Ares has died!

I am so very sorry to hear this, I remember this litter. But, this wasn't your fault, you made her sign a contract, and she was the one that disregarded it. If she continues to push you, I would threaten to sue her for breach of contract. She is the one in the wrong, not you, you dont owe her anything. RIP little one.

Oh NO ! I am so sorry and sadden about this terrible news Your mind must be racing about all he 'what ifs' but please do not blame yourself - you did all you could to pass on good advice and select a new owner You brought him into the world and gave him all the love and caring he needed. You certainly gave 100%

I cant believe this persons attitude towards you and I think she is trying to lay the blame at your door a pathetic attempt to ease her own guilt.

RIP Sweet Ares -have lots of new adventures with your new fur-family

I'm so sorry hon. We can vet people as much as we do and still get it wrong.

RIP Ares Play nice over the bridge!

I am deeply saddened by your loss and disgusted someone would go against a contract and allow that kitty outside to get killed. I am disgusted that person wants another cat when they were so irresponsible. My deepest sympathy to you and may you have the strength to ignore all the untruths that other person will say about you.

Originally Posted by celestialrags

It really could have been prevented too! I should have done a better job selecting his owner, but I didn't and I failed him. I was friends with the people and against my better judgement allowed them to take him home. So I allowed this to happen. I have been raising ragdolls for almost 5 years and this is the first to have died so I am taking it pretty hard. She is very upset with me, and is telling people not to buy kittens from me. She wants me to give her a new kitten to replace the one that died and tells people I don't honor my contract when my kittens die. Only problem is my kittens don't just die, never had any die before. If he had any genetic problem that caused his death I would have with out a doubt replaced him, but she signed a contract that states they are not allowed to go out side, so I am not replacing him or ever selling her another one. She tried to make me feel guilty that she paid "so" much money for him and I should atleast sell her one of the ones I have available now for less since she already bought one and he died. It wasn't like he just died in his sleep, he got HIT by a CAR!
The worse thing is I know he suffered

she said he had crawled to the house and they couldn't get him to the vets and he died during the night.
I guess I have to be more careful when screening adopters or not feel guilty telling some one that they are not the right home for my kitten even if they are friends of ours. Little late for Ares though, isn't it?

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Oh honey, it is so not your fault. The owner is entirely to blame. Having lost a cat like that many years ago, I will never let another one outside. I think you are right not to ever let them have another one of your precious babies.

Rest in peace Ares. Alley is just one among the many wonderful kitties at the bridge who will look over you.

Play happily, precious boy.

Oh, no. That was too short a life. RIP, Ares. They "couldn't get him to the vet's"???? Ignore this person's demands, as they are ridiculous, and the people can't be entrusted with another kitten.

I'm so sorry for your loss of dear Ares. Put faith in your instincts again and let them guide you. You are no way at fault here.

Please forgive me for not posting in this section, there are so many losses, that I feel bad about posting to one and not another, as every single loss is just as loved and missed as another. I have to make this exception this is my friend, and I need her to know that what happened to Ares (Jack) was not her fault. We all screen to the best of our ability, we ALL make mistakes, this was not your mistake though, this was the owners.
I got a phone call last year, from the mother I sold a kitten to, she said that she her son had got my emails, but couldn't bare to tell me that the son and daughter had divorced, the woman took the cat with her, and during a fight with the husband over the cat, she decided to let her anger or emotions get the best of her, and she threw him outside, a couple of minutes later, he was struck by a car, and immediately gone. This was a shock, I felt so guilty, but looking back, I could never have predicted this, this was a very well put together couple, I met them, I spoke with them at length, they understood, we didn't allow declawing, or allow our cats outdoors, (even if attended or on leash, we do not allow our cat or kittens allowed outdoors), if a person doesn't agree, I understand and they can find a kitten somewhere else.
THIS WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! Take this tradegy and tell every new adoptive family this story and educate them on reasons our cats should not be allowed out. This is what I have done is taken the passing of beautiful Malachi, and tried to help others understand why we don't want our kittens outdoors. Malachi and Ares, are being watched over by my Sheepdog, Jack, he loved our cats so much up until the end. My own grieving over the loss of Jack that happened almost a year ago, is still one that I can't seem to get past. Allow yourself to grieve, the process is shorter or longer for each person. Leslye, email me when you get a chance, when our computer crashed, I lost your email address. I want to keep telling you this isn't your fault, things like this do sometimes happen, I pray for you and I both that we don't experience this again, and that through talking about it with others, that this will prevent this with another family. I have a big questionaire, that I have made, and I ask questions in such a way that many feel comfortable telling the truth, so when I ask the question, "would you like your kitten declawed at the time of spay or neuter", they will either answer, yes, that sounds great, and of course, they don't get a kitten, or my favorite answer is no, we think the kitty should keep the claws, we don't feel declawing is necessary. The other question I ask, is how much time will you allow the kitten to go outdoors, and if the answer has any amount of time attached, I will explain many reasons why our kittens are not allowed out. I don't like turning away someone, but think about it this way, these are your babies, you raise, you place a part of your heart in raising each one, you want them to live long, healthy, loved lives, so being choosy is okay. I am not disrespectful, I try to politely explain reasons, and most of the time, I think it helps, but sometimes people feel when they pay for an animal, they should be allowed to do with the animal what they want. They can do this, just not with mine.
My tears run with you, my heart aches for you, my prayers are with you to find peace with this tradegy. Hugs to you, and the family. EMAIL ME!!

I am so sorry to hear this, I remember hearing about this litter and you naming them after TCS RB kitties, I'm sure it wasn't long after (or around the time) I joined the site myself.

Please be assured you did everything right to get this little one a good home and a good life, it must be heartbreaking for you to find out that one of your precious babies has been so tragically lost. They are being completely unreasonable in their demands of you, your health guarantee does not cover their stupidity, and anyone worth their salt will not take their comments about this incident seriously - I mean who on earth breaks a contract, doesn't get their cat to the vet, and then makes unreasonable demands on the breeder for a replacement? Anyone in their right mind will know the people who adopted from you are being unreasonable, try not to worry that this will affect your reputation as a breeder, because it is no reflection on you and any sensible person will see that. The only affect it should have on you is that if anyone takes them seriously, it will act as an 'idiot filter' for you, putting off only those who have no right having one of your babies.

Once again I am sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

RIP Ares

I just saw this..and it breaks my heart...

Rest in Peace with your name sake little fellow.