Well work gave me

Two options get fired or go to third shift due to alot of things but they said had this fiftteen minute call light thing not happened they were going to call me into the office. That hateful old woman went and told them that I hide alot and I don't do my share of the work. And I told them everything that has been going on like me going to answer a light and her getting mad and saying it can wait and how when I go to answer a light and come back out her and the med tech act like I just skipped out to Mexico. And they said well I don't really know what the problem is but we really need more help on thirds and you don't have kids and aren't married and given the situation of Ruby complaining about you then we think its for the best. But they have tried to get me to go to thirds before so this isn't the first time. And this was all because of this old woman. The meeting had nothing to do with this call light issue but that I was in trouble for that because she was on my assignment even though I was in the shower and so my options were third shift or to be fired. And for now I need my job.
But I can't believe that woman said I hide. My charge nurse was very upset about it she was like well if you can't find Gail look in a residents room or a shower room and there she is. And one of my old coworkers that I worked with for years said the same thing. And even the kitchen staff spoke up for me and said they know I work better with the residents than most of the staff there and that the see me always working. And they still are sending me to thirds. Now the third shift girls are tickled they love working with me and can't wait to have me on their shift. But this just makes me mad. And like yesterday a resident asked to sit up for a while and I was fine with it. Well Ruby got mad and was being very short with her and that was with her son in there. All of the family members like me. And my dad was actually mad about it he said them always taking her side without even listening to me simply because she's a little old lady was discrimination. I am just a bit on the ill side about this.

But I am trying to be positive maybe it will work out for the best and atleast I get more money for working thirds.

Hey maybe you even will like 3rds better. She will be asleep!

How horrible. Good luck adjusting to the new shift...can you look for another job?

It's very improper (if not illegal) to make staffing decisions based on your marital/parental status.

How tied are you to this job? I say this because 1) they did the above which is not cool, plus 2) being on third shift can effect your ability to look for a new job.

Doesn't sound like a great situation, but then again I've stayed sometimes in not so great jobs knowing I was in between the rock and hard place.

Sorry they're doing this to you

That really stinks. Sounds like retail "customer is always right". I hope third shift works out for you.

I am so sorry. I think I'd look for another job during off time as it doesn't sound like they are the best to work for...but fwiw, I sure loved the folks I worked with when I worked night shift, and I spent years working either 11 pm to 7 am or 7 pm to 7 am. Lotsa neat nuts working those hours

That sucks!

Why didn't they just change your assignment and give that room to someone else?

I think you got a rotten deal

I agree with everyone else...especially JellyBella. It's illegal for them to consider you for a shift based on your marital status. For them to even mention it is so horribly wrong that a lawyer would be doing the chicken dance as celebration.

Halfway through I thought that they were trying to nail the old lady since she complains so much about you (Isolate her away from you to see if she was the 'problem') but afte ryour last paragraph - no.

I would look for a new job. They treat you like crap there.

I didn't even think about the legality of it. But yes, bringing your personal life and marital status and lack of kids into it was totally inappropriate.

If I were you I would contact your Union or the Human Rights Department in your State and tell them what happened and what was said to you by the administrator about their reasoning for putting you on the night shift. What they have done is totally illegal and if they try to fire you because you complained about them that is also illegal.

I understand needing a job, but no one needs a job so badly that they should allow themselves to be abused and trampled on.

There is always another job out there, and by letting them know that you will do anything they want in order to keep your job gives them excess power over you. You may need the job, but they also need you too, and finding good and reliable help is pretty hard to come by these days. So many people are too lazy and are looking to do the minimum amount of work that they can for maximum pay. They would be foolish to try and push you out the door.

I recommend contacting a lawyer and talking to them in a free 15 minute consult and find out what your options are.

Although I will add that taking the 3rd shift was a good idea (as opposed to being fired). Now you can leave on your own terms.

I'm guessing that you work at a nursing home? There are MANY better places to work! Nursing homes are notorious for pulling crap like that! I belong to another forum for nursing and nursing related people and there are many, many complaints about the working conditions at those homes! Is the old woman a co worker or a resident? I had a bit of a hard time following your post .

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I didn't even think about the legality of it. But yes, bringing your personal life and marital status and lack of kids into it was totally inappropriate.

If I were you I would contact your Union or the Human Rights Department in your State and tell them what happened and what was said to you by the administrator about their reasoning for putting you on the night shift. What they have done is totally illegal and if they try to fire you because you complained about them that is also illegal.

