I'll drop this part of the conversation after this. No I do not agree that rehoming the resident cats is a better or fair option. If Ping did not get along with Pong. Then Pong would be rehomed not Ping.Originally Posted by arie85
But that's a black & white decision, what's wrong with compromise?
You don't find it as a better solution?
This is so true. The animal world has their own rules that we don't understand. They will learn as they go, and sometimes it won't be pretty.
What would be best for the resident cats if their happy, secure home was returned to them. The trouble started when the newcomers arrived. It is the newcomers that should go if anyone does. The resident cats did not create this situation, they should not be punished for it and taking them from a home they are happy and comfortable in and expecting them to adjust to a new one is punishing them.Originally Posted by arie85
But if they don't get along maybe it's good for them, after all she's not doing it because of a bad reason, dont you think?
That's alright, but life doesn't always go by the rules of "I've been here first"
In this case there isn't a reason in the world why it can't.Originally Posted by arie85
That's alright, but life doesn't always go by the rules of "I've been here first"
well then offer up your best ideas on how to do this, cause i will give you a list of tired and failed, and u tell me what will WORK. i have asked dont breate me, but i see it still happens though posts like that.
I will try that, i'll try ANYTHING at this point. I have been trying that with Prue and tigger. i only did them cause they were causing blood to be drawn with scratches, so i thought it was safest to kennel the agressor, but i see as usual im told im worng ( not u, other posts)Originally Posted by sarahp
It's a very unfortunate situation, and I'm sorry you're going through it Liza. If you need to rehome, I understand you're probably more likely to rehome the younger kitties than the older ones.
Have you tried crating Sace and Uno rather than the other way around? Maybe you can crate them, try Prozac or something similar on Tiggy and Prue, then let just Uno out for a bit, crate him, and let just Sace out for a bit, then if things seem relatively settled, let them all out together supervised, and keep crating Sace and Uno when you're not home until they all get along (or at least can avoid each other).
Good luck
But thats what everyone has a problem with - when they fought you should have kennel sace and uno - not prue and tigger. You keep saying that they're the ones with the problem so thats why you caged them. But as far as anyone is reading - they weren't attacking the other kitties, just sace and uno. So there is no reason that the older cats have to go in the kennels.
Rehome the newcomers not the residents IF one or the other must be done. That is the only issue my posts have addressed.
im not adverse to trying that, i did that for the first 2 weeks. when i did, prue would go to the kennel and put her paw inside and swipe around and hiss and spit, i couldnt believe it!!! no matter where they were, she was after them. when they were in the bathroom, she would spend all day, trying to dig under the door to get to them. it made me think she was the one with the problem. Tigger is getting better, but they still have spats so tigger goes back in after a few hours, to let everyone calm down.
But Prue couldn't get them - they can hide in the back of the kennel and she's not going to get into the bathroom.Originally Posted by Liza24
im not adverse to trying that, i did that for the first 2 weeks. when i did, prue would go to the kennel and put her paw inside and swipe around and hiss and spit, i couldnt believe it!!! no matter where they were, she was after them. when they were in the bathroom, she would spend all day, trying to dig under the door to get to them. it made me think she was the one with the problem. Tigger is getting better, but they still have spats so tigger goes back in after a few hours, to let everyone calm down.
the other hard part for me is that i have wanted Birman cats for over 10 years, just never been able to afford them. So when the woman called me, i was OVERJOYED. Thats the other reason this is so hard
i did read the article, and i have tried it, i jsut dont have alot of room to have cats in my one bathroom forever,lol. I also asked a LONG time ago on help to introduce cats with little to no extra rooms, and did what was asked, and it really didnt help. i think i hav a devil cat ( prue),lol
That's what cats do. They hiss and spit and posture and show the newbies who is boss. I think they can still work things out, so all is not lost. If Tigger is getting better that is a very good sign. It may take Prue a little longer to accept them. Give them more time, and please...put the new ones in the cage rather than the residents. That is what is causing part of the problem.Originally Posted by Liza24
im not adverse to trying that, i did that for the first 2 weeks. when i did, prue would go to the kennel and put her paw inside and swipe around and hiss and spit, i couldnt believe it!!! no matter where they were, she was after them. when they were in the bathroom, she would spend all day, trying to dig under the door to get to them. it made me think she was the one with the problem. Tigger is getting better, but they still have spats so tigger goes back in after a few hours, to let everyone calm down.
the other hard part for me is that i have wanted Birman cats for over 10 years, just never been able to afford them. So when the woman called me, i was OVERJOYED. Thats the other reason this is so hard
I don't think so. Think of it as protecting them until Prue and Tigger have a chance to reestablish their role in the house. I'm sure it will be a break for them too, and you can spend time with them one on one and keep that bond going.
Were you worried about caging Tigger and Pure making Tigger and Prue think you were mad at them and loosing the bond you had with them?
actually i had them out when i could, and played with them and such. but now i have to go back to work, and wont have the time to, and if i jsut put sace and uno in there without as much time to do that stuff, i dont want them mad at me.
Ah ok - just curious.
