Ady - everybody - thanks, AGAIN, so much. Quite frankly, I'm not worried about the cats. THEY know what they're up to. I'm worried about Gary!
We had a "chat" last night. His whole theory up to now (and hasn't been a problem) is that he's the alpha cat and he'll set the behavior rules. (LOL!) If he thinks he's in charge - whatever. The cats do what they want anyway!
It's just he wanted to interfere with the whole hissing problem. Which, in my mind, isn't really a problem. They've got to work out their issues, and she just wants some space right now. She IS sick of being sniffed at, and she just wants to catch up on some sleep without fear.
The boys have been so good about it - and Munchie just pisses everybody off all the time.
When they get too close, Spooky hisses. They usually just back off. Munchie usually needs a good swat before she gets the message. It all came to a head last night when Spooky got caught unawares that Shelly was right next to her, and she hissed an spat and SWATTED - and, of course, Shelly is Gary's cat. So he yelled "BAD KITTY" - and I said - what the F*&^ are you doing? SHe's just being A CAT, and she wants her space. So he reached over to pet her to apologize, and she hissed and swatted at him! He really started to get mad, (this just isn't going to work, I can't take this, etc.) and I said listen - just give her five minutes and try again. If I'm wrong, we'll send her to the Vets until the shelter space is open.
Of course I was right, and she became a purr baby again.
So... the long and short of it is, he's stopped interfering. She hisses, they back off.
And this morning her hisses began to sound half-hearted, and she's not swatting anymore. Well - Munchie hasn't bothered her yet today, so I can't be sure but...
Poor Gary. He's not really under the illusion that he's in charge of anything - but it really "struck" him last night! (Bad pun - sorry!)
We're going to rescue Juli tomorrow. God forbid those people have a party tomorrow night or something. We're making arrangements to leave Juli at the Vets until things have settled down around here - which may be a few days or a few weeks. Thank God they have a wonderful facility and really nice people. They already know and love Juli - he's such a sweetie.
I can't push Gary over the edge, and I can't leave Juli there.
So we'll let his baby Spooky settle in, and then we'll upset the whole household again.
BTW - it is sure lookin' to me like we're going to end up as a four-cat household with one outdoor kitty as a pet, too.
Gary's fallen in love with Tuxedo (hissy - remember the one that was so disruptive we wanted to adopt him out as a barn cat? - LOL!) Tuxedo is Shelly's brother - a black and white. But Shelly is long and tall, and Tuxedo is short and round. He's so cute! He follows Gary around outside now, and Gary spends LOTS of time out in the freezing cold (not smoking!) to be with him.
I was just in such shock when we went to pick up Spooky. This time we're just telling them not to bother trying to catch Juli, just know which room he's in and we'll do it. Poor Spook was so cut up and terrorized from their attempts to grab her. We don't want a repeat of that. There's so little furniture, there's not much space for him to hide - but plenty of ways for him to hurt himself.
I AM glad to say, we're much better kitty parents, and we are definitely MUCH better kitty trappers/catchers!