Originally Posted by jenniferd
What about the future of these children? What are these children going to do with their lives? It certainly does not appear to me Duggars are thinking about sending the girls off to college.
I haven't really watched the show, I saw part of a couple. Their house is really large and nice, the kids aren't crammed in there, which is better than some families crammed into tiny apartments. Their family seemed to be enjoying each other, which was nice to see. They looked well taken care of overall. They seemed more loving and supporting than some families that I have known that only had one kid, the parents way more involved/interested in their children's lives. They took vacations on one show I watched; some people with only one kid never even take that one on vacations or get interested in their lives. I don't always believe family size automatically dedicates parenting ability in and of itself.
About them paying for college… many of the students in college today pay/paid their own way if they choose/chose to go, get out a loan, and so forth, this is considered typical. Their parents didn't give them a free ride. I do hope their female children (and male for that matter) get a chance to go to college and have the ambition and desire to complete their chosen degree programs. I hope the females are given as much access as the males to college.
Personally, I hope they all attend and complete college.
I did see in one show that the kids said what they wanted to be when they grew up, I remember noting they said doctors, a vet, teachers, some wanted to go into evangelism, I can’t really remember.
I do think they are sexist, but I think that mainstream American culture is too, as is their religion. There are other things I don’t agree with, like naming them all “J” names, that gets on my nerves, and there are other things I really don’t agree with. But I can’t say they "bad" or irresponsible for having/wanting a large family. It is not something I am at all interested in doing personally nor can I even imagine that path for my life.
Also, I know some couples can't handle one child for a couple hours to baby-sit; some people have many children and don’t do a good job at all, some families have one child and do a horrible job as a parent, some people can handle several just fine and do really well raising their children. Some couples that are perfectly healthy choose to remain childless for their lives, and get bad comments from society as well for their decision not to have children. I say everyone is different, every situation is different, every family dynamic is different.
I think many more factors are at play for the people who hate them, perhaps they don't think anyone anywhere should have more than "x" number of biological children on purpose (or some might even say by accident), or if they want children they should only adopt children, etc. Makes me wonder if they showed this same family raising that many adopted kids how much they would probably be praised. Life is very subjective. And standards change, large families were considered okay many years ago, now they are very controversial, and so forth.