Originally Posted by Duchess15
Remember vets are there for guidance and knowledge, but that doesn't mean they are always correct in their judgements.
I think it is up to us as responsible pet owners to listen to what our vets tell us, then come home and research to learn as much as we can about what they said. Only after fully educating one's self on any given topic, particularly vet care or treatment plans, can we make a sound decision based on what is in the specific best interest of our pets - and we are the only ones who know them the best. Our vets see our little guys and girlies at most a couple times a year ... we see them and care for them each and every single day! Who better than those of us who actually live with these pets to make important health care decisions for them?
My dear, I am stepping into this thread a little late and I will admit to simply scanning the posts - not really reading them - so I sincerely hope you've made whatever decision you needed to make about going to the vet appointment or not and are feeling more confident now.
As for the euthanization issue, I know this sounds nebulous at best, but trust me - you ~will~ know when the time comes. There is just a defining moment or event and you just know it is time. It doesn't make it hurt any the less but you will know if you listen to your heart of hearts. You won't need anyone to tell you and that includes a vet.
Choosing to euthanize is one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do ... for me, when the day comes and I know I must do what I must do for one of my beloved cats, I choose to think of it as taking into myself all of the pain and suffering that cat is experiencing. Rather than allow them to continue suffering, I choose to end that for them and experience it within my own self in the form of grief. I consider it to be the most self-LESS thing you can do and the greatest act of love, far surpassing providing basic necessities like food, water and litter facilities - it demonstrates your abiding love and life-long commitment to your pet when you know there is nothing left to do but end the pain for them.
I sincerely hope that you can get to the bottom of your precious kitty's issues and that you can work out a suitable treatment plan so that she will be with you for many, many more years to come. But in the event that isn't possible or practical, we are here for you. As a good friend of mine says, there are two types of pet owners - those what have lost and those what will lose. And from the heart of someone who has lost, many many many times over to your precious heart, I will be here if you need me.