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post #1 of 18
Thread Starter 
my bf was kicked out of his house and has been sleeping in the cars of friends for a week now.

and when he went to his house to get his stuff with our friend, everything was fine and dandy til he got the cats... in which case his father threw the first punch and the cats were grabbed and put back into the house.

his mother said the only way for us to get the cats was for me to come and get them. they grabbed me and drove me up there...

but his dad just came outside, threatened to call the police and then stated that "if the 3000 some-odd dollars was not given to him for expenses to his car by july the cats would be his... and have to stay in that house....

we went to the police, and they said that it was a civil matter and that they could not do anything about it...

they sent us to the local spca, and they took down the report but told us the same thing, even after we had told them that the father told us that the only way they were leaving was if he killed them and burried them in the yard, which was stated a few months earlier.

luckily i have all of their records, and we brought up that munchkin gets bacterial infections from eatting foods from supermarkets and needed to be on a special diet....

they photocopied the proof, and will be sending an officer to the house before 200 pm 2morrow to cath my bfs mom before his dad comes home... there is a possibility that they may give them up w/o the dad being there...

if not its off to court... yay!! im 17 and have all the time in the world for court.!!

but its for the best if nothing happens...

i have a friend who can take them for the meantime if they come back, and my bf's job has offered to give him loans for a car and apartment given his current situation :]

they can live with him then... and i can visit all the time!!!

yay! no control from parents, and no annoying buttheads!!!

yayayayayayayay!

need lots of good luck wishes :] im almost there!!!
post #2 of 18
Sorry to read your family situation is this way. I dont know the background to your situation, but I hope it can be resolved amicably in time
post #3 of 18
Good luck
post #4 of 18
i dont know the story but i just wanted to wish you good luck and i hope you get your cats back safely asap
post #5 of 18
Here is the thread that I followed to get up to date. I think it is the beginning: http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/sho...d.php?t=119197
post #6 of 18
Thread Starter 
yes that is the start this has been going on for about a year and a half now... it started out good, and then all of a sudden they felt that they had say over the cats...

not only do i have legal reasons to back me up, but i am too attached to them... last january i was banned from the house because i wanted to get them out and move on out of that situation...

besides... my bf is 19 and has a life and i respect that... i love my cats more than anything... i bring them up and they are always on my mind. i always update vaccines and make sure they are healthy and that everything is getting taken care of and that i pay all of the expenses... even toys food litter litter pan everything... on top of a bacterial infection and intestinal inflamation of my Munchkin's intestinal tract caused by an allergic reaction in supermarket sold foods. in my opinion, those foods are poorly made anyway... but it was a good 500 + with an employee discount. im not complaining about the expenses at all. i want my cat to be happy and healthy...

so now back to the topic at hand...

with the information provided by myself and others, today was another hectic day...

we went to the spca in town yesterday afternoon (me, my bf and a friend who not only witnessed what happened on tuesday, but also that the cats lives were threatened had they had to leave the house)...

they said it was a civil matter and then we brought up the bacterial infection and that munchie can die from this treatment...

they called earlier today to confirm what food they can eat... ((my other cat is tai and he gets very obese with the provided friskies cat food his parents provide... not to mention, they feed iams wet cat food to their cats-- animal testing at its finest = makes me sick to think about my cats eating it))...

they had my boss confirm this, and they said they would go up to them and attempt to them this is the food they must eat...

they did and my bf's parents called back to ask the doctor what they can buy. he told them it was restricted calorie feline canned food, and that they were dragging on a pointless subject, and that they belonged to me so it was stupid not to give them back. he too sees how much i love them...

after that his mother and sister came into my job and i put out food i had bought a few days ago 4 cans of euk res. cal. cans, and a package of 6 frontline, 3 for each cat...

she then proceeded to take out a 20 dollar bill and try to pay for it... but it was already paid for...

