Please forgive me for not posting in this section, there are so many losses, that I feel bad about posting to one and not another, as every single loss is just as loved and missed as another. I have to make this exception this is my friend, and I need her to know that what happened to Ares (Jack) was not her fault. We all screen to the best of our ability, we ALL make mistakes, this was not your mistake though, this was the owners.
I got a phone call last year, from the mother I sold a kitten to, she said that she her son had got my emails, but couldn't bare to tell me that the son and daughter had divorced, the woman took the cat with her, and during a fight with the husband over the cat, she decided to let her anger or emotions get the best of her, and she threw him outside, a couple of minutes later, he was struck by a car, and immediately gone. This was a shock, I felt so guilty, but looking back, I could never have predicted this, this was a very well put together couple, I met them, I spoke with them at length, they understood, we didn't allow declawing, or allow our cats outdoors, (even if attended or on leash, we do not allow our cat or kittens allowed outdoors), if a person doesn't agree, I understand and they can find a kitten somewhere else.
THIS WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! Take this tradegy and tell every new adoptive family this story and educate them on reasons our cats should not be allowed out. This is what I have done is taken the passing of beautiful Malachi, and tried to help others understand why we don't want our kittens outdoors. Malachi and Ares, are being watched over by my Sheepdog, Jack, he loved our cats so much up until the end. My own grieving over the loss of Jack that happened almost a year ago, is still one that I can't seem to get past. Allow yourself to grieve, the process is shorter or longer for each person. Leslye, email me when you get a chance, when our computer crashed, I lost your email address. I want to keep telling you this isn't your fault, things like this do sometimes happen, I pray for you and I both that we don't experience this again, and that through talking about it with others, that this will prevent this with another family. I have a big questionaire, that I have made, and I ask questions in such a way that many feel comfortable telling the truth, so when I ask the question, "would you like your kitten declawed at the time of spay or neuter", they will either answer, yes, that sounds great, and of course, they don't get a kitten, or my favorite answer is no, we think the kitty should keep the claws, we don't feel declawing is necessary. The other question I ask, is how much time will you allow the kitten to go outdoors, and if the answer has any amount of time attached, I will explain many reasons why our kittens are not allowed out. I don't like turning away someone, but think about it this way, these are your babies, you raise, you place a part of your heart in raising each one, you want them to live long, healthy, loved lives, so being choosy is okay. I am not disrespectful, I try to politely explain reasons, and most of the time, I think it helps, but sometimes people feel when they pay for an animal, they should be allowed to do with the animal what they want. They can do this, just not with mine.
My tears run with you, my heart aches for you, my prayers are with you to find peace with this tradegy. Hugs to you, and the family. EMAIL ME!!