Pet Peeves of your S.O.?

Well the background is that both DH and I were married before and there was LOTS of things about the ex's that we hated. So this time around, we found out any problem areas and dealt with them before we signed the papers.

Honestly, we've been married 5 very happy years (still on our honeymoon) and we don't get upset about little things. If something is really bugging us about the other, we address it right away instead of letting it go and it gets worse

Besides there are only 2 rules in life:

1. Dont' sweat the small stuff.

2. Everything is small stuff.

Whenever either of us starts to get upset or worried about things (and its happened a few times) the other one stops it with "what are the 2 rules in life" - and then we repeat it and start giggling and things work out and the crisis is over quickly

I agree with number 1 but I cant necessarily say number 2 is always accurate. Though it would be nice if it was! Like for example I wouldnt take cheating, beating, lying, etc as small stuff but im sure you agree in the same ways... Im glad to hear there are happy couples out there!

ROFL.....reading this has made my day My hubby is very easy going and is wonderful to me, but, I have to say that my biggest complaint is that he starts doing something, then gets side-tracked and starts doing something else.....leaving the mess of the first thing he started everywhere! But, I love him; wouldn't have it any other way

His smoking and his Diet Mt. Dew addiction.

I have about 8 garbage bags of emtpy soda bottles sitting on the enclosed front porch, waiting to be returned. My car (and me) will only fit 2 at a time. Plus when he's done, he just randomly leaves them on the counter.

The smoking thing is also my fault too...when we first moved in together the smoke didn't fill up the apartment. This house does...pretty much if he smokes with the door closed, I can still smell it in the kitchen. I should have never let him smoke inside in the first place.

1. The WoW addiction... This is driving me crazy. Everything has to be scheduled around it and worse, he's getting really bad tendinitis but won't stop playing! (contemplating telling on him to his doctor tomorrow... )

2. He doesn't listen. See #1 for the main cause. I can only get an conversation out of him if he's away from the house.

Everything else that really bothered me he stopped doing - leaving unrinsed dishes in the sink after eating, inside out bunched up socks, damp towels on the bathroom carpet, muddy boots in the house, etc.

Ok, after reading a lot of the responses, I do have to say this..

I feel ashamed to admit that I am more like many of the husbands/boyfriends than my husband is.

I'm not great at picking up after myself, I'm a channel flipper to the extreme, I don't always clean after cooking, etc. This is what happens when you're "daddy's little girl" and you have two older brothers around you all the time...you're basically a woman with men's habits, lol.

Poor Brandon!!! I think all my bad habits cancel out his, so I guess he and I are on level ground.

My pet peeves for my Dh are
He can't fold laundry to save his life. (but being ocd, to me noone can fold it right except me)
He hardly ever talks to me and will talk to his friends for hours if he gets a chance. I try over and over to get a conversation going, and give up because all he does is answer my question and stop talking after that. But if someone calls, he'll be on the phone for hours talking to them about Lord only knows what.
He's a terrible procrastinator too. That makes me bonkers! I can't stand putting things off.
He's basically my opposite. I think that's why we get along so well. He's quiet, a slob, cooks , knows about computers, things like that.
I'm talkative, a clean freak, can't cook ready made meals,have no idea about computers except how to turn them on, and how to get where I want to go.

I couldn't really think of anything to add to this thread until tonight. Sometimes I think it is funny and other times it annoys me.(this goes both ways).
When I don't hear what he just said and I ask him to repeat it, he doesn't say the same thing. He changes the sentence to the point it has another meaning than his first. He tells me it's not his job to know what he said.

Apparently I only repeat a few select words and not the whole sentence.
It does make for some good jokes after the fact.

We both have pet peeves but we learned how to laugh at them. Although not necessarily when it happens.

One thing my hubby does that is a pet peeve is to say "hmm" when I ask him to do something and he doesn't want to do it. We've been married 21 years, and he's been doing it the whole time. I call him on it all the time, but he just keeps doing it.

Isn't it funny it is "pet" peeves and it refers to , hmmmmm, well it seems mostly guys/men/boys/hubbys

Originally Posted by cheylink

Isn't it funny it is "pet" peeves and it refers to , hmmmmm, well it seems mostly guys/men/boys/hubbys

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Yeah...the "pet" that is untrainable. My kitties listen AND remember better than the hubby. I love my DH to the max, but he just can't be trained!
He does love my kitties and looks out for them, AND spoils them, even if he accuses me of spoiling them! After 23 years, if all I can complain about is that he doesn't remember everything we talked about, like LAST NIGHT, it's not so bad. I wouldn't trade him for anything less than Johnny Depp!

