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post #151 of 169
In my case, I was reluctant to use one (mainly because I knew what some people think about it, and secondly because I thought it looked like I was "walking my kid" LOL), but I realized that she would be happier with one, rather than having to walk around with her little hand stuck up in the air, or sit on her butt in the stroller the entire shopping trip. So I sucked it up and got her one at the Dollar Tree. And it was great for her. And she has just recently gotten the hang of sticking with me when we go somewhere- before, getting lost didn't really seem to bother her- there was just some much stuff to explore! My sister never needed one with her daughter- she stuck like glue, apparently .

Being a good parent is about knowing your child, what they need, how they learn, and what's best for them, not whether or not you use a leash in a department store, or even whether or not you like or dislike the idea, IMHO. It's really a small thing- if you want or need one for your child, great. If you don't need one and don't want one-great.

I'm gonna go out on a limb here, and say that I doubt anyone has told their mom/dad "Why did you put me on a leash and harness when I was 2? I was mortified!" nor have they asked "Why didn't you put me on a leash like so and so so I could roam a bit? I was so bored!"
post #152 of 169
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Originally Posted by catsallover View Post
I'm gonna go out on a limb here, and say that I doubt anyone has told their mom/dad "Why did you put me on a leash and harness when I was 2? I was mortified!" nor have they asked "Why didn't you put me on a leash like so and so so I could roam a bit? I was so bored!"
Actually, since the leash I was put on was tied to one side of a revolving clothesline, I could only go in a 6 foot circle around the pole!

I could have used a longer leash!
post #153 of 169
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Being a good parent is about knowing your child, what they need, how they learn, and what's best for them, not whether or not you use a leash in a department store, or even whether or not you like or dislike the idea, IMHO. It's really a small thing- if you want or need one for your child, great. If you don't need one and don't want one-great.
This quote sums up my feelings exactly!
post #154 of 169
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Originally Posted by GingersMom View Post
Actually, since the leash I was put on was tied to one side of a revolving clothesline, I could only go in a 6 foot circle around the pole!

I could have used a longer leash!
that is a good one
post #155 of 169
i would do it. Rather know where the kid is and not have to worry about the kid running off
post #156 of 169
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I was just at Walmart and they now have the monkey, the dog, a horse and a unicorn one!
post #157 of 169
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I'm gonna go out on a limb here, and say that I doubt anyone has told their mom/dad "Why did you put me on a leash and harness when I was 2? I was mortified!" nor have they asked "Why didn't you put me on a leash like so and so so I could roam a bit? I was so bored!"
I have heard people ask the first question, never the second.
post #158 of 169
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Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom View Post
I have heard people ask the first question, never the second.
Since most of us would hardly remember being 2 yrs. old, it's unlikely they would "remember" being "mortified". Sounds more like something they heard some older folks say and are just repeating it. Somewhat like the power of suggestion sometimes associated with abuse victims by well-meaning social workers.
post #159 of 169
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So, does that mean that those of us that see a leash as a demeaning thing for children are bad parents?
I'm sorry, but I have a WHOLE field of Drs. about 20 of them to be exact, one a Thoracic Surgeon, that says that I AM A WONDERFUL parent and that I care for my children.
You know I saw this post a personal attack and for a time being, I was very upset about what you had to say Katie.But, I know in my heart that I am the BEST parent possible and no one can make me feel less of a parent by their rude comments.
Why would you even think that? If I said that someone was a great "meomy" because they fed their cat Merrick cat food, does that mean that if you choose another brand you are a bad "meomy?"
post #160 of 169
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Originally Posted by GingersMom View Post
Actually, since the leash I was put on was tied to one side of a revolving clothesline, I could only go in a 6 foot circle around the pole!

I could have used a longer leash!
In the In the early 60's, my ex-husband's mom tied him to a tree when she was busy doing things around the house. When he had to pee, he would wiggle out of it, go inside and use the toilet, go back outside, and tie himself back up!
post #161 of 169
I think it is a great idea. It is so easy for an active young child to run off in a crowd and so many terrible things can happen when they do.
post #162 of 169
I seen something today that reinforced my feelings that they are not a bad idea.

There was a woman with a youngish boy, who was tutting loudly and making comments about another woman who had her two children on those backpack leashes (completely ironic and made me think of all of you

Anyway, the children on 'leashes' are standing there calming counting the car colours in the parking lot and the child of the woman who was tutting is running around and climbing on stuff. He fell off a bench and rolled across the floor dangerously close to the platform edge. Had he rolled a few more inches or had a train been coming through at that time, he could have been seriously hurt.

