As some of you know, my parents and I share a house, and we have a total of six cats between us. Despite the earnest entreaties of vet after vet, my mother (who insists on reigning supreme in all things food, both for humans and for cats) continues to feed the cats her own way. Here's my mom's approach:
1. Dry food is free-fed 24 hours a day. At any given time, as many as five different dry foods are sitting out for the cats to graze on.
2. Canned food is dished out in individual bowls, one for each cat, but of course the cats play musical bowls every time, so the kitten eats adult food and the adults eat kitten food.
3. If a bowl of food isn't immediately devoured, Mom assumes the cats don't like it. I've watched it many times: she puts down the bowl, a cat walks over, sniffs it, walks away... and Mom picks it right back up, throws it out, and offers the cat another flavor. This continues until the cat eats something or mom runs out of new flavors to try.
4. Based on the evidence of #3 above, Mom complains that she can't find anything the cats will eat, and she keeps trying new brands and new flavors -- despite my begging her to settle on something we know is safe from contamination and stay with it.
5. I also beg Mom to leave the canned food down for an hour and let the cats have a chance at it... but if there's even a little bit left in the bowl at the end of the hour, Mom feels the cats have refused to eat it, and she won't buy it again.
6. Whenever Mom is in the kitchen (which she is a lot), the cats congregate around her, because they know she will give them a treat. Sometimes it's something from her vast collection of Frisky-this and Whiska-that (given by the handfuls), sometimes it's low-fat turkey or ham slices minced up, sometimes it's a salmon patty when she makes them for my father.
7. And just as she's always been with the humans in the family, Mom is an obsessive feeder of cats, too. She has no sense of proportion, and gives the cats far more food than they could possibly need. As a result, two of them are grossly overweight, and two more are headed that way.
Now, don't get me wrong -- I adore my mom, and I know her intentions are good. But I feel she's doing to the cats the same thing she did to me: expressing love through food. I see what that did to my health, and I don't want that for the cats.
This has been such a point of contention between us for so long that I'm too emotional about it to be certain my thinking is clear. So please... what's your opinion on these practices? What do you think needs to change here? I would be very grateful for some knowledgeable guidance that I can share with my mom.
Thank you
1. Dry food is free-fed 24 hours a day. At any given time, as many as five different dry foods are sitting out for the cats to graze on.
2. Canned food is dished out in individual bowls, one for each cat, but of course the cats play musical bowls every time, so the kitten eats adult food and the adults eat kitten food.
3. If a bowl of food isn't immediately devoured, Mom assumes the cats don't like it. I've watched it many times: she puts down the bowl, a cat walks over, sniffs it, walks away... and Mom picks it right back up, throws it out, and offers the cat another flavor. This continues until the cat eats something or mom runs out of new flavors to try.
4. Based on the evidence of #3 above, Mom complains that she can't find anything the cats will eat, and she keeps trying new brands and new flavors -- despite my begging her to settle on something we know is safe from contamination and stay with it.
5. I also beg Mom to leave the canned food down for an hour and let the cats have a chance at it... but if there's even a little bit left in the bowl at the end of the hour, Mom feels the cats have refused to eat it, and she won't buy it again.
6. Whenever Mom is in the kitchen (which she is a lot), the cats congregate around her, because they know she will give them a treat. Sometimes it's something from her vast collection of Frisky-this and Whiska-that (given by the handfuls), sometimes it's low-fat turkey or ham slices minced up, sometimes it's a salmon patty when she makes them for my father.
7. And just as she's always been with the humans in the family, Mom is an obsessive feeder of cats, too. She has no sense of proportion, and gives the cats far more food than they could possibly need. As a result, two of them are grossly overweight, and two more are headed that way.
Now, don't get me wrong -- I adore my mom, and I know her intentions are good. But I feel she's doing to the cats the same thing she did to me: expressing love through food. I see what that did to my health, and I don't want that for the cats.
This has been such a point of contention between us for so long that I'm too emotional about it to be certain my thinking is clear. So please... what's your opinion on these practices? What do you think needs to change here? I would be very grateful for some knowledgeable guidance that I can share with my mom.
Thank you