Did I Do The Right Thing????

From my post earlier, I had written about Manny...A 6 year old cat that after losing a companion back in feb.2004 and a move started acting strange. Wobbling in the hind legs, meowing alot more than he used too. Couldn't jump (or didn't) Then we moved back to where he used to live, and he just kept getting worse. Puked almost everyday, no bile looked like whole kibbles undigested. Slept all day and ate. 16pounds.. Car came up from behind him he wouldn't notice until you were right behind him or beside him and even then he just turned sideways and croutched down. Saturday I took him in because he was hiding under bed. Turns out he had a bladder blockage. Husband and vet talked about his other symptoms and she said it sounded neurological. (heard that from two other vets) And that his ass end, could be that way because of his spine that something could be compressing on it. That he could become paralysed. The bladded blocakage could return within the day and that there was a 60% chance that it would within two years.. So my husband said that he doesn't have a good quality of life and that he truly believes he has been suffering. So we put him down. I am beside myself with guilt... I feel like i should have done more... I feel like what the vet told me was untrue.. Deep down Im sure she was right but I just keep feeling like I did the wrong thing.. I wasn't ready to let my baby go. The worst thing is that I have 2 kids under 2 that had taken alot of my time up as of 2004.. I feel guilty for that too...Anyone with opinions on this please please help...
Thanks nikki

Nikki,
It's always hard when you have to put your furrbaby to sleep. I understand about the guilt too. I had a cat for 9 almost 10 years and in a months time he went from a 15 to 20 lb cat down to 6lbs I should have taken him in sooner but I knew he would have to be put down. It was cancer. I loved him so much and to this day (almost 8 yrs later) still miss him. BUT I know ending his suffering was the best thing to do for him. I feel you did the best you could and prevented your sweet kitty from suffering. Don't beat your self up.

thanks for your reply but with Manny there was no real signs that he was in pain. No weight loss, or anything but then again he sometimes looked like he wasn't there and with his walking. I just feel like i gave up on him...

I'm sorry hun! You know, there was not much to be done. If he was no longer your Manny, then it was the right thing.

SO sorry ....

Honestly Sam (the cat I had to put down) didn't show any signs of pain...just weight loss.

Just wanted to let you know I that I know it's not an easy thing to go through.

Originally Posted by nikkim

thanks for your reply but with Manny there was no real signs that he was in pain. No weight loss, or anything but then again he sometimes looked like he wasn't there and with his walking. I just feel like i gave up on him...

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Don't feel so guilty, you did the best you could for him. Now he is not in pain or suffering. He is also with the friend that he lost. I am so sorry to hear about your loss though.

Having to put a cat down is one of the most difficult decisions to make. Usually a cat doesn't show it is in pain, or the signs are so subtle that you don't notice right away. Please understand that the cat is no longer suffering and that he knows you love him. You gave him the comfort of a warm home, food and love and I'm sure he appreciated that.

Frame a favorite photo, maybe plant something in the yard in his memory with a little statue or whatever. Wishing you peace sweetie.