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Do you ever feel frumpy?

post #1 of 28
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I feel like I need a whole person makeover (except for personality - I like my personality). My clothes, my hair, my makeup (or lack there of). Most days I think I am fairly co-ordinated at least, but I never really like the way I look. I haven't had a haircut since October (yes 7 months). Maybe it is because I am plus sized and I need to seriously loss weight (I am working on it, especially now with my DH's issues). I think I need What Not To Wear.

Do you ever feel frumpy?
post #2 of 28
I always do...I look like crap alot of the time. I wasn't born with the womanly style instinct..I have no idea what matches or looks good on me. I think I should have been born a guy
post #3 of 28
I usually do. I don't have the shopping gene, I hate to shop, and I have no sesnse of style whatsoever. I usually have to ask DH if what I'm wearing matches, and he's been known to express surprise if it actually does . Probably if I can lose some weight I'll feel slightly less frumpy, but I'll still be a jeans and t-shirt kind of person.
post #4 of 28
(Hides behind something very quickly...) Gulp, are you talking about me? Cuz, I'm feeling 100% frumpy today.
post #5 of 28
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Originally Posted by Trouts mom View Post
I always do...I look like crap alot of the time. I wasn't born with the womanly style instinct..I have no idea what matches or looks good on me. I think I should have been born a guy
I am more the tee-shirt & jeans kinda girl.
post #6 of 28
I too need what not to wear but I am unsure that evan they can help me..lmao
post #7 of 28
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Originally Posted by Trouts mom View Post
I always do...I look like crap alot of the time. I wasn't born with the womanly style instinct..I have no idea what matches or looks good on me. I think I should have been born a guy
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Originally Posted by Misty8723 View Post
I usually do. I don't have the shopping gene, I hate to shop, and I have no sesnse of style whatsoever. I usually have to ask DH if what I'm wearing matches, and he's been known to express surprise if it actually does . Probably if I can lose some weight I'll feel slightly less frumpy, but I'll still be a jeans and t-shirt kind of person.
Lots of jeans and T-shirts girls here, huh? Sign me up. I have no fashion sense and rely upon salespeople and my extremely stylish younger sister to make me look even remotely put-together. If my outfit matches or looks good on me, someone else dressed me. (Not J, though. His sense of fashion is worse than mine!)

I'm afraid of the people on What Not to Wear, though. I think they're mean and they would probably make me cry.
post #8 of 28
I've never thought clothes have an impact on men
post #9 of 28
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Originally Posted by Trouts mom View Post
I always do...I look like crap alot of the time. I wasn't born with the womanly style instinct..I have no idea what matches or looks good on me. I think I should have been born a guy
That is exactly what I am like. I am hopeless when it comes to picking clothes - Jake (hubby) has a lot more style than I do!
post #10 of 28
I always feel frumpy, I dont wear makeup any more, I dont really like shopping but usually I find a cute outfit when I have no money And well I used to like t shirts, but I just like my tanks now, and well I am always in jeans O and winter u will usually find me in my southpole sweat pants and a big hoody, and even in cooler weather in spring and fall I will have a huge hoody on and well 98% of the time, I have to ask someone if it matches, and usually I am in the mood that says i dont care if it matches it matches, if it doesnt it doesnt and im starting a new trend
post #11 of 28
Good grief Charlie Brown, no need to hide behind jeans and t-shirts ladies. There are many overweight people who love to dress nicely and look fabulous. Try things on to see what looks and feels best for you. Hold up different colors next to your skin to see what compliments you best. Experiment and have fun!

Look around at other overweight woman that you think look great. What are they wearing? Try to duplicate that look. Wish I could go shopping with you ladies I could help you out! I love clothes and jewelry and shopping!
post #12 of 28
I pretty much just wear jeans and t-shirts. I don't really have any sense of style. I have a few friends that like to dress me up when we go out to bars but I just don't think it looks right on me.
post #13 of 28
I definatley have frumpy days.....usually I feel its going to be one of those days before I get dressed, and then no matter what I do to my hair, make up, or clothes, I still seem plain.
On another honest note, I DEFINATELY need more colour in my closet to help fight those feelings when they come!
post #14 of 28
I feel a bit frumpy right now, it's chilly in the UK today so I'm wearing a really cosy oversized zip up top with tracksuit bottoms that don't match. And big furry boot/slippers. Tres chic!
post #15 of 28
Frumpy = me! I don't mind though I wear comfy pants and tshirts. I am a large woman also. I could dress nicely (and have for jobs with the hose, skirts, jewelry, makeup) but I don't like it. I like comfort all the way.

