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post #1 of 17
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It has been almost 2 months since Trace Tumblebrutus' best friend Turvy Demeter passed away. And in that time, he has been gradually keeping more and more to himself. First it was just finding out of the way places to sleep, then it became actually hiding. And now, he gets downright upset if any of the other cats bother him. So I decided this morning to let him have his own room again for awhile, and moved him, his box, his scratchers and his toys into the small bedroom, and set up a window step shelf for him to watch the birds.

I just checked on him and gave him a brushing. He is still very happy to see me, but the other cats seem to really be on his nerves. When I walked into the room, he was out in the open, relaxing on the futon. I think my little Trace has decided to become a hermit. ...or maybe the old man on the mountain.
post #2 of 17
Oh Mike... I wish I had some good advice for you. Just send him my love.

and to you Trace!
post #3 of 17
awww poor guy, hes so sad .

(((((((( trace))))))))
post #4 of 17
Poor Trace - it sounds like he is suffering from a broken heart!
post #5 of 17
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Originally Posted by Skippymjp View Post
It has been almost 2 months since Trace Tumblebrutus' best friend Turvy Demeter passed away. And in that time, he has been gradually keeping more and more to himself. First it was just finding out of the way places to sleep, then it became actually hiding. And now, he gets downright upset if any of the other cats bother him. So I decided this morning to let him have his own room again for awhile, and moved him, his box, his scratchers and his toys into the small bedroom, and set up a window step shelf for him to watch the birds.

I just checked on him and gave him a brushing. He is still very happy to see me, but the other cats seem to really be on his nerves. When I walked into the room, he was out in the open, relaxing on the futon. I think my little Trace has decided to become a hermit. ...or maybe the old man on the mountain.
You know, I have a 10 year old domestic... she really bonded with a kitten we used to have, Tavi, who was killed on Thanksgiving. She was so close to Tavi.. and Noel wouldn't speak to or acknowledge my sister (who owned the dog that murdered my little Tavi).... well in to January. Since then, we bought her another kitten, hoping that she would come out of her shell, and it hasn't worked. She's gotten crabby (well, one should say crabbier).. and she doesn't spend as much time with the others or with the family...

I know exactly how you feel.. and I'm at as much of a loss as you are.
post #6 of 17
Oh I'm so sorry to hear Mike

There's nothing wrong with Trace keeping to himself though. If he's happy hanging out in a room on his own, and still enjoys your company, that's not necessarily a bad thing. Maybe give him time in the room for a couple of months, then let one of the other older cats in to see how he goes, then slowly reintroduce back in to the family?
post #7 of 17
Poor boy!!!!

Have you taken him to a vet to make sure it's not anything physical? It's been my experience that when a cat is sick they tend to isolate themselves.

If he's depressed they can put him on medication for that which will help too.
post #8 of 17
Mike, I would take advantage of having Kerry here with us in the CatPsyche forum... that sounds like a very good question for her, and I'm sure she'd be able to help!

http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=55
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Poor boy!!!!

Have you taken him to a vet to make sure it's not anything physical? It's been my experience that when a cat is sick they tend to isolate themselves.

If he's depressed they can put him on medication for that which will help too.
Not yet, but that is an excellent idea. Off to call Dr. Cathy now, I'm off work tomorrow
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Mike, I would take advantage of having Kerry here with us in the CatPsyche forum... that sounds like a very good question for her, and I'm sure she'd be able to help!

http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=55
Oh cool, thank you so much... I'll look into that an try to make a nice lucid post about the way he's acting. But I'm still taking him to see Doc Cathy tomorrow.

Edit for PS: Besides, he likes going to see the vet. Trace Tumblebrutus has a thing for young women that call him "Tumblebaby"
post #11 of 17
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Mike, I would take advantage of having Kerry here with us in the CatPsyche forum... that sounds like a very good question for her, and I'm sure she'd be able to help!
Anne has a sticky in the forum asking that there not be any new threads started for awhile.....I can see why, there are dozens there already
post #12 of 17
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Anne has a sticky in the forum asking that there not be any new threads started for awhile.....I can see why, there are dozens there already
oh drats, it didn't say that the first time I read that sticky.... This sounds like something she'd be able to shed some light on, and to really help you with... the poor little sweetie, he is grieving....
post #13 of 17
Poor guy, it does sound like he's grieving. At least he still likes your company.
post #14 of 17
Oh poor baby! I just wanna go give him an 'all better cuddle!'
post #15 of 17
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I think that I may actually be figuring this out on my own

When Turvy Demeter was alive, there was no questioning the social heiarchy, and, she also watched Trace's back. Now that she is gone, he seems to have lost his security blanket. Plus, Mischief had to concede the alpha cat position to Etcetera, but he by no means wants to be "bottom of the pile". So, Mischief is exerting his dominance whenever he gets a chance.

It would seem that the only time Trace wants to be alone is when Mischief is being "uppity". I think my lil' 3 legged guy just wants to avoid any clashes. He is more than willing to come out and mess around when everyone is feeling playful, but when they start that "you're not the boss of me" attitudes is when he wants to go to his room and chill.
post #16 of 17
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Originally Posted by Skippymjp View Post
I think that I may actually be figuring this out on my own

When Turvy Demeter was alive, there was no questioning the social heiarchy, and, she also watched Trace's back. Now that she is gone, he seems to have lost his security blanket. Plus, Mischief had to concede the alpha cat position to Etcetera, but he by no means wants to be "bottom of the pile". So, Mischief is exerting his dominance whenever he gets a chance.

It would seem that the only time Trace wants to be alone is when Mischief is being "uppity". I think my lil' 3 legged guy just wants to avoid any clashes. He is more than willing to come out and mess around when everyone is feeling playful, but when they start that "you're not the boss of me" attitudes is when he wants to go to his room and chill.
The hierarchy of cats is fascinating!!!! I guess there's not much you can do except make sure nobody picks on him when you're there, and make sure he has a hidey place when you're not there...
post #17 of 17
Kitty politics are always so fun. I would say as long as Trace is still eating, drinking and using the litter box he will be fine. I would want to stay out of the politics too! Just give him extra loving and quality time, and he will probably rejoin the group after everything is sorted out. And, he probably needs time to grieve too and sort things out. Give him extra lovings for me!
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