Im not sure where to ask this.

I think its coming time for me to put my little Sneakers to sleep. I think he is miserable. He cries incessantly, he is peeing on my stuff, he plays when I put catnip out and purrs, and eats, but it his negetive behaviors that are becoming hard to deal with. I love him so much. I dont want to, but I knew the time would come.
I called the vet today and asked what I need to do, appointment wise and stuff, just so I knew. I am not taking him today or anything, but I can tell his time is coming. "A mom just knows".

My big fear is the loss my other cat is going to feel. How do I help him? They have been together since birth, I adopted them from a litter they will be 14 in September and have been together every single day.

I dont know how to help Echo through it. I dont know how he will act when he sees me take the scary cage out and suddenly Sneakers is gone.

Can anyone lend me some advice? I would really appreciate it.

Have you taken him to the vet recently to see if there was any health issues involved in this? He might have a problem that's treatable.

Best of luck with everything.

Originally Posted by CatsAreBetter

Have you taken him to the vet recently to see if there was any health issues involved in this? He might have a problem that's treatable.

Best of luck with everything.

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This just crack me up.

Nice assumption, Of course I took him to the vet for crying out loud, I dont really have the heart to just put a cat to sleep for absolutly no reason and that wasnt the question was it?

If thats the best anyone can do, I dont need the advice.

Originally Posted by echnsneak

This just crack me up.

Nice assumption, Of course I took him to the vet for crying out loud, I dont really have the heart to just put a cat to sleep for absolutly no reason and that wasnt the question was it?

If thats the best anyone can do, I dont need the advice.

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Well, I'm glad that you find it amusing. You didn't mention that you'd taken him to the vet. In fact, due to your lack of foundation for the situation, it sort of gives the impression that perhaps you don't have any real idea what you're looking at there. It's good to know that you do, of course, know exactly what the situation is, because I wouldn't have drawn that conclusion from the original post.

And given that you're new to the forums, no one, at least I don't, knows your background, nor your experience with animals. It's quite obvious that you expect people to know it though, because without providing any sort of background, they have to draw their own conclusions.

Perhaps someone with a more appropriate ability to read minds or who knows you personally will be along to assist you with the advice you seek.

Again, as I stated in my first post, best of luck, and I'm sorry that you're so upset and beside yourself that you became easily provoked by my particularly even keeled, non-threatening or insulting post.

I hope that your kitties do well and come through with flying colors.

Oh well please excuse me. I didnt know you had to be a lifetime member to get advice. Now I know and will not be back. I have read plenty of posts here where people have not written out their entire lifetime of pet owning and they still get advice. So I thought it was safe to post. Obviiously your infinite knowledge of everyone here is far beyond what I thought was required since you never posted on the original thread I posted a couple weeks ago about my cat. (not like you cant search other peoples posts.)

Thanks for your "luck", keep the judgement to yourself.

I'm not sure what CatsAreBetter said that upset you but it is very common to ask whether your pet has had a recent vet exam.

Normally you don't euthanize an animal because they cry a lot and pee on your clothes. You say yourself that he purrs, eats and plays but has negative behavior. Negative behavior doesn't warrant euthanizing your cat.

The number one reason a cat eliminates outside the box is UTI. Only a vet can rule that out. You think he is miserable well a bladder infection can be painful and that might be why he is meowing.

We do wish you and your cats the best though.

You didn't indicate a vet trip in your original post, so it was a logical question to ask--a lot of people come here without having taken the cat in. Did your vet give you a diagnosis? If you aren't looking for medical advice, maybe one of the mods can move this to a different area, like behavior or crossing the bridge? Unfortunately, no one will know except you and your cat when his time is up. When we had to put our dog to sleep due to bone cancer, we figured it would be time when he didn't seem to be enjoying life anymore and when most of his days were bad days.

As for your other cat, expect him to grieve. Different cats will show different behaviors, but my experience is that they get very needy. They want to be around their humans all the time. They may spend time looking for their missing friend. It often helps to explain to them in words what is going to happen. Tell Echo that it is Sneakers' time and that he isn't coming back. Give him extra attention and try to keep the rest of his routine (feeding times, play times, litterbox clean up) normal. If he exhibits any new behaviors that last more than a couple of weeks, don't assume that they are part of the grieving process. I've heard too many stories of pets being diagnosed with a medical problem late because the owners thought it was just the cat grieving for a friend who died weeks or months ago. Best of luck to you.

I dont know what the issues your having are... but 5 weeks ago I had my nearly 19 yr old PTS ( today was her birthday) ... She went from stage 2 to stage 4 plus kidney failure what seemed overnight... My girls are greiving , I have used some flower essences with the advice of several vets and other animal professionals advice , they are helping... I am giving extra time to them also