I have seen some lovely large women at school and love the way they dress. Of course, they make it seem easy I suppose I just don't care enough to try? If it takes longer than a total of 30 minutes from bed to ready in the morning, I don't wanna do it!
post #16 of 28
My excessive plumpitude actually keeps me from wearing jeans and T-shirts -- the former are too hot and constricting, and the latter are just too unflattering on me, even around the house.

So I wear fairly nice things, within my financial limitations...mostly woven slacks or capris and long tunic-style tops, sometimes with a pretty camisole showing underneath. The clothes really aren't so bad... and I make jewelry, so I always have something nice to accent my outfits.

The problem is the body it all hangs on. Most plus-size women are at least shaped like women -- generous above and below, narrower in the middle. But my middle is my biggest part, and that makes me look downright grotesque, no matter how nicely I put myself together.

So merely "frumpy" is a good day for me.

But y'know... I dragged out this old photo of myself the other night to show to a fellow Trekker, and silly though it was for a grown woman to make herself a Starfleet uniform , it's starting to inspire me! I was already a little overweight in this picture (about 1983), so achieving this size again isn't completely out of the question for me... maybe if I stick to my diet for a good solid 18 months or so... no more frump?

post #17 of 28
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Originally Posted by Arielrain View Post
Good grief Charlie Brown, no need to hide behind jeans and t-shirts ladies. There are many overweight people who love to dress nicely and look fabulous. Try things on to see what looks and feels best for you. Hold up different colors next to your skin to see what compliments you best. Experiment and have fun!

Look around at other overweight woman that you think look great. What are they wearing? Try to duplicate that look. Wish I could go shopping with you ladies I could help you out! I love clothes and jewelry and shopping!
Personally, even if I were a size 5, I'd still be a jeans and t-shirt gal. I'd just feel a bit less frumpy in them

(It's hard to hold something up to yourself when you're buying it on the internet )
post #18 of 28
Even in jeans and T-shirts, I don't think that I look frumpy. My jeans are well-fitting and my tees and tanks are interesting. Usually, I have on heels or, at the least, nice boots.

My taste is eclectic and my wardrobe holds everything from 1880s vintage to modern-day Target and WalMart clothes. I own several designer suits (bought at outlets) and many good consignment shop pieces.

Only I would team up Kmart jeans, a Frederick's of Hollywood sequined tank, a thrift shop blazer and Italian designer high heeled pumps.
post #19 of 28


Wow! You made that costume? Very nice! You don't look "a little overweight" at all, either. Very cool! Not to sidetrack, but have you made others? Making costumes is one of my favorite things!
post #20 of 28
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Originally Posted by katl8e View Post
Even in jeans and T-shirts, I don't think that I look frumpy. My jeans are well-fitting and my tees and tanks are interesting. Usually, I have on heels or, at the least, nice boots.

My taste is eclectic and my wardrobe holds everything from 1880s vintage to modern-day Target and WalMart clothes. I own several designer suits (bought at outlets) and many good consignment shop pieces.

Only I would team up Kmart jeans, a Frederick's of Hollywood sequined tank, a thrift shop blazer and Italian designer high heeled pumps.
But you are Cindy, and thats all that needs to be said. I can't imagine you being frumpy.
post #21 of 28
I know I miss the "Grunge" days when all you needed was a flannel shirt, T-shirt, jeans and Doc Martins. It was simple, thoughtless in the morning and now no longer fashionable.

Now these 3 inch heels and tight jeans and such just make me crazy.

