stopped over at their house. We were supposed to come tuesday evening, but were in the neighborhood (had gotten directions previously).

First thing I noticed when I walked up to the door was a very bad smell of animals. I'm not talking about the smell of animals, but the smell of dirty animals, litter boxes, and poo. I knocked on the door for about five minutes (I could hear a tv on inside) and finally somebody I didn't recognize opened the door. I told him who I was, and why I was there. Problem was that I had to shout, as I heard at least six or seven dogs barking.

Imagine this, the apartment is about 15ftx30ft, and that's being generous. It somehow managed to contain two bedrooms, a living room, and a bathroom. There was no kitchen, just a stove and a microwave in the living room. I couldn't see a clean surface anywhere, and there were three people sleeping strewn about in the living room area.

Spike was in the corner of the living room, and the guy brought him over to me. Immediately I noticed that he felt very greasy and just plain dirty. The girl that had called me finally stumbled half asleep out of her bedroom and wandered over to a dresser (in the living room) and brought out the bed and pink cube I had given her with Spike. The bed was atrocious, covered in what I don't even want to think of.

I was so shocked I didn't say hardly anything, just backed away slowly, clutching my dear, poor Spike with all my might. My fiance grabbed the cube and bed, and shoved them in the back of the car. I got in, holding Spike, and cried apologetically to him the whole way home.

These people seemed nice enough when I met them, and now I'm terrified to adopt out my two wonderful foster kitties. Both of them need special, patient people, and I don't know how I'm going to find the right people for them. Spike got a bath as soon as he got into the house, and we washed the bed twice. He's much cleaner, and seems happier already. He even remembered our cat Julius, and our dogs.

I just feel bad because I left him in these conditions for the past six months, I really hope I can make it up to him, he deserves much better than that.

Thanks for reading my novel, I just needed somebody to talk to.

Here's a picture of Spike if anyone's interested: http://s143.photobucket.com/albums/r...t=PHOT0072.jpg
Hi again:

Go to http://www.deltarescue.tv and you'll also be at a great site for a great sanctuary. You can click on "Contact Us" and ask for a copy of their book, "IS THIS THE PLACE?" which I hope they are still publishing and offering -- it is a really good guide to doing everything possible to find GOOD homes. Keep us posted, okay?
post #12 of 21
Don't be too hard on yourself, people can portrait themselves one way, but really be completely different. It's hard to tell. At least you got him back and he won't be stuck living with them permanately.
post #13 of 21
Thread Starter 
Thanks for everything guys, I'll be sure to check the links and change my adoption procedure.

Spike won't be adopted out again. First of all, he's not a "highly adoptable" cat, he's all black, not too young (then again, not too old either), isn't declawed or anything (thank goodness, but some people would rather rescue a declawed cat than a clawed cat), and has trust issues.

We have two wonderful foster kitties that we're going to adopt out, once all the necessary requirements are met, lol. They're both sweet but shy, but gorgeous, and young too. They're not declawed either, but they don't scratch on anything anyway.

Thanks again guys. I went home last night and spent quite a while just cuddling with Spike, I promised him a new collar, so on payday I'm out to get it.

Oh, and as far as the other animals living with them, they said they're moving to another apartment that doesn't allow pets, so I'm hoping they'll try and find homes for all of the rest of the animals there. If not, I may call AC, but I'm not holding my breath on a response from them.

Thanks again, and thanks for the wonderful words about Spike, he sure is a trooper!
post #14 of 21
Oh my gosh, I'm so glad he's out of there! Are you going to take him to the vet? I'm worried that he might have picked up some kind of disease in that place, and it could spread through your whole kitty family...
post #15 of 21
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Originally Posted by CrouchingCheese View Post
Thanks for everything guys, I'll be sure to check the links and change my adoption procedure.

Spike won't be adopted out again. First of all, he's not a "highly adoptable" cat, he's all black, not too young (then again, not too old either), isn't declawed or anything (thank goodness, but some people would rather rescue a declawed cat than a clawed cat), and has trust issues.

We have two wonderful foster kitties that we're going to adopt out, once all the necessary requirements are met, lol. They're both sweet but shy, but gorgeous, and young too. They're not declawed either, but they don't scratch on anything anyway.

Thanks again guys. I went home last night and spent quite a while just cuddling with Spike, I promised him a new collar, so on payday I'm out to get it.

Oh, and as far as the other animals living with them, they said they're moving to another apartment that doesn't allow pets, so I'm hoping they'll try and find homes for all of the rest of the animals there. If not, I may call AC, but I'm not holding my breath on a response from them.

Thanks again, and thanks for the wonderful words about Spike, he sure is a trooper!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for opting to adopt Spike. He is a very handsome guy and he (like all other cats) deserves a loving, forever home.

btw, even though YOU don't do it, you do know that declawing is like cutting off a human's fingers at the first joint, and that it can cause infection, traction issues, severe trauma to the cat, or even worse? Anyone who would declaw should NOT EVER have a cat. Cats are made with claws for a REASON. Any caring, responsible person would buy cat scratching pads and posts, and the CAT would be top priority, not inanimate objects.
post #16 of 21
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Originally Posted by Trouts mom View Post
OMG, how horrifying that he was living in those conditions...THANK GOD she called you to come back for him.
at least she did that! so glad you were able to get him out of that hellhole!
post #17 of 21
Don't feel guilty at all! You should feel proud that you rescued him from such an icky and unloving home. I bet he's glad to be home!
post #18 of 21
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Originally Posted by laureen227 View Post
at least she did that! so glad you were able to get him out of that hellhole!
...we have to give her credit for that. Somewhere in there, she must have some caring for him!
post #19 of 21
Oh sweetie I'm sorry Spike had to live like that! But at least he is home now with you and much happier I'm sure!
post #20 of 21
Thread Starter 
Thanks so much everyone.

Yes, he'll be going to a vet, and yes, I am extremely anti-declawing, lol. It's just that many people don't understand all of the horrors that are associated with declawing and would prefer to adopt a cat already declawed. It was much easier to find a home for my crazy, needs-to-be-the-one-and-only-cat cat because he was declawed, I got a lot more replies for him than for any other cat I've tried to home.

However, he came to us declawed, like I said, I would never declaw a cat. In fact, I was just telling one of my coworkers the other day just what was involved in the declaw process and she was flabberghasted! At least now she knows

Anyway, thanks again everyone. I'm so happy to have Spike home, and to hear his familiar MEOW whenever he wants something, it makes me smile every time
post #21 of 21
I`m so glad you went and got him and that he has a forever home with you.
I feel for any animal who has to live in that kind of cruddy existence.....and just imagine how many CHILDREN do too!
I`ll never understand how anyone can live like that....but if they are going to I don`t think (IMHO) that they should have children or pets who have no choice in the matter. It`s sickening!
Linda
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