she then brought up that if my bf hadn't "neglected" to take care of them this wouldn't have happened. I looked at her right in the face and told her that that had nothing to do with the situation at hand... being that my bf never neglected them, but was really never home, was one of the reasons why i wanted them out... it isn't his parents responsibility yet they say it is...

i handed her a bag of premium edge healthy weight that i also feed them...

they only get fed once a day due to their weight issues being that when his parents let them loose in the house, they eat the friskies... they don't know any better... they are just cats... but his parents do. i have been providing their food since they were kittens...

anyway, that was that and she left...

i don't like her... or the rest of them... and i am really friendly, and give everyone a chance but they blew it... bigtime...

then she had her daughter call my job (( idk know why but they have the daughters call )) to ask how much of each style food they get. I TOLD THIS TO THEM A ZILLION TIMES AND THEY HAVE SEEN ME GIVE IT TO THEM...!
! yet they still forget... tell me thats not neglect...

i took a message and am going to have to call back in a while...

i need ideas on how to get my babies back...

i do have a key to their house, but how do i get them out reasonably and w/o harm or instances where police get involved...??

help me out!!!
post #7 of 18
Well... you had these kitties out of the house at one point, and the family blackmailed you (via your boyfriend) into giving them back... and that probably eliminated any legal claim you had.

I think it's time to save yourself and move on. If I were you, I would just get the heck away from this family, including the boyfriend, and find some rational, intelligent, nonviolent people to associate with. When life is this much of a soap opera, something is very wrong.

It would be great if you could get the kitties back... but it's not likely to happen, and these people are using the kitties to manipulate you. You're only 17 -- please don't let this whacko family turn you into one of them.
post #8 of 18
This sounds silly but what about PETA. Is there a chapter of them in your town? Maybe they could mediate?
Sorry about everything though, it sounds pretty stressfull for all involved.
Take care & good luck to you and your kitties.
post #9 of 18
peta believes that having pets is immoral and kills them at a faster rate than the county pound, so it's probably best not to get them involved, and they probably wouldn't anyway.

I don't know why your cats are being held hostage by your boyfriend's dad, but it's probably better that he's moving out and getting away from them.

Honestly sweetie, I have to say that once he does that you have a much better chance of getting your cats back. He is using them to try to control a situation which he doesn't much have any other control over, which is probably what he's upset about, and once the dust settles he might give them back willingly. Refuse to play his game.
post #10 of 18
What? For real? That is just crazy!
post #11 of 18
Yes, they don't believe in domesticated animals for any reason.

Back to the OP - I'd say that this is between your bf and his family, and as much as you love these cats, it is time to get yourself out of the middle of this, especially as you are 17 years old. And be seriously reconsidering this relationship- no matter what anyone says, you do "marry" the family along with the spouse- whether you have anything to do with them or not...
post #12 of 18
-- She put it much more nicely than I did. I just have no patience with petty, nasty people, so I got a little overheated...
post #13 of 18
Thread Starter 
yes i understand.

today his mother called to tell me that she put all of his stuff out on the side of the road for him to pick up.

then continued to tell me that she tried talking to his fatehr again ((which is bs by the way)) about me going over there to visit them. i wouldn't dream of going anywhere near them. she proceeded to tell me that she was upset that things had to come to this and that she is taking care of them. adn that Tai's eye started acting up so she gave him medication ((idk what kind of medication... which worries me alot... )) and that the cats are happy and healthy there, even though they totally disregard upper respertories and didn't even notice Munchkin wasn't eatting or deficating due to her bacterial infection back in august/september...

i just don't understand...

thats the only place they know... which is bs as well... they run a muck at my job and love to play with the other hospital cat... they are never totally caged...

and i am always there seeing as i am the kennel manager...

my bf is going to try to get them back tomorrow, as i have a spare key...

what are the risks to doing this? would it just be a civil matter as well, and if they do take us to court who will win... they have nothing on us, or the cats, and it isn't breaking and entering...

help me... i know im 17 but these cats are my life and im not about to sit around and let them do this to me...

im too stubborn, but i'll never be like them... i assure u that...
post #14 of 18
1. At least one cat is legally yours, and you have the documents to prove it. Can't you get that one out? Go to the cops and prove that at least one cats legally belongs to you.

