Alrighty, July 24, 2005 I moved in with my fiance (though it wasnt "official" until 8/28/05). His parents were ok with me living here, as long as I got a job in SC and we saved money for a house downpayment. I thought it was nuts, but they always are letting people stay anyway. Well, we've been saving money - we're at about $15,000 in a money market, getting interest of about $37/month right now. We also live rent-free, which is nice. The problem is, living together with someone's parents gets old QUICKLY! Especially after two years of doing so!!
Lately I've been very irritable at home. The littlest things are bothering me. His mom will do laundry and I wont be able to find some of my clothes for a week. She rarely cooks, and they keep week-old leftovers to eat after she DOES cook. I will go buy stuff to make for myself, because I always ate different things when I lived with my parents and miss having that. We also never kept many leftovers for more than 2-3 days max, so thats different too. He complains sometimes that I want to get something different than what is currently hanging out in the fridge - since that is free food to us.
I am also not much of a "spend a lot of time with family" person. Mainly because my family never did a ton of things together - my dad was always working, he owned his own shop and was there 7 days a week. We'd go on vacation for 2 weeks out of the year (but my mom would only spend a week) - that was the max family time. He ALWAYS wants to spend time doing stuff with his family - seems like a lot more lately. I dont mind that he loves his family and everything, but sometimes its too much! (ie: 4th of July, he didnt tell me his family was going to be hanging out at the beach with us even though I asked; later I asked if we could sit somewhere, the two of us, for a romantic moment under the fireworks. We sat right up next to them and his brother. No romance there!) I would never want him to dislike his family. He thinks I hate mine because I was so quick to leave at 18. I had to remind him, I moved out to be with him
Its also getting to me, living here, when his mom tries to plan our entire wedding without me. Rob & I are getting married in February 2008. She's trying to take charge and make it some big overpriced ordeal - we just want a simple, maybe 30-person wedding. She wants colors & themes and receptions at places we arent interested in. They are trying to get us to agree to the VFW for a reception hall, but I dont want it there. On top of that, it looks like we are going to be married AND living here at the same time. Possibly not leaving until after our 1 year wedding anniversary. That thought is making me crazier by the day!
I just would love for us to be out on our own finally. I know there is TONS of responsibility and bills when owning a home, but we are certainly financially stable with our incomes to do so. We dont want an apartment because its as if you are paying for something you will never own. We really would like to build a house, but we've only been WATCHING a piece of land on the market, not acting on it.
I dont know where I'm going with this really, I just need to vent out a bit! I'm stressing out over it, I really want our own place, or at least to know it is in the works. Everyone at work I mention this to cant believe I've lasted this long here. I know saving money is good, but I think its making me snippy, even towards Rob from time to time. *SIGH* Sorry for the lengthy post! I know I'm probably just crazy & shouldnt let it bug me.
Lately I've been very irritable at home. The littlest things are bothering me. His mom will do laundry and I wont be able to find some of my clothes for a week. She rarely cooks, and they keep week-old leftovers to eat after she DOES cook. I will go buy stuff to make for myself, because I always ate different things when I lived with my parents and miss having that. We also never kept many leftovers for more than 2-3 days max, so thats different too. He complains sometimes that I want to get something different than what is currently hanging out in the fridge - since that is free food to us.
I am also not much of a "spend a lot of time with family" person. Mainly because my family never did a ton of things together - my dad was always working, he owned his own shop and was there 7 days a week. We'd go on vacation for 2 weeks out of the year (but my mom would only spend a week) - that was the max family time. He ALWAYS wants to spend time doing stuff with his family - seems like a lot more lately. I dont mind that he loves his family and everything, but sometimes its too much! (ie: 4th of July, he didnt tell me his family was going to be hanging out at the beach with us even though I asked; later I asked if we could sit somewhere, the two of us, for a romantic moment under the fireworks. We sat right up next to them and his brother. No romance there!) I would never want him to dislike his family. He thinks I hate mine because I was so quick to leave at 18. I had to remind him, I moved out to be with him
Its also getting to me, living here, when his mom tries to plan our entire wedding without me. Rob & I are getting married in February 2008. She's trying to take charge and make it some big overpriced ordeal - we just want a simple, maybe 30-person wedding. She wants colors & themes and receptions at places we arent interested in. They are trying to get us to agree to the VFW for a reception hall, but I dont want it there. On top of that, it looks like we are going to be married AND living here at the same time. Possibly not leaving until after our 1 year wedding anniversary. That thought is making me crazier by the day!
I just would love for us to be out on our own finally. I know there is TONS of responsibility and bills when owning a home, but we are certainly financially stable with our incomes to do so. We dont want an apartment because its as if you are paying for something you will never own. We really would like to build a house, but we've only been WATCHING a piece of land on the market, not acting on it.
I dont know where I'm going with this really, I just need to vent out a bit! I'm stressing out over it, I really want our own place, or at least to know it is in the works. Everyone at work I mention this to cant believe I've lasted this long here. I know saving money is good, but I think its making me snippy, even towards Rob from time to time. *SIGH* Sorry for the lengthy post! I know I'm probably just crazy & shouldnt let it bug me.