We've currently got 3 clawed kitties who get regular manicures and pedicures 2 of them I got as 8 week old kittens, and I started right away and there's absolutely no problems. The 3rd (Tinsel), well, that's another story! We found her in a parking lot right before Christmas, and took her home. She was probably around 3-4 months old, and wild as a lion I started by simply clipping one or 2 nails at a time and made sure that we finished on my terms, not hers. I know you mentioned Luxor always having to have the 'last word', but the trick is to stop and give them a pat/treat/good job right before you think they're going to become unmanagable. So if you only get to sit him on your lap and push out a claw before he goes balistic, that's all you do. Don't let it get to the point where HE ends it. That'll just re-inforce the 'if I don't want her to do something I just need to become a psycho-kitty and she'll stop' thinking. I'd just start slow, and don't worry about getting it all done in one sitting, or one afternoon, or one day. The more often you work with him, the more comfortable he'll become. So maybe consider working with his paws/claws 5-10 times a day (with clippers, without clippers, don't even have to try clipping) and then you can decrease the number of times you work with him as he learns to behave (and that he's not going to get his way anyway!) and maybe, just maybe, he'll come around and realize you're not killing him
thanks, i chose poor words, i always end it on my terms, but in my brain i'm just so frustrated. I'd love to just be able to TOUCH his paw. he's never let me touch them with out freaking out since October (when we got him). i think maybe if he starts to get them clipped regularly he'll get fed up with having to go 'out' all the time and just let me do them.