Looks as if we are gonna have to move

I just went to court to get child support for Ari from my ex. So Ill be getting $500 a month now from that. Dont they usually do it based on what they make. His is so high because he makes good money.

Originally Posted by Fostermomm

I just went to court to get child support for Ari from my ex. So Ill be getting $500 a month now from that. Dont they usually do it based on what they make. His is so high because he makes good money.

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Mine changes jobs so fast that they can't keep up with him.As soon as they find him, they send in a garanshe(sp) for his wages.And then he changes jobs.He's also in another state.
You don't even know the half of what he has put "us" through.

Originally Posted by crittermom

Mine changes jobs so fast that they can't keep up with him.As soon as they find him, they send in a garanshe(sp) for his wages.And then he changes jobs.He's also in another state.
You don't even know the half of what he has put "us" through.

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Sounds like real winner. I really hate guys like that. Im sorry youve had to go threw all that with him. My ex is a nice guy things just didnt work out. We were young and dumb. Never should have gotten married or pregnant. But thats the past. Hes a good guy and even offered to pay for everything Calamity needs so that Ari can have a kitty at home. Instead of only foster coming and going. Hes pretty good.

Originally Posted by crittermom

Mine changes jobs so fast that they can't keep up with him.As soon as they find him, they send in a garanshe(sp) for his wages.And then he changes jobs.He's also in another state.
You don't even know the half of what he has put "us" through.

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Wow-your ex sounds just like mine!!

He is famous for jumping jobs, once he finds out they are going to garnish his check!!

Originally Posted by catloverin_ks

When we first moved in, DH didnt have to pay child support and then his ex decided after this, she needed the $$$

He got hit with $675 a month in support as well.

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I don't understand this.

He didn't have to pay and then the ex suddenly wanted money and now he has to pay.

How does one go about not having to pay child support? Was there never an support order in place?

$675 seems like an very high amount. Was he behind in payments?

I know when my ex lost his job year and years ago he got behind and eventually they contacted him to raise the child support payments for short time until it was caught up again.


More recently I was getting a whopping $272.00 a month for both of my kids.

When my son turned 18 I contacted child support to remove him and while I was at it asked for an assesment. It took 6 long months for it to get reviewed and go through the courts and they raised it to $308.00 a month for just our daughter.

I was so happy and I was sort of angry at myself for not doing it sooner since it had not been evaluated in 11 years.

I got two support checks with the new amount and then he was fired from his job.

So now I get whatever the percentage is from his unemployment. I have not got a check yet so I don't know what that amount is and child support can't tell me since it is figured out by unemployment.

I knew one guy who got out of paying child support and it was legitimate. He and his ex have joint custody and their pays are almost equal so neither pays support and they both keep medical coverage on the child through their jobs so there is very little in the way of medical bills. Of course both parents would have to live in the same city to make that work.

Im sending vibes for ya..I hope everything with your house gets worked out..

I did the child support deal with my oldests sperm donor and that lasted for 2 yrs with him not showing up once to court hearings and then he was put in jail and just chose to stay in jail so he didnt have to pay. It got to the point where I was spending more money every month just to go to the hearings than what I would have been gotten. And lemme tell ya..Right now I could really use the money for bills but hes still sitting in jail. And even if he would get out his dad finds him under the table jobs so he doesnt end up paying.

Originally Posted by WhosaMyHercules

Im sending vibes for ya..I hope everything with your house gets worked out..

I did the child support deal with my oldests sperm donor and that lasted for 2 yrs with him not showing up once to court hearings and then he was put in jail and just chose to stay in jail so he didnt have to pay. It got to the point where I was spending more money every month just to go to the hearings than what I would have been gotten. And lemme tell ya..Right now I could really use the money for bills but hes still sitting in jail. And even if he would get out his dad finds him under the table jobs so he doesnt end up paying.

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Now, that sounds exactly like my sister's ex. What's worse, he's been known to take the kids' pocket money and belongings (supposedly for safekeeping). They, in turn, have learned not to take anything of value to their father's house.

My dad paid $1500 a month for my brother and my sister, and when my brother turned 18 it was lowered to $1000. He never had to pay for me because after the divorce I continued to live with him because he stayed in the house I grew up in and my mom bought a new one, but he had joint custody of my siblings, now just my sister.
As far as the financing, people with all kinds of credit ratings can get approved. There has to be something that you can do so you don't lose your house. And make sure you get a fixed rate this time!!

My ex, is as usless as a boil on someones butt.
I can't say that I regret marrying him....cause then I wouldn't have the older 2 kids.But, I wish I could change the past some.

I really hope things work out for you and your family It's so hard today to find a place that is reasonable with the way the economy is the rich get richer and the poor get poorer Middle Class... NO MORE.
I agree there are Mortgage Co. out there for everyone but please be careful you need to watch the rates etc also I heard there are private companies out there that will buy your mortgage they are mostly used for people with poor credit, back taxes, in foreclosure issues like that they take advantage of people who need help . I just wanted to add this.

Alot of these man seem to get away with having to pay child support and feel like they shouldn't have to pay what I can't stand is men who owe back support the states need to lock them up maybe then they will pay what is owed. My brother many years ago had a bitter divorce he has only one child was order to pay support did for while then decide not to anymore well finally the court told him he needed to pay back or jail time well before you new it out came money I know he is my brother but it was my niece who was to go without and didn't ask to be born . Well I sorry I seem to have gone on I just wanted to wish you well .