I understand needing a job, but no one needs a job so badly that they should allow themselves to be abused and trampled on.

There is always another job out there, and by letting them know that you will do anything they want in order to keep your job gives them excess power over you. You may need the job, but they also need you too, and finding good and reliable help is pretty hard to come by these days. So many people are too lazy and are looking to do the minimum amount of work that they can for maximum pay. They would be foolish to try and push you out the door.

I recommend contacting a lawyer and talking to them in a free 15 minute consult and find out what your options are.

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I agree completly! If you just let them continute to walk all over you it is only going to get worse. I would be looking for another job honey- i understand you needing this one- but you do not need the stress and abuse they're putting you through. If those people you talked about were willing to stick up for you to your superiors- ask them kindly on the sly to write a letter of recommendation for you or use them as references so you can find a new job.

Sorry, but.. it is none of their dam* business whether you are married, single, have kids, are black, hispanic, lesbian, bi-sexual, indian, ... etc.

I advice you to absolutely put a STOP to that!! If you decide to stay, you need to lay it on the line for them.

I feel strongly about this because the same thing happened to me, it wasn't terrible, but .. everyone knew I liked working the opening shift, starting at 4AM and most everyone else that worked there couldn't get up that early if they tried! Well, my boss's daughter decided she liked the shift, so I kept getting bumped to weird shifts because I "didn't have kids", "only live right down the road", "this is the only job you have"... etc.

Don't put up with it like I did (because I needed the money). You teach people how to treat you, don't let them do that to you. You ARE worth more than that.. don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise.

how i agree that they should not be doing this based on personal life. you can look into if you want.

however nights all not all that bad. In fact i am sure you know, i have worked nights for years and love it. plus if you want it does make it more easy to find a new job.

but i am really sorry it went bad for you today,

That is ridiculous! I hate it when employers think if you don't have kids you don't have a life! I was stuck on a Graveyard shift for 4 years because of that attitude...I got sick and tired of it and finally left. I am glad I did because now have a wonderful job with a great schedule. I only stayed so long at the other job because I needed the money and I had to find something better... Don't put up with that kind of bullying! You have to do what is right for you...Good Luck whatever you decide to do!

In my opinion you shouldnt work at a job like that, they are STUPID, nobuddy needs a job like this THAT badly, it will take courage to do this but you should leave.

Well I have to stay with this job temporarily but as soon as I find a better job on day shift then I am going. I am going to stick it out long enough to get something better. And the old woman that said I was slacking was the coworker. And boy did I surprise her today. I told her I was going to thirds and she said what for. And I said well someone said I was hiding a bunch and not pulling my weight around here and the incident with the 15 minute call light. But when I mentioned the someone saying I was hiding a bunch she looked like a deer caught in headlights. I loved it. I don't think she thought I would find out and I know it was her because I haven't worked with anyone else. Her and a med tech because every time I turn around the med tech acts like I just skipped out. I can be in a room taking care of a resident and the both of them act like I am hiding under a bed somewhere so I know who it was.

Thats okay like Bruce said working nights makes it easier to find a new job. And besides the people on nights are really nice. So I can deal with it just until I find a better job.

That really sucks for you. The good thing is that the awful people you are working with now won't be an issue and perhaps mgmt can see how bad they s are. I hope you take the advise given and took for a better position-I cannot believe mgmt pulled that line about no kids etc!!

Originally Posted by Tavia'smom

Well I have to stay with this job temporarily but as soon as I find a better job on day shift then I am going. I am going to stick it out long enough to get something better. And the old woman that said I was slacking was the coworker. And boy did I surprise her today. I told her I was going to thirds and she said what for. And I said well someone said I was hiding a bunch and not pulling my weight around here and the incident with the 15 minute call light. But when I mentioned the someone saying I was hiding a bunch she looked like a deer caught in headlights. I loved it.

I don't think she thought I would find out and I know it was her because I haven't worked with anyone else. Her and a med tech because every time I turn around the med tech acts like I just skipped out. I can be in a room taking care of a resident and the both of them act like I am hiding under a bed somewhere so I know who it was.

Thats okay like Bruce said working nights makes it easier to find a new job. And besides the people on nights are really nice. So I can deal with it just until I find a better job.

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I would have been evil & said that someone spoke to my supervisor and now I am working 3rd shift and earning more money.

i would have said that too....
but

pleeeeeeeeeeeeease tell me you have told them how illegal it was right?