Originally Posted by sarahp
OMG you're kidding?!?!?! It's MOTHERS DAY!!!! It's the day you're supposed to make your mum feel special and thank her for everything you've done!
When I was living back home, I always made mum breakfast in bed, got the papers for her, and cook dinner and do any housework that needed doing. We'd generally go to one of my grandma's and have a lunch with them with all the family who could make it. It's a little harder now I'm overseas, but I still try to do something special (this year it's the trip over to see us), and will always call her and have a good, long chat.
Betsy, maybe you can suggest to her that you put Mothers Day back a week so she can have her birthday, and you can still celebrate Mothers Day with her NEXT Sunday? Maybe that will make her get off her butt and do something nice?
No, I'm not kidding.
Bottom line is this: Somehow I seem to have raised a VERY selfish child. Considering the fact that I am a volunteer fundraiser and do things for others all the time, I have no clue how she got to be so selfish and manipulative. I guess that's just her intrinsic makeup.
Granted, as she gets older she gets wiser, but at this point even getting a card from her doesn't erase the years of feeling unappreciated. But I guess that's MY problem, not hers.
Here's an example: When she was 17, she had a job at a supermarket. At this point, she was no longer living with me. (Long story.)
She called me after 8 p.m. on a snowy night to tell me that she had a Valentine's Day present for me, but that I had to come and pick her up at work so she could give it to me so it wouldn't die. (I think it was a plant.)
I was exhausted, already in PJs in bed at the time, and told her thank you for the gift, but that I just couldn't go out again at this point, that I was already in bed and getting ready to go to sleep.
To which she responded by getting really angry at me, saying, "So how am I supposed to get to my friend's house now?! I don't have enough money for a cab because I bought your stupid present!"
Can you guess how I responded to that?
Yup, selfish and manipulative. I love her to death, but I don't encourage that kind of behavior in the least. Don't try to make me feel guilty because you bought me something because you want me to give you a ride somewhere with no advance notice - that just doesn't cut it in my world.
So what I would like is for her to just acknowledge me on Mother's Day with no ulterior motive, and without the need for me to ASK for it.
Is that to much to (not) ask?