And yes I do have frumpy days...usually when I wear oversized sweatshirts.
post #22 of 28
I have more so over the last few years; since putting on my extra cushions! () I've always been more of a jeans type girl, but lately I'm more of a sweatpants girl! A shopping trip a few weeks ago really helped that though! Sometimes ya just gotta go make yourself up again!
post #23 of 28
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Originally Posted by SwampWitch View Post


Wow! You made that costume? Very nice! You don't look "a little overweight" at all, either. Very cool! Not to sidetrack, but have you made others? Making costumes is one of my favorite things!
Why, thank you! Yes, as a matter of fact, I have made a couple of others. One was just for Halloween, back when I was really tiny -- it was just a one-shoulder drape of palest green taffeta wrapped artistically around the midriff with silver braid, and a big pale-green-glittered crescent moon rising above my hair, which was all fluffed out and glittered. I was Astarte, the Phoenician goddess of fertility. I have no idea why. Somewhere I have a picture of it... can't find it right now.

The other costume was for a science fiction convention (as was the Starfleet uniform). Unfortunately, I have no photos of it, and it vanished during a move years ago... but it was quite something:

I found a wonderful crepey-drapey light-grey fabric that had a soft silvery shimmer to it and made a gown that was shirred down the front to mid-thigh, then parted and draped around to a long, pointed train in the back. The hem of the train was lined with silver bugle beads. The gown's straps were covered by two flaring shoulderboards that were shiny silver underneath and white "ermine" on top -- they stuck out about three inches beyond my shoulders. The white fur also wrapped around the top of the gown, so I looked a little more built than I was.

Under the gown, I wore pantyhose with a silvery sheen and very high silver heels with shiny silver anklebands that matched my wristbands. My hair was all caught up inside a huge white fur turban (I had to affix that thing at home and drive all scrunched down in the car, because it made me over six feet tall! ). I did a sort of feathery-looking eye makeup in cool blues and greens and pearly white that looked almost like a mask around my eyes... glued a large clear teardrop-shaped crystal upside down to my forehead... put on long frosty white nails and iridescent white lipstick... and because glitter gel for your skin hadn't been invented yet, I rubbed handcream along strategically selected areas and applied plain old silver craft glitter to my skin! It stuck very nicely, and it looked remarkably like some sort of alien scales. (It also hurt like the dickens when I tried to scrub it off in the shower that night. )

So I arrived at the convention hotel in this over-the-top getup, trailing glitter everywhere I walked, and when it was time for the contest, I did a queenly stroll down the runway... and won first place! It was such a thrill! And as part of the prize, I was invited to a party with all the scifi writers who had read from their work at the convention, and that was a real treat.

So... now that I've totally hijacked this thread, why don't you tell us about your costumes, SwampWitch?
post #24 of 28
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Originally Posted by Trouts mom View Post
I always do...I look like crap alot of the time. I wasn't born with the womanly style instinct..I have no idea what matches or looks good on me. I think I should have been born a guy
Me too. I used to have my ex make sure what I was wearing looked good. He was a better girl than me!
post #25 of 28
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I've never thought clothes have an impact on men
Of course they do. If your wearing jeans and a t-shirt you get alot less looks from guys than if your wearing something more revealing or low cut. I definetely have noticed that.
post #26 of 28
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Originally Posted by Trouts mom View Post
I always do...I look like crap alot of the time. I wasn't born with the womanly style instinct..I have no idea what matches or looks good on me. I think I should have been born a guy
Must be a Natalie thing, huh? I'm a boy underneath. I can never match my clothes. I feel like I let an 8 year old dress me sometimes!
post #27 of 28
not really. the only time i feel frumpy is when i'm sick (because all i want to do is stay in bed and i could care less about anything else) other than that i usually at least make a modest attempt to look decient. even jeans and a t-shirt can look cute if it's fitted right. nothing makes me feel better than a little mascarra and lip gloss. no matter how bad i feel/look- i ALWAYS feel better if i put some mascarra and lip gloss on Now i will admit to parading around the house in my house shoes all the time but that's just me (i have food problems, so they are the only things remotely comfy on my feet after i've been on them at work all day)

now my hair...that's another story! i seriously need to learn how to do something cute with it. all i do is a ponytail, wear it down (it's layered), or put it 1/2 up or in a ballet bun. I seriously stink at doing cute little updos.
post #28 of 28
I have an odd dress sense, but its classy ive been told! Ive had to redo my mothers waldrobe because i was sick of her frumpy clothes that made her look like a grandma!
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