Originally Posted by fosterkitty
I understand that a lot of the people on here have fosters who are pregnant, or get in mommas and babies, but there are a lot of people who just plain don't spay/neuter, and there are more oops litters than I care to count ...
As Waxlight so accurately points out above, this is not a perfect world, people are not perfect beings, mistakes and bad choices are made and we do the best we can with what we have to work with. Budgets are tight for most people and low- and/or no-cost spay/neuter clinics are simply not available to everyone everywhere. When you make comments about the "people who just plain don't spay/neuter", you ~must~ take into account those who want to do the right thing, but circumstances, finances or other life-priorities somehow get in the way of that for them. For some, it is a matter of spaying the cat or eating for the next two weeks. It really does come down to that for some.
Speaking for myself, as a breeder, I know how challenging it can be when you have intact cats in a home environment. Even under the best of circumstances, an intact cat, male or female, will try anything and everything to gain access to the opposite sex to reproduce. As humans sharing our homes with them, sometimes, despite our best intentions, they get the best of us and "oops" litters happen. I think that most of us try to do the right thing, I believe that most people don't want a bunch of cats/kittens running around raping and pillaging the countryside at large in their homes, but as we all know as a fact of life itself, stuff we really never wanted to see happen does happen.
We try to help those who come to us in need and then go that extra step in trying to help them find a clinic or vet nearby to them by providing this link
in the hopes they can find a resource for affordable spay/neuter services in their area. But we are limited in what we can do. We can educate, we can point them in the right directions, but as my father always used to say, "you can lead a horse to water, but no matter what you do, you cannot make him ice skate".
I fully recognize that there is a large group of people with very passionate feelings on the topic of responsible cat care and I fully agree with them. However, where we differ is in the fact that they see only a black/white situation where I see a whole lot of fuzzy gray area. I would hope the people who come here with such passionate feelings will remember when they post in this Forum that not everything everytime is going to be so black/white. We all need to remember that it doesn't matter what WE think is the right thing to do, what is important is that the person who cares for the cat has to make that decision based on what the right thing to do FOR THEM may be. Again, we can educate, but we cannot change that person's unique circumstances.
Originally Posted by fosterkitty
I think that there should be less ooohing and ahhing over the cute kittens posted and more talk about the responsible thing to do, at least with the people who knowingly have unaltered cats living together. Sure, the kittens are cute, but there are cute kittens in shelters all across the country that die every day because of irresponsible people.
I see absolutely nothing wrong with the ooh'ing and ahh'ing. Face it, kittens ~are~ cute. They bring a lot of joy into whatever home they occupy. They make us laugh, they bring companionship and love into hearts, and no matter how hard we try, most of us cannot resist that - so why make it an issue here? Why can we not ooh and ahh and ask for pictures and say congrats on a successful delivery? Why does it have to be so ... sterile? Why do we have to take the human touch out of it? Why can't we be friendly and welcoming? Why must we act with admonishment and a sense of such self-righteousness? Makes no good sense to me and over time, it has proven to be the wrong way to handle things. We lose people when we act that way towards them - and as I have said a thousand times over - how can we get the message of responsible cat care across to people who won't come here to read it because we are a bunch of soapbox-preaching old harpies?
Again, you are looking at a group of people with unique situations, we do not know the particulars of those situations and frankly, it is none of our business. There may be a thousand reasons why people knowingly have unaltered cats living together and until we are privy to those reasons and can deem them either acceptable as good reasons or not, who are we to say those people are actually irresponsible??
In a perfect world, we would all promptly spay or neuter our pets at the age-appropriate times, no cats or kittens would die in shelters and our days would be nothing but sunshine and lollipops. But that's not what we have to work with. So we do the best we can.