Originally Posted by Rockcat
I don't think its so much that they wanted 17 kids. I think its more that they don't believe in birth control for religious reasons. They appear to love their children and provide for them (whether or not they get outside help). I'm not going to fault them for following their own religious convictions. So many threads on this board have people complaining about being judged and discriminated against because of their religious beliefs or lack therof. Why are we judging the Duggars for the same thing?
I understand that this is IMO - and thats all we are doing is expressing our opinions. I just think that some of us are making unfair assumptions.
I don't believe
that I'm judging them for their religious beliefs (at least, I hope that's not the impression people are getting from my posts), but just that I feel uncomfortable on a personal level with the idea of spending so much time pregnant and with having so many children. I don't think it's a good idea (for the mother's health), but I guess so long as they're all happy, healthy and functional, they're doing better than my family.
I don't personally have a problem with them receiving charitable donations or gifts. They're a fascinating case, and given that they're Christians and I would imagine a large number of their supporters practice Christian beliefs, it only makes sense that they be given gifts -- charity being a Christian ideal, after all (not just
a Christian ideal, of course!). If they were receiving hand-outs from the government because they were unable to support their family, then I'd have a problem with it, the same as I do with the girls I know
who have only had children because they get money from the federal government (money which isn't nearly enough, btw, but must seem like a lot to them). But they're not receiving hand-outs, so far as I know, and they appear to be self-supporting, so from that perspective I have no problem with it.
I guess it's a lot like somebody else mentioned: if you have 17 cats, people start thinking you're a hoarder (or, at the least, you're a crazy cat person, regardless of whether or not you're capable of providing for each and every cat) ... Why is it different if you have 17 children? (Aside from the fact that children are not cats, although I'm sure a number of us would beg to differ and that cats can indeed be children! Oh ... another difference is that it's difficult to get your cats to clean up after themselves and babysit the other cats; we've tried that one with Spike and Oz, and it's just not working out.) There is nothing inherently wrong with having either 17 cats or 17 children, provided you can love and support them all; it's just not a choice that everyone is comfortable with. I think even if the Duggars were adopting 17 children, people would still feel like they were going overboard (Angelina Jolie, anyone?).