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post #1 of 24
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The new generation hitting the work force is addicted to praise. Employers are going to great lengths to keep the praise going to their younger employees. Is it bad? Is it O.K.? This is from the Wall Street Journal.

http://www.careerjournal.com/myc/off...23-zaslow.html
post #2 of 24
I think we need to go back to treating children like they are children, and not some God-like creature entitled to be showered with praise all their lives.

Instead of giving them higher self-esteem - which was the original intent of all this praise - we have created a narcissistic and insecure generation that is ill-equipped for the realities of the real world.

They seem to have almost no drive to succeed - after all, they grew up hearing us tell them how wonderful they are - why should they try harder?

I say bring back the ability to discipline your child, allow for cause and effect, action and consequence. Stop molly-coddling these kids.

This upsets me.
post #3 of 24
I actually am not fond of praise .. it inflates my ego too much
post #4 of 24
I think the weird thing I'm finding is, I'm supposed to be part of this generation of praise junkies, and you know, I honestly can't think of the last time I was praised in the workforce. (And I've worked at a lot of different places and was actually useful, so it wouldn't have been random, ego-boosting praise for the sake of praise.) I'm barely thanked for what I do.

I'm not complaining. I don't need someone constantly telling me that I'm an asset to my company or that my typing is really fast or I'm really professional or whatever. I guess I'm saying that I just don't see the over-abundance of praise that this article talked about; I would say that the majority of my friends and co-workers feel the same way -- we aren't praised constantly (or at all), and we don't need to be. Are we some kind of isolated pocket of praise-less Gen Yers?

For the record, though, a little "thank you" now and again would be great. Really.
post #5 of 24
Oh...my....god....

Seriously, I read that article in complete disbelief. A "celebration assistant"? Someone actually gets PAID to heap on undeserved praise just so the employees will still work there? 25 POUNDS of confetti a day?

I would hate that. Absolutely hate it. Praise me for something I do well, something that exceeds expectations. If you praise me for just doing what I'm supposed to be doing, it will lose all meaning. But maybe that's just because I also know how to accept criticism, and know that you will almost always hear the negative before the positive.
post #6 of 24
Uh.... praise me with cash, please. I would probably smack someone for throwing confetti at me at work.
post #7 of 24
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Originally Posted by neetanddave View Post
Uh.... praise me with cash, please. I would probably smack someone for throwing confetti at me at work.
I kinda thought the same thing! The "celebration assistant" would hate me for being a total wet blanket on her job.
post #8 of 24
I would be very uncomfortable with someone's nose stuffed up my hiney all day. Please, show me how much you appreciate me by saying "thank you" when I do something well, by giving me bonuses, raises, a great benefit package, more (any!) vacation days - I get none of these things where I am now but would love to have them

This sounds like something some idiot came up with and people who had nothing better to do jumped on the bandwagon. Can you imagine having the Celebration job? Yeck!
post #9 of 24
Periodically, the corporate VP, who runs my office comes around with $5 bills. She and some of the other mucky-mucks listen to our calls and if you do a spectacular job, you get an immediate $5. THAT'S the kind of praise, I can use.

We also have weekly and monthly contests for performance goals. There are individual and team awards - usually pizzas or lunches.
post #10 of 24
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Originally Posted by neetanddave View Post
Uh.... praise me with cash, please. I would probably smack someone for throwing confetti at me at work.

lol i agree with that. Dont praise me with a longer title then i have now. praise me with green.

and as gingermoms mom said "nstead of giving them higher self-esteem "
at my office we have cleaning staff with such a HIGH self-ESTEEM, that they semm to think cleaning the bathroom is below them, and that there job
and yes, they have said, that.
post #11 of 24
I would be tempted smack the "celebration assistant", but I wouldn't as I would probably get fired for that (not to mention arrested and maybe sued).

I like compliments as much as the next person, but "thanks for showing up!" or "we are really glad you did your job today!" would really annoy me. How could you ever take your employer seriously after that?!!
post #12 of 24
Disturbing.

