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post #1 of 11
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What's your opinion about this? I don't think that a sperm donor should have to pay child support....I thought there was some kind of agreement to that effect If this starts a new precedent do you think that the number of men making "donations" will decrease because of it? Which is going to make it that much more difficult for woman to conceive who have no other option for whatever reasons.

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,271116,00.html
post #2 of 11
It's ridiculous and outrageous. Good Lord. Do blood donors have to ensure that they pay for the living costs of the people they have helped keep alive?
post #3 of 11
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Originally Posted by KitEKats4Eva! View Post
It's ridiculous and outrageous. Good Lord. Do blood donors have to ensure that they pay for the living costs of the people they have helped keep alive?
lol oh wow, we are 2 for 2,

well that it, i dont care how much the local sperm bank begs, saying they low on genuis sperm i am not giving them any.

better off and get hmm some stuff back from the bank
post #4 of 11
Well, I think if the donor is unknow - a stranger then support should not even be considered. As this man was a family friend and willing chose to help this specific couple, I can see why the court ruled as it did. I don't agree with it, but I understand the viewpoint.
post #5 of 11
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Originally Posted by theimp98 View Post
well that it, i dont care how much the local sperm bank begs, saying they low on genuis sperm i am not giving them any.
HAH! Very good

Even if it was a family friend who agreed to help with his sperm, I'm pretty sure he wouldn't have agreed that he'd support the result financially. I mean honestly, he was doing them a favour. A couple. It's not like it was a single mum he got up the duff during a bit of one-night nooky in the back seat of his car.

And some friends to turn around and do that to him after he enabled them to have a child. Talk about biting the hand that feeds you.

I feel sorry for him. He should sue them back for breach of contract!
post #6 of 11
I thought sperm donation was suppose to be anonymous? That the privacy of the individual donating was kept a secret.

IMO, that's like adoption parents making the birth parents pay for child support. Utterly ridiculous.

If you want to get preggos and receive child support, meet drunken guy at the bar. Have sex, make sure to get his number and address. Then don't tell him until its too late for an abortion.

If this does become a trend then yes there will be less sperm donations.
post #7 of 11
Since the donor is now dead, this whole issue may be moot, except for the Social Security survivors' benefits and possible claims on his estate. Some states don't allow "illegitimate" (legally speaking) children to claim part of an estate, unless specific provision was made, in a will.

There's also the issue of proving paternity. It appears that this was DIY insemination.
post #8 of 11
Ok, here's what I read:

1. Man helps out friends, a lesbian couple, have children.
2. Man is known as biological father to said children.
3. Couple broke up, one is paying support.
4. In an effort to lower one party's payments, she goes after the father, who is known to be the father.

Now, in this situation, the children knew he was their biological father, he had an active role in their lives, and was essentially a third parent. That changes things up a bit.

If the man donated his sperm, but did not participate in the lives of the children, they never met him, etc. I'd disagree with the court.

As far as your typical anonymous donations, they should be protected from such action. And they should have no claim on any children that resulted from their donations.

There's a part in Legally Blonde (the first one) where they were discussing a man who wanted to get in touch with one of the children that was a result of his donation. Paraphrased, the quote was, "Why this specific child? If he's not seeking to get in touch with ALL the children that came about as a result of his donation(s), then he really has no claim on this one."

And I know how horrible it sounds to quote a movie about a "dumb blonde," but that part came to mind when I heard about this.
post #9 of 11
The person responsible for paying child support should be that woman's partner that she had at the time the children were conceived and subsequently born.

If she had been married to a man, that man would have been responsible for the children. Just because the couple were of the same sex, shouldn't let the ex spouse/partner off the hook for child support because they weren't the donor of the sperm.

She and her same sex partner wanted to have children together in order to solidify their relationship. Those 2 people should be responsible for raising that child, even if they break up....just like any straight couple. The fact that both were women, shouldn't even be a factor here.
post #10 of 11
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
The person responsible for paying child support should be that woman's partner that she had at the time the children were conceived and subsequently born.

If she had been married to a man, that man would have been responsible for the children. Just because the couple were of the same sex, shouldn't let the ex spouse/partner off the hook for child support because they weren't the donor of the sperm.

She and her same sex partner wanted to have children together in order to solidify their relationship. Those 2 people should be responsible for raising that child, even if they break up....just like any straight couple. The fact that both were women, shouldn't even be a factor here.
But the partner IS paying child support. This is a situation where there would be TWO people paying support. Personally, I think it's all about the money and not about the children at all. *shakes head*
post #11 of 11
I think what people are missing in this (which I had to go back and really read the article) was the fact that this was a KNOWN sperm doner to the women - they did not go to a sperm bank and get sperm to concieve.

In this case, YES he (or his estate) would be obligated to pay child support to the kids - its like if a woman wanted a baby, went to a friend and ask that he be a doner for her - he would be obligated to child support.

Since the guy is now dead, then the children would be entitled to support from the estate.
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