I dont really have any pet peeves with my SO except that when he shaves me leaves the whole sink full of whiskers and doesnt rinse it out, its like COME ON you dont see that? LOL

My pet peeves in general are:

1) People who bully
2) People who cant take simple direction
3) People who discriminate against races and homosexuals
4) When people are so consumed with their looks and look FAKE.
5) People pleasers
6) Close minded people

I have more but I cant think of any right now LOL

OMG YAY IM ADULT CAT NOW! LOL I just realized.

He rolls around alot at night and i get kicked and smacked alot.

He is Always asking me to repeat myself

and hes not overly romantic..

thats about it. and I love him to death anyways

I got another one.... This is a huge one

I have a hard time hearing and my bf knows this, but he insists on mumbling so quiet that only he can hear and then when I ask him what he said he gets pissed and asks me if I am deaf! Apparently he doesn't think he mumbles but he does it to the extreme and my family tells him that. I hate it when we are at the grocery store and he is asking me something in mumbles, while walking in front of me... Hello I cant hear you when you are mumbling in a different direction... It drives me flipping crazy and is making me mad just talking about it!

Originally Posted by cheylink

Isn't it funny it is "pet" peeves and it refers to , hmmmmm, well it seems mostly guys/men/boys/hubbys

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Perhaps it's because it's mostly women here? I KNOW I have plenty of habits that probably big him but like someone else said... we usually laugh it off. It's all about picking the battles... sure, some things can be annoying but are they worth getting stressed out and upset over? For us most aren't and those that are get talked out right away.

Originally Posted by trixie23

I got another one.... This is a huge one

I have a hard time hearing and my bf knows this, but he insists on mumbling so quiet that only he can hear and then when I ask him what he said he gets pissed and asks me if I am deaf! Apparently he doesn't think he mumbles but he does it to the extreme and my family tells him that. I hate it when we are at the grocery store and he is asking me something in mumbles, while walking in front of me... Hello I cant hear you when you are mumbling in a different direction... It drives me flipping crazy and is making me mad just talking about it!

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Your list just keeps growing!

I know... Hmmmm that says alot

The worst thing he really does is wait til I am watching something to wash the dishes and then I can't hear hear the TV but seen as I made the mess I cope ok

For the most part, J is very considerate and attentive, and I'm very much in love with him. However, if the following pet peeves were to disappear entirely, he would be the perfect man:

1) When he washes the dishes (which I probably shouldn't even complain about, because he does wash the dishes ...), he leaves grime encrusted on whatever he's washing. It's not that he's doing it deliberately in the hopes that I'll take over all dish-washing duties (he does the dishes more frequently than I do and never complains about it); he just doesn't notice the food still stuck to whatever he's washing -- it's like it doesn't exist for him. This inattention to detail is why I'm the one who cleans the apartment, because I'd rather just to do it myself than re-do everything he's done. And when he's done washing the dishes, he dumps the wet dishcloth in the bottom of the sink, where it doesn't dry and starts to smell.

2) He occasionally works overtime, which drives me nuts because it means getting up at 4:30 am instead of 5:30 am (which, let's face it, is more than early enough!). That wouldn't bother me so much if he would be willing to go to bed earlier the night before to compensate for the missing sleep, but he's not. I can't fall asleep without him (unless I know he won't be there at all), so if he's staying up, so am I. It doesn't matter how often I mention this, nor does it seem to matter that I am one of those people who cannot function on less than eight full hours of sleep. I'd make him sleep on the couch if I thought it would make any difference.

3) He doesn't like change. It took me two years to convince him we needed to move out of our last home, which we shared with another couple; I can't even begin to fathom how long it's going to take before I can convince him we need to buy our own home.

4) It's been said before: whiskers in the sink. I'd shave my legs and leave that mess in the sink for him to find, but he probably wouldn't even notice. And if he did notice it, he wouldn't care. *sigh*

5) His weight loss. Okay, I'm very, very proud of how successful he's been on Weight Watchers: he's lost 95 lbs since the middle of October 2006, and that really is an accomplishment. But, okay, he's done now, he's at goal weight. He can stop losing now, please. And I'd like to catch up!

One of the "danger" things is:

Men don't want the woman they married to change and
Women want the man they married to change!