I'm not comfortable with receiving praise from work, not that it happens often. Yeah, it's nice to hear a "Thanks" every once in a while but as far as I'm concerned I get my "praise" every other friday when my paycheck gets deposited into my bank account.
post #13 of 24
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Originally Posted by GingersMom View Post
I think we need to go back to treating children like they are children, and not some God-like creature entitled to be showered with praise all their lives.

Instead of giving them higher self-esteem - which was the original intent of all this praise - we have created a narcissistic and insecure generation that is ill-equipped for the realities of the real world.

They seem to have almost no drive to succeed - after all, they grew up hearing us tell them how wonderful they are - why should they try harder?

I say bring back the ability to discipline your child, allow for cause and effect, action and consequence. Stop molly-coddling these kids.


Nicely put, my thoughts exactly. Kids grow up with a sense of entitlement these days that makes me want to

And the problem is, these kids will reap what they sow. They'll get to a point in their lives where they haven't worked or tried for anything, it's all been handed to them, and there'll be nobody left to keep doing it. They'll learn the meaning of earning their keep at a much later stage in life when people who have earned their keep are starting to settle in and reap the benefits of their hard work. We'll have a generation of 45-year-olds who have the means and income of 25-year-olds.

We need to start treating our children like children, our teenagers like teenagers, and instilling again a work ethic and a sense that you have to work hard to get what you want out of life, and you don't `automatically' deserve praise if you haven't darn well earned it.
post #14 of 24
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Originally Posted by Sims2fan View Post
I like compliments as much as the next person, but "thanks for showing up!" or "we are really glad you did your job today!" would really annoy me. How could you ever take your employer seriously after that?!!
Um, the reason I showed up and did my job was because that's what you PAY me to do, and if I didn't, I'd risk the job. What? Thats not how it works any more?

I'm supposed to be a praise-junkie as well, and not only would I have to smack the celebration assistant, I like Mirinae don't even see a whole lot of praise at my particular office. My employer has thanked me for being flexible or doing some extra digging from time to time, but not just for you know, being me. And she has no problem correcting mistakes I make, although she's not abusive.

Maybe it's because I was raised by a mother who is self-admittedly not capabe of sympathy, but I do see myself as one of the few people I know who can kick my own butt and pick myself and move on up after screwing up without throwing a marathon pity party (I mean, a beer or pint of Ben and Jerry's and a private rant session are one thing, but...)
post #15 of 24
I work at a job like that. They are constantly having praise sessions, our floor supprt was a cheerleader in school, so she does little cheers to inspire us. It is hilarious because she has beautiful ankle lenghth hair and is always getting tangled in it. She is a really sweet girl, but it is sort of silly. Every time we make a sale, we call out "SALE" and everybody cheers or claps, and someone brings over the basket of chocolate. After 5, every sale we make gets a ticket, and we have hourly drawings for t-shirts, coffee mugs, lunch bags, or gift cards. We also get paid pretty well, so all in all it is a pretty good job, if a little silly. It has its downsides, of course, but you couldn't beat me out the door of that place.
post #16 of 24
Oh wow...I'm in that generation too, I guess. I rarely get thanked in my job, but my boss tends to tell me how valuable I am, blah blah blah. I get it, she thinks I need to hear it. What I need to hear is that I'm doing my job, and to keep doing it.

Then again, I've been in the opposite situation in the past year. My boss's supervisor was a heinous...well, I'll leave the adjective up to you. She flat out told me I offended her (as a client, wth), by placing the following message in a meeting request (verbatim): "In this meeting, we will go over the latest versions of the nTUNE documentation, and discuss any necessary changes. I hope that in this meeting, we can set a deadline for completion as well."

She took that to mean that she failed to give a deadline and it's her fault that the assignment has not been completed. Um....ok. I guess I wasn't meeting her "woo" quota, lol.

I didn't want that woman to praise me, or anything, I just wanted her to stop targeting me! She's gone now, I'm still here, and I wasn't being paranoid. For a while I thought I WAS just like "those" people in my generation.