2. I really think that do to situation and also yours and your bf's age (No offense here, but the other side has more experience, it happens w/getting old) it would be great if you found an intermedate party, mediator. Legal advice. I know here in OR there is free legal counsel for people who don't have money, depending on circumstances. I just wish you wouldn't have to go at this alone and your bf doesn't seem very helpfull really. Also your parents/relatives can't help?

3. She invited you to go alone. Maybe it would be ok to bite the bullet, be very calm, don't rise to any bait. Just you and her. See if you can't come to some sort of understaning.

As for going in w/you boyfriend's key. Hope it works if that is what you chose to do. Keep us posted.
post #15 of 18
It seems like you could be a young person w/a good future and a lot of promise. It seems that it would suit you and help you if you had a larger support/group, friend base?
I don't know what your history is, but it looks like it just you and your boyfried.
Maybe it would be a good idea to add more friends, good friends, to the mix. (I find it hard myself. I am not really an outgoing individual. & like my brothers points out you can usually make about six truly good close friends over time and the others are just buddies an aquaintances. But it is worth it when you are down to have some back up)
& check out all of your resources. If there is a supervisor that you really trust ask her about the local animal advocacy groups. Keep records, make a list of all possible things that could assist you.
And on the bright side, from what you write. the parents might not be perfect but at least they are not abusive to the cats. You and your boyfriend maybe. Sorry. Hang in there, things change.
post #16 of 18
Thread Starter 
yeah. i hope they do. this is just so emotionally draining because i love my cats... and the parents didn't want me around when they got "too attached" so they banned me from the house.

also it seemed pretty odd to me that the day after i saw her, his mom called and said tai's eye was acting up "again"... his eye only acts up in the begining and end of hot hot weather or humidity...

they totally nailed my boyfriend when he brought Munchie to the Vet when she had her bacterial infection... they would have let her sit and ide. she was puking all over and not going to the bathroom...

they neglect colds... and they get worse and spread through the other 3 cats...

i am worried about their safety... they probably are not eating right at all... :[

i know they aren't being taken care of... im not insinuating,... they are decieving people with little friends and stay in the house all the time...

hermits... and they have 2 dogs that never get vaccinated, and their 3 cats are not vaccinated as well...

this is just so disappointing...

this can mean life and death from my cats and i am not over exagerating...

my mother called the house about why and how this all happened with my bf getting kicked out ((she doesn't know about the cats and i don't want her involved as this is not involving her, and she has 3 kids and is a single parent...))

she would just tell me to leave them there... but its not fair to me...

and not fair to them...

and even though people may think he didn't do anything... yeah he is pretty rough and has a thick head but he did try all that he could to get them out of there... he knows his parents... they don't care about anything...

please post back... i need vibes and happy thoughts... :'{
post #17 of 18
Thread Starter 
I got my cats back!!!

my bf talked to his mother on the phone yesterday afternoon, and told her what was going to happen amongst all the other things they talked about such as how eachother was doing, and how everyone felt etc.

he told her that if they didn't give the cats back that i was not willing to back down from a court date... which i wouldn't...

she told him that if he had a key and that he really wanted to that his dad would be really upset but that he could do it if he didn't get caught...

we got the food, box, bowls everything...

i hope... im on a computer at school... actually math class...

i am really excited... i love my babies... it was his father all along being this way... possessive freak... i see cats go home everyday... i have learned nto to grow attached to anything unless it was mine... even a lizard my best friend gave me i wasn't attached to...

i cared about it though...

anyway... thank you for all your support...

caution warnings and such greatly appreciated... i will not give them back i have no reason to do so...

thank you everyone from TCS!!!
post #18 of 18
It's great to hear such wonderful news. I am really happy for you and happy this was resolved.
congrats!
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