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DH and I are going to split up....

post #1 of 42
Thread Starter 
I think DH and I are going to go our separate ways.....we just cant come to terms with "us" and I am tired of all the figthing.arguing,stress....

I will be on here when I can guys. I will miss you all, while I cant be on here.

If I could have a few vibes please, that would be great.

Love and hugs to all! Monica
post #2 of 42
Good Luck!
post #3 of 42
Oh Monica, I'm sorry, but you know what's best for you I am just a PM away if you need anything.
post #4 of 42
Oh i'm so sorry Monica. I don't know if i followed the story or not. I am sending you out lots of hugs and vibes, and scritches to the furbabies. Make sure you dont forget to take care of yourself while you're going through this
post #5 of 42
Are you okay? Sending many {{{vibes}}} for you! Stay strong.
post #6 of 42
Do what's best for you hon
post #7 of 42
I am so sorry to hear this Monica!
Sometimes it is best to go your separate ways and be able to get along than try to work out something that is not possible. Who knows, in time maybe you will work it out. You make sure to take care of yourself and I will be thinking of you and praying for your strength. You deserve to be happy!
I was in a situation a few years back that ended up with me leaving my fiance that I was with for 15 years and now that I look back it was the best thing that I ever could have done. I am more confident in myself and ended up meeting the man of my dreams!
Take Care, and if you need to talk, feel free to PM me.
post #8 of 42
Originally Posted by Abymummy View Post
Do what's best for you hon
hope everything works out
post #9 of 42
Good Luck with everything. Sometimes it's the best thing to do.
post #10 of 42
Often the worst part of a break-up is actually making the decision to do it. Once you have done that, then everything slots into place. I hope it all goes smoothly and that both of you are happier as a result.
post #11 of 42
I'm sorry to hear that things aren't working out. Please take care of yourself though, and do what is best for YOU. I'll be thinking of you.
post #12 of 42
Monica, I am so sorry for you.... Have you both tried counceling together? I know a few couples that this worked for... I mean, if there is any love still left, maybe it's worth giving it a try.... At the very least, it will teach you how to "fight nice" instead of going for each other's jugulars....

I wish you the best of luck, whatever the outcome...
post #13 of 42
I wish you all the best and good luck Hopefully you'll be back onlines sooner than later!
post #14 of 42
Sending you good vibes and wishing you the best of luck! Im sorry for all that you are going through... stay strong!
post #15 of 42
Oh Monica, I'm sorry to hear this Sending many prayers and vibes to you I'm only a PM away if you need to talk
post #16 of 42
oh I am sorry, but I am sure you have explored all the avenues and sometimes things just do come to a natural conclusion

Lots of positive be strong ((((((vibes))))) coming your way - and you know we are all here for you any time if you need anything
post #17 of 42
I'm sorry to hear that, Monica and I"m sure it wasn't an easy decision.
Only you know what's best for you.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and Prayers.
post #18 of 42
Monica, I am only a PM away also.I can send you my e-mail if you want it too.
Hon, this is going to be hard at first, but I think in time......you'll find out who YOU are and can grow.This will also give him time to find hisself and see if you can work on a *we*.Good luck sweetie!!!
post #19 of 42
I'm sorry to hear It does sound like you need some time apart, I hope everything works out for you
post #20 of 42
I don't really have anything insightful to say, but here are some and vibes for you.
post #21 of 42
Monica, I'm so sorry to hear this - but at the same time I have to admit I feel kind of relieved. There were so many upset posts about your relationship, and in each one things seemed to get worse. When you feared for yourself physically, my heart just about broke. That's no life for you or your kids (I know you have a son, but I'm not sure if you have other children).

I'm so sorry you two couldn't work things out. But if he's unwilling to encourage your independence, if he wants to control you, I KNOW that possession feels like love sometimes - but it makes life so unhappy most of the time.

The most important thing is that you take care of yourself, your son (and other children if you have them!), and your furr babies if you can.

We'll miss you loads, but you take care of yourself. Like the others have said, usually the hardest part is making the decision. In my life, the hardest part about deciding to leave my first hubby was admitting to myself how wrong I'd been about everything. About my feelings, about him, about our relationship. Once I came to grips with that, put aside the shame and moved on, my life improved 1000%. Bear in mind I left him twice before I left him for good. So many of us know just how difficult this is!

Sometimes things just aren't working out, and effort on each person's part reunites a happy couple. Other times the relationship just wasn't meant to be. Only you can decide that. Just remember that life is too short and too precious to continue in an abusive relationship - whether that abuse is emotional or physical or both. And remember that you deserve to be happy, and that is the best role model any child could have.

Sending you HUGE positive vibes that everything works out for you!


.... and more (((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))!!!!!!!!
post #22 of 42
Awe hunny, I am so sorry, but u know whats best for u I am sending u many good vibes and wish u the best of luck I too am just a pm away
post #23 of 42
We're all here for you and you'll be missed when you can't be on too. You are so strong, I know everything will work out and soon you'll be happier.

post #24 of 42
Sending good vibes!

As someone who's "been there and done that" I can tell you with certainty that some happy day in the future you are going to look back on this difficult time, and realize it's the best thing that could have happend.

Sending hugs, too!
post #25 of 42
I'm sorry to hear you're splitting! This is your chance at a new beginning....I know you can do this.
post #26 of 42
Thread Starter 
Thank you all so so much!! You just dont know how much you all mean to me!!! I am having a very difficult time right now......

I will keep everyone updated!!

Love to everyone!!
post #27 of 42
Monica, I'm so sorry your going through such a rough time right now. You know how to get ahold of me, I'm around a lot, even when it says I'm not.

You and your family are in my prayers.
post #28 of 42
Am sorry to hear things didn't work out. But if you can't come to terms and nothing is working and you've tried everything, then parting ways has to occur. I wish the best for both of you.

Are their any 2-legged children involved?

DH and I's thoughts are you divorce if one (or both) spouse has cheated on the other, or there is abuse involved. Most anything else should be worked out.
post #29 of 42
Oh Monica, you have many friends here that you can always count on. Many calm <<vibes>> are coming your way.
post #30 of 42
I'm so sorry to hear this Monica. Lots of vibes heading your way.
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