Of course we can discuss these issues and we need to. These are some of the most important issues where we can really make a difference.
All I meant by the list is to point out the multitude of issues where controversies may come up and to show how many there are. When these come up, we must make a point of being extra polite and friendly - even while expressing total disagreement. Try to condemn the act and not the person.
The reason for this is that I feel that this is the most effective way to get the message across and thus help the cats. As I look back, I can see several cases where forum members were convinced not to declaw, or to spay/neuter their cats, or simply to get them to the vet on time. Each and every time this was acheived it was because these individuals felt welcome and wanted and opened their ears and minds to what we had to say.
So, all I'm saying is, for the good of the cats, let's try and be friendlier to owners - especially to those who seem to be doing wrong to their cats. These are the very cats that need our help and the way to help them is be educating, not by alienating the owners.
By the way, I'm not implying here that that's what any of you are doing! I think 99% of the time people here get great friendly responses from you, Donna and Sandie (and I consider all of them to be expert quality by the way
). This is just to explain the previous post about the list of issues.
I hope I'm making myself clear
... I'd hate to see any of you leave us - you're making a huge contribution here and I really really appreciate it!