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I rang all the doorbells on my block and came with people to inspect their sheds - no sign of him. Last night I walked all around the neighborhood at least a mile through the fields around me as much as I could. I met lots of frogs and rabbits but no Marvin.

Thank you so much for all of your support. The people around me are telling me to forget it and move on, but it's now been six days. I just wish I knew one way or the other.
 

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Six days is fairly short actually, give it another week yet there is still alot of hope. Try whatever advice you can get.

Just my opinion, but if you suspect your neighbor may be doing this I dont see why he would need your number to call you, he can just walk to your house.

I wouldnt bother him again, instead ask your friendly neighbors to keep an eye on him for any suspicious activity. They may catch him doing something and then you have a witness to back you up. If he is doing anything.
 
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Thanks. I put the fliers up with my number in case somebody has seen him. I know that evil old man won't be a help but I'm praying he never got near him. I put almost 100 bright yellow and orange fliers up in the neighborhoods nearby!

Thanks so much for all the support I am getting on this board. It is really helping me through.
 

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I am rooting for you and Marvin too! Don't forget that he will be disoriented. I lost several days just walking around calling my cat thinking he would come running if he heard or smelled me. Your boy is either stuck or too frightened to move or disoriented. Get a flashlight and make sure you really see under those porches and sheds. A friend of mine checked under her own shed 3 times and only found the cat after she went back a 4th time with a flashlight and broomstick.

In the case of my kitty, he was in the next door neighbor's garage for 2 days. After getting my flier, the neighbor called and told me they had heard a critter and thought it was a raccoon, but it was probably my cat. They opened the garage door and my husband and I went over there. We called our Toby's name and he did not respond. We then went into the garage and there he was, crouched behind a box. I picked him up and he struggled to get away because he was so disoriented.

The thing is, they were opening and closing the garage for a few days but he just was too scared to come out. This also just happened to my sister. Her cat got out while she was out of town- a neighbor was looking in on her house for her and did not see the kitty run out. Her kitty ended up being in the rafters of the next door neighbor's garage too. They had to get a ladder and pry her out of the rafters. She had been there 5 days.

Anyhow, I know it is the worst thing not to have him around. But don't give up hope and think about giving the physical search another try. Use all your assertiveness again (it was hard for me to do this, in my case) and get into the neighbor's tiny spaces and garages!
 

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Originally Posted by BarbB

I lost several days just walking around calling my cat thinking he would come running if he heard or smelled me.
Yea, people-- including me!-- often walk around calling for their cat like it is a dog or a child. Searching for a lost cat is about listening and thinking like a cat, even if he can hear you he is very unlikely to answer. In my case P. was under the house meowing in distress and I happened to hear him, it wasn't a response to me.
 

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I just want to send some good vibes that you find Marvin soon!
 
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thanks guys...

last night the neighbor girl from next door rang the doorbell and said she was sure she just saw my cat across the street. There is another tuxedo cat on the block who it possibly could have been, but I still got excited. My roommate said it can't be him because if it was him, he would come when I call and he wouldn't be hanging around outside but would be INSIDE.

I also put some dog food out by the front door (I heard it has a stronger scent than cat food) and it was untouched this morning.

 

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I have to disagree with your roomate on this one.
There's no guarentee that if you call him he's going to come to you.
Keep in mind that he's probably scared and confused.
If you see that cat again trying approaching him slowly and call his name softly...don't shout it...again because he's already scared and if you call him using a loud voice that may only frighten him more.

Another thing I don't understand is why your roomate thinks it's not Marvin because the cat was spotted outside


Instead of dog food, try canned tuna, canned salmon or warm deboned chicken.
Also you may want to check to see if there are any TNR groups in your area, they may let you borrow one of their humane traps..put the tuna, salmon or chicken inside the trap.

Still keeping you and Marvin in my thoughts and Prayers.
 
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I have a feeling that he got stuck somewhere or that he was taken by somebody. In my heart I think if he were nearby and capable he would come running home immediately. We have a very strong bond.

I just had a chat with a pet communicator. As you can tell I'm desperate. I'm not quite sure what to think.

I told her that he was a black/white tuxedo cat and she guessed he is short hair, with black fur around his eyes and a white V going up his forehead, and that he is a big cat.

She first said he was on the fence in our backyard walking along it. Then she said he was locked inside a house looking out a sliding glass door and could not get out. She said he was looking out or down on a picket fence. She said he was being very well taken care of and most likely adopted by someone nearby.

She asked if he had stomach problems and I said no, and then she said maybe he was being given strange food and his stomach was gurgling because of it.

Then she said it's possible he was trapped inside an empty house and his stomach was hurting because he was hungry and eating bugs.

So the story kept changing and all are plausible possibilities.

 

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I am so sorry Marvin hasn't come home yet. I am keeping you both in my thoughts. After going though my own missing cat dilemma this week, I know what you are going through.
 

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I am soo sorry you have still not found Marvin. I know your heart must be broken for your little lost boy. I would definately try the suggestion mentioned above about doing the food in a trap to try and coax him out of where ever he may be hiding if he is able to get out. Have you tried calling animal control to see if they have found any cats in the meantime?
I am hoping that you will find Marvin soon. Six days isn't really that long and I still think you have a good chance of finding him. Please keep us posted and don't give up!
 
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I went to the animal shelter last Thursday to see if he was there. I will go again tomorrow to check. They were closed today.
 

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I'm sorry that you haven't found him yet.

We'll keep you guys in our prayers


Here's a fleet of angels (9 for a cat's nine lives
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to help him find his way home...

 

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My prayers go out too you and Marvin at this difficult time. Stay positive and I will be wishing Marvin home too you. Best of luck and I will be thinking of you 2 and praying Marvin returns home safe and sound.
 

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just a thought to keep in mind...my cat smokey went missing for 3 weeks once. he was seen about 5 miles from home and came back THIN as ever but healthy. he was neutered but every summer would take off on little trips i truly believe cause he smelled girls(neutered late in life as he came to me at about 8 yo) hes since passed(at 16 yo tho
there is always hope and cats are very clever at getting food/surving
 
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thanks so much.

I just saw a classified ad for a black and white spayed female found July 3, the day after I last saw him. Of course Marvin is a male but maybe they got confused????? Could it be? I hate getting my hopes up! can't wait till morning to call.
 

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worth a visit unless it was picked up by its owner...Fingers crossed for you!!!!
 

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The best way to find him is pounding the pavement and keeping close contact with your immediate neighbors. He is likely outside and nearby and very disoriented.

No matter how close you and he are, he is mentally in a survival state right now. It is not that he is not bonded to you, it is just that he is in such a trauma that he can only deal with the immediate situation he is in. For his little kitty mind, home may as well be a thousand miles away. That is why it is up to you to really be outside every day looking.

I feel horrible for you having to do this, I know it is so hard. When my kitty was missing, it felt useless after looking in the same places so many times and talking to all the people. But this is the most likely way to get him back.

It would be great if he was at animal control or found in the ad, but if you could not find him, there is not much chance one of the other groups has found him. It is good you are covering all the bases though.

My thoughts are with you. Hang in there and it will work out. If he is alive and reachable, you will find him.
 
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