The woman with the leashed children turned around to the other and asked her if she would like to borrow a leash now seen as her children behave well without one but she likes the added safety of knowing nothing like that will happen to her children
post #163 of 169
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Originally Posted by Rockcat View Post
In the In the early 60's, my ex-husband's mom tied him to a tree when she was busy doing things around the house. When he had to pee, he would wiggle out of it, go inside and use the toilet, go back outside, and tie himself back up!
my mom did something similar to my sister around that same time. we were at the lake, & DS insisted, in her 2 year old way, upon entering the lake... which wouldn't have been cause for concern, except she didn't stop walking once the water was over her head! after running after her several times, my mom tied a rope to her, & started just pulling her back to where the water was shallower.
mom told us about this after we were grown - neither of us remember it. but all 3 of us think it's funny!
post #164 of 169
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Originally Posted by icklemiss21 View Post
I seen something today that reinforced my feelings that they are not a bad idea.

There was a woman with a youngish boy, who was tutting loudly and making comments about another woman who had her two children on those backpack leashes (completely ironic and made me think of all of you

Anyway, the children on 'leashes' are standing there calming counting the car colours in the parking lot and the child of the woman who was tutting is running around and climbing on stuff. He fell off a bench and rolled across the floor dangerously close to the platform edge. Had he rolled a few more inches or had a train been coming through at that time, he could have been seriously hurt.

The woman with the leashed children turned around to the other and asked her if she would like to borrow a leash now seen as her children behave well without one but she likes the added safety of knowing nothing like that will happen to her children
There's no point in arguing with strangers about childrearing like the woman you saw. They're not going to change regardless of what they're doing or how bad it is. Somebody about punched my dad when I was a baby over how he was holding me (face-down in his palm like a football). I would never say anything about people like that but sounds like someone lives in a glass house. Also I would have had to leave because I'd be laughing so hard about this (except the part where the child could have hurt himself)

I don't think a leash makes a child more or less well-behaved. It just feels wrong in the pit of my stomach. But so do kiddie pageants and plenty of children emerge from those just fine too.
post #165 of 169
I don't use leashes, I use cages.....






(he did this on his own....I promise)
post #166 of 169
Ok a little levity to this post.

Anyone ever see the Saturday Night Live skit with Mike Meyers and Nicole Kidman? Mike says "where's your harness"
Kidman "I don't need One"

Meyers" Mom mom thinks they're very necessary...I'm a hyper hypo"

That skit is hilarious. Then my nephew was born and between the ages of 2 and 3 was the very definition of ADHD. Just like a bolting dog is dangerous, a bolting two year old child is even worst. He never had a harness, but boy many a near miss would have been avoided if he had. It took multiple people to keep an eye on him in open situations.

Over the Christmas holidays I was in the phx airport. It was very busy with all the storms closing airports and people being stuck. A couple came by with a darling tow headed blue-eyed bundle of energy. they had a stroller piled high with luggage, they looked completely frazzled. But that little boy with his bright blue leash was a happy boy. He was not out of control or obnoixious in any way, but I can tell you that leash brought some peace of mind to those parents. I just gave the mom a smile and a wink. It was all I could do to keep from saying. "where's your Harness? My mom thinks they are very necessary."

It all comes down to judge not, until you have walked a mile in their shoes. If a person doesn't like it or agree with it, they don't have to do it. That doesn't mean they have the right to keep others from utilizing all means available to keep their children safe.
post #167 of 169
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Originally Posted by Dixie_Darlin View Post
I don't use leashes, I use cages.....






(he did this on his own....I promise)
That's a riot!!! ---and adorable! Your son looks like he loves that kitty!
post #168 of 169
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Originally Posted by Dixie_Darlin View Post
I don't use leashes, I use cages.....
I used to do that, too. My grandmother had a large crate for her dog and I would crawl into it all the time.
post #169 of 169
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Originally Posted by Rockcat View Post
That's a riot!!! ---and adorable! Your son looks like he loves that kitty!
That was Bo when he was tiny
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Originally Posted by Mirinae View Post
I used to do that, too. My grandmother had a large crate for her dog and I would crawl into it all the time.
the crate is long gone now that Jake's housetrained.. thank god because Deacon would crawl in there and sleep
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