First off, I'd like to say thanks to all you folks who take care of ferals/strays. You should all be proud of yourselves.
We decided to get a 2nd cat when we realized that our poor cat (named Cat) was pretty lonely.
We wanted a "cat oriented" cat who wouldn't compete too much for attention with Cat (since she's pretty "people oriented"). We scoured PetFinder.com for ages and my husband found Milo:
I was a little hesitant at first because Milo was described as a semi-feral who had been rescued when he was between around 6-10 weeks (we got him when he was 6-7 months). I didn't know if I had what it took to work with a feral, but his face got me and I had to take him home.
Milo was pretty shy for the first few weeks. He wouldn't let us near him, but wanted to be next to Cat all the time (she didn't necessarily feel the same way ALL the time, but there were some kitty naps next to each other on the couch).
Milo is now a lovely 8-10 month big guy. I can pick him up for a snuggle and he loves to push his head up to my hand for a head rub. My husband still has a little trouble picking him up since Milo usually scoots away, but Milo will tolerate handling from my husband.
My question is:
Milo is great with me, and ok with my husband, but frightened of everyone else. Even dinnertime won't coax him out! I'd love to get him used to other people, but what is better? Having lots of different people come over (1 or 2 at a time)? Or getting him used to more people 1 person at a time (e.g. ask my mother-in-law to come over quite frequently)?
I don't want to overwhelm him and don't know which way would be more/less overwhelming for him. I'm hoping that one day, we'll be able to go on vacation and we can have a catsitter/friends/family (or any combination of those) drop by to look after the cats, but that won't work if Milo won't come out to eat (the leaving food out option is not so good since Cat will gorge herself until she's very rotund)!
We decided to get a 2nd cat when we realized that our poor cat (named Cat) was pretty lonely.
We wanted a "cat oriented" cat who wouldn't compete too much for attention with Cat (since she's pretty "people oriented"). We scoured PetFinder.com for ages and my husband found Milo:
I was a little hesitant at first because Milo was described as a semi-feral who had been rescued when he was between around 6-10 weeks (we got him when he was 6-7 months). I didn't know if I had what it took to work with a feral, but his face got me and I had to take him home.
Milo was pretty shy for the first few weeks. He wouldn't let us near him, but wanted to be next to Cat all the time (she didn't necessarily feel the same way ALL the time, but there were some kitty naps next to each other on the couch).
Milo is now a lovely 8-10 month big guy. I can pick him up for a snuggle and he loves to push his head up to my hand for a head rub. My husband still has a little trouble picking him up since Milo usually scoots away, but Milo will tolerate handling from my husband.
My question is:
Milo is great with me, and ok with my husband, but frightened of everyone else. Even dinnertime won't coax him out! I'd love to get him used to other people, but what is better? Having lots of different people come over (1 or 2 at a time)? Or getting him used to more people 1 person at a time (e.g. ask my mother-in-law to come over quite frequently)?
I don't want to overwhelm him and don't know which way would be more/less overwhelming for him. I'm hoping that one day, we'll be able to go on vacation and we can have a catsitter/friends/family (or any combination of those) drop by to look after the cats, but that won't work if Milo won't come out to eat (the leaving food out option is not so good since Cat will gorge herself until she's very rotund)!