How do I handle anger? By recycling it directly into anxiety, depression, insomnia, and heart disease!
But seriously, folks...
That line about nobody making you angry unless you allow it... there may be a grain of truth in that, under certain circumstances. When the object of your anger is someone or something that doesn't have to matter in your life, it's possible to smile wryly, walk away, and shake the dust of that encounter off your shoes.
But when I hear on the news about human monsters who like to throw tiny puppies into cages with fight-trained pitbulls for their own amusement, then anger -- RAGE
-- is the only available response.
And when elected officials who are entrusted with the welfare of millions of people choose to pander to society's intellectual lowest-common-denominator for the sake of their own reelection, rather than support programs that they know
will save countless lives and greatly ease human suffering... then rage is the only available response that won't get you arrested.
So it's pretty much only the personal
situations that we do have some control over, I think. When someone I care about is unfair, unkind, makes mistaken assumptions about me, I do have the option of trying to explain myself. And now and then, it actually works! I remember once back in '92...
When it doesn't work, though... when I've explained myself sick and exhausted all possibility of ever righting the wrong... then I just find a really good book, crawl inside, and stay there as long as I can. By the time I emerge, the rage has usually been assimilated into the general low-grade seething I've grown accustomed to over the years.
A good laugh can really help, too.