Now DH...oh boy. I love his parents, his mother is very heavy on the praise, "Your hair is so pretty! Beth, isn't her hair so pretty today?" DH has a hard time not being thanked, or even having acknowledgment for a job well done. I bite my tongue, because it does no good to point out that he has higher expectations for that than he should. He admits that it stems from having such high praise as a child.
post #17 of 24
I have a friend who is raising praise junkies. These kids get praised for closing the car door before we pull away from the curb?!? They get praised for walking to the front door and remembering to bring in their shoes. I mean GIVE ME A BREAK! We raised my 2 nephews with some praise, like when I'm really proud of them for doing a good job. But I don't praise them for doing what is expected, like shutting the car door! And they are more helpful and considerate than the 2 brats. (I once asked the youngest praise junkie if I could have a pretzal out of the bag of goodies I provided for a trip. He refused. My nephew would have given me the bag and told me to take what I wanted!)
post #18 of 24
I think "praise inflation" should be reserved for felines.
post #19 of 24
You should praise children for their accomplishments, not for existing. Telling a three year old "Thank you. You've done a great job of picking up your toys." is earned praise and teaches him to take pride in his work. Having a strong work ethic, IMO, is taught very early. Telling a five year old "Good job" every time he does ANYTHING does much more harm than good and leads either to a sense of entitlement or a distrust of praise since it's clearly false. Either way, not going to make it easy to adjust to the world and be a healthy adult.

I firmly believe that earned praise, together with consistent discipline and clear two way communication, can be a great thing for children. I appreciate praise (earned and not constant) as an adult, too. But a random person throwing confetti at me for a minor task??? It's insulting and would probably make me less motivated at work.
post #20 of 24
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Originally Posted by Leli View Post
I firmly believe that earned praise, together with consistent discipline and clear two way communication, can be a great thing for children. I appreciate praise (earned and not constant) as an adult, too. But a random person throwing confetti at me for a minor task??? It's insulting and would probably make me less motivated at work.
Absolutely! I don't come into work every morning because I expect someone to fling confetti at me and tell me I'm doing a good job -- I come in because I get paid! While I'd appreciate a simple "thank you" every now and again, I'm not sitting around sulking just because I didn't get a gold star just for showing up. I want to be praised for doing an outstanding job, for doing something above and beyond the call of duty -- I don't want to be praised for doing the bare minimum required for my job.
post #21 of 24
i'm 30, and i've never experienced any of this. even though supposedly, according to the article i'm in between the 2 groups. i think praising like that is not helping the kids. i also think giving everyone a trophy or 40 "students of the month" are not teaching them to work for it. and guess what kids? failure is part of life. i think these parents are depriving the kids of learning from failure. as well as learning how to cope with those feelings. what is the kid going to do when he's been told he's "the best" all of his life, then can't find a job?

there was a story on NBC's Today show about helicopter parents who are interfering with kids applying for jobs. many write their kids resumes. even calling bosses and showing up at work! i have a feeling these are the same parents that over praise kids. even more shocking, when they did the story this morning only 24% of the kids don't like it! i would have been horrified if my parents had done that. and very angry. that is such an overstepping of bounds. just unbelievable.
post #22 of 24
Personally I believe that it's ok to tell me "Great Job Tiffany!" When I have went far beyond my job description to please you!!! If I've done an exceptional job, let me know that you do notice these things. That way next time I will make sure I do a great job again, because I know your watching and your satisfied with my work. But you don't need to say it constantly... just whenever its really deserving (lol if it's ever deserving )
post #23 of 24
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Originally Posted by neetanddave View Post
Uh.... praise me with cash, please. I would probably smack someone for throwing confetti at me at work.

Amen. It's called a bonus. We like those here. Confetti throwing people would be hog tied in a closet somewhere at my DH's job so that everybody could get some work done...

Unearned, false, inflated praise isn't worth the breath it's spoken with, and instinctively, I think, everybody, young and old, know this. Good Grief.
post #24 of 24
This has got to be one of the stupidest things I have ever read.
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