A friend of mine lies. I'm doubting if she's a friend these days.
She'll lie about insignificant details and major events. She lied to about her brother's death; she gave me daily (false) updates that continued for two weeks after he died. O.K., so maybe that was grief... But I've started realizing there's a 50-50 chance anything she says is true. Something as dumb as "I love your daughter's backpack - where did you get it?" will be answered with an untruthful answer. Why? She knows me; she knows I'm not going to run out and buy one!
She is very competitive (and her daughter has huge envy/competition issues with other girls). My friend didn't come across as competitive for a while; our family noticed it first with her daughter's problem. (Her daughter is the class bully, but only to other girls. Her mom told me she gets along with boys because they are different enough that she doesn't compare herself to them.)
Why do people lie? First of all, you get found out, and secondly, you are then considered untrustworthy and what good is that. She wasn't this bad (to me) when I first knew her, but she has been lying more and more over the years. She's alienated a lot of people, and now she seems to be doing it to me.
Anybody have an objective view?
She'll lie about insignificant details and major events. She lied to about her brother's death; she gave me daily (false) updates that continued for two weeks after he died. O.K., so maybe that was grief... But I've started realizing there's a 50-50 chance anything she says is true. Something as dumb as "I love your daughter's backpack - where did you get it?" will be answered with an untruthful answer. Why? She knows me; she knows I'm not going to run out and buy one!
She is very competitive (and her daughter has huge envy/competition issues with other girls). My friend didn't come across as competitive for a while; our family noticed it first with her daughter's problem. (Her daughter is the class bully, but only to other girls. Her mom told me she gets along with boys because they are different enough that she doesn't compare herself to them.)
Why do people lie? First of all, you get found out, and secondly, you are then considered untrustworthy and what good is that. She wasn't this bad (to me) when I first knew her, but she has been lying more and more over the years. She's alienated a lot of people, and now she seems to be doing it to me.
Anybody have an objective view?