Originally Posted by Epona
A lot of people here seem to think that allergies are always just minor inconveniences that can be lived with if the appropriate medication is obtained.
As someone who, as a child, saw my brother cope with the death of his best friend to a severe asthma attack, and has also seen my brother go into anaphylactic shock and nearly die as his respiratory system failed and his organs started to shut down one by one, I just want to point out that allergies can be life-threatening.
It is easy to say 'I would never....' but really unless you know the exact extent of the allergic reaction, you should not assume that it's hives and sneezing and can be lived with - because many allergies can lead to death.
I must say I wholeheartedly agree with you. My husband is affected so much by some cats that his nose and throat close off. Other cats give him watery eyes and a scratchy throat. Still others, hardly no reaction at all. (Cricket, thank goodness)
We have been lucky enough to find two cats who needed to live outside and are not "in your face" type cats. Not feral, but independent. So Cricket is occasionally allowed to come inside for a nap on the sofa, on her blanket, which is taken outside and shook throughly after she awakes and goes back out.
However, if my dh gets a reaction, it leads to big problems for him. He is not able to take anti-histamines and has a deviated septum which causes any sinus trouble at all to escalate into a bacterial infection, due to improper drainage. Then because of his allergy to penicillin, he has to take very expensive antibiotics and steriods, just to breathe. Add all this to the fact that he works outside and has hayfever...
it would be very cruel for me to expect him to live inside with a cat, just because I want one in the house.
dh is very kind with the cats, pets them and then comes inside and washes from the elbows down and changes his shirt, to keep a reaction from starting.
at one point we had a cat here that was longhaired and she was a "jump up in your lap and be in your face" kind of girl. dh couldn't even sit outside on the porch swing with me, he'd have to get up and go in the house, so he could breathe. We re-homed her with a friend who keeps her inside and doesn't have any allergies, so Miss Kitty can be all up in their face.
Now, some of you probably think I shouldn't have cats outside. Save the speeches...my cats have a wonderful life, a cedar potting shed with a litter box (located under some shade trees and with a window that opens )and heated beds for the winter, and all the food and water they can consume. They get groomed every day, loved on all the time, and are utd on all vaccines and on Frontline Plus. I love them very much, but I must say, I love my husband more. If anybody has issue with that, too bad. I have to say: I would seriously doubt someone who says they love me, but they love their pet more. I would definitely not commit to a relationship with them.
I do want to make clear that I don't think it's ever acceptable to "dispose of" or dump a pet, under any circumstances. But there are times when re-homing just cannot be helped.