Hi all! It's Monique, I seemed to be having a problem, I won't waste
your time so I'll get right to it..... most on the site that know me, know
I'm a widow, raising my son, whom on Wednesday will be 12. My best
friend call me last night with some bad news, it seems her boy and mine
spent the night together last week, her husband was at home sleeping,
he was on the graveyard shift, before I came to pick them up. they got
out a real bow and arrow and a box and in the bedroom put the box against
the wall, and shot it some 20 times, leaving 20 holes in the wall! OMG!
This doesn't sound like either one of them! They both should know better!
So, here is my problem, at first my friends' husband didn't want to be the one to discipline her son, but after talking to her son's real father, whom thought the step-dad should be the one since it happened at his house. so after he thought about it ,my friends' husband wants to be the one to disicipline, both boys! I have always told any of my closiest friends that if they were keeping my son, to treat him as if he were one of their own! I mean't that in all aspects!
So, do I let him discipline my son? I said I would and then bring him to
their house to help fill in the holes with her son! There has been times
through the past 6 years, that my son has needed a man to discipline him!
I know you all know what I mean by that! There is just something about
a man's firm hand that can get the attention of a kid! and I am scared to
death that my discipline isn't strong enough or hard enough on him, I feel
he is at an age where he needs to know he can't just do things. and I feel my weak punishments aren't going to do the trick!
It is so hard always being the one to be the "all-in-one". I'm the mom, the dad, the friend, the disciplinarian! It's like a light switch, and I'm suppose to know when to flip each role on and off just like that!
I want you all to know I really appreicate any input, but please remember, my situation, and if you have not had any dad ( ex or not) to help back you
up, you can't even imagine what that has been like for the last six years , I have had no backup from anyone! I am considering letting him discipline him,
I just don't want this to be the start of some bad behavior from my son and maybe it will make him think about his actions! I know he wasn't the one to suggest that they do what they did, but he did participate! He definitely knows right from wrong!
Just put yourself in my shoes! Either way, he will be held accountable!
Part of me can't bare the thought of some one else disciplining Jace. But
on the other hand....... I think it might be the way, I can't decide so I want
some advice, thanks again!
Monique
carwashcats
your time so I'll get right to it..... most on the site that know me, know
I'm a widow, raising my son, whom on Wednesday will be 12. My best
friend call me last night with some bad news, it seems her boy and mine
spent the night together last week, her husband was at home sleeping,
he was on the graveyard shift, before I came to pick them up. they got
out a real bow and arrow and a box and in the bedroom put the box against
the wall, and shot it some 20 times, leaving 20 holes in the wall! OMG!
This doesn't sound like either one of them! They both should know better!
So, here is my problem, at first my friends' husband didn't want to be the one to discipline her son, but after talking to her son's real father, whom thought the step-dad should be the one since it happened at his house. so after he thought about it ,my friends' husband wants to be the one to disicipline, both boys! I have always told any of my closiest friends that if they were keeping my son, to treat him as if he were one of their own! I mean't that in all aspects!
So, do I let him discipline my son? I said I would and then bring him to
their house to help fill in the holes with her son! There has been times
through the past 6 years, that my son has needed a man to discipline him!
I know you all know what I mean by that! There is just something about
a man's firm hand that can get the attention of a kid! and I am scared to
death that my discipline isn't strong enough or hard enough on him, I feel
he is at an age where he needs to know he can't just do things. and I feel my weak punishments aren't going to do the trick!
It is so hard always being the one to be the "all-in-one". I'm the mom, the dad, the friend, the disciplinarian! It's like a light switch, and I'm suppose to know when to flip each role on and off just like that!
I want you all to know I really appreicate any input, but please remember, my situation, and if you have not had any dad ( ex or not) to help back you
up, you can't even imagine what that has been like for the last six years , I have had no backup from anyone! I am considering letting him discipline him,
Just put yourself in my shoes! Either way, he will be held accountable!
Part of me can't bare the thought of some one else disciplining Jace. But
on the other hand....... I think it might be the way, I can't decide so I want
some advice, thanks again!
Monique
carwashcats