What do you look for in guys/girls?

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I'm curious in what you people look for in potential mates. I'm always told I have rather strange taste in girls.

I like shy and childish girls, especially on the spacey side with a touch of loneliness. A bit of goof is a plus too. A little lip gloss is ok, but finds makeup disgusting. Closet musician. More interested in chowing down on a parfait than shopping for fancy shoes or clothes. Jet black hair, deep dark blue eyes, pale skin, and petite body would be perfect.

Haha, sometimes I have doubts that people like that exist, but a guy can dream.
 

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Looks are superficial and fade in time, but unfortunately they do matter, at least in the beginning of a relationship. You have to find your potential life mate physically attractive.

Physical characteristics that I find attractive:
1. Height. I love tall men, 5'11" or taller.
2. Dark hair and eyes
3. No beard or mustache
4. Hair chest is a huge plus


Personality is the most important thing to me. I like men who:
1. Have a sense of humour but isn't a "class clown"
2. Responsible
3. Respectful and kind
4. Romantic and not afraid to show their emotions
5. Honest
6. Ability to communicate in a relationship
7. Can cook!
8. Employed but not a work-a-holic.
9. Loves animals and doesn't hunt or watch sports!
 

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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

Looks are superficial and fade in time, but unfortunately they do matter, at least in the beginning of a relationship. You have to find your potential life mate physically attractive.

Physical characteristics that I find attractive:
1. Height. I love tall men, 5'11" or taller.
2. Dark hair and eyes
3. No beard or mustache
4. Hair chest is a huge plus


Personality is the most important thing to me. I like men who:
1. Have a sense of humour but isn't a "class clown"
2. Responsible
3. Respectful and kind
4. Romantic and not afraid to show their emotions
5. Honest
6. Ability to communicate in a relationship
7. Can cook!
8. Employed but not a work-a-holic.
9. Loves animals and doesn't hunt or watch sports!
Gosh Natalie...I'm glad your're in Manitoba! I think we're looking for the same guy!!!

Chest hair....
oh yeah, a girl's gotta have a playground!!! But you're right, I'm not too fond of facial hair either!
Actually, he doesn't have to be too tall...I'm only 5'3". And it would be really nice if he was a Redwings hockey lover! I also would like a guy who enjoys his own independance...doesn't need to be with me 24/7. I've been single now for nearly 20 years. Too much closeness is something that I find very suffocating.
 

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I'm not psychic,I just see through people
The most important to me is

Honesty - I can ALWAYS tell if someones lying
even though I might not want to
admit it......

It doesn't matter what they do,wether it's against the law or not-I'll just grass them


Seriously
I can deal with most everything but deceit and that I have great difficulty with,not that
I can't forgive that but it will take more time to deal with-as long as they haven't
murdered someone or an animal
 

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I used to get crushes on guys who had dark hair, dark eyes, were lean and taller than me and were complete a*******s, then i met my ex who was most of those, scept for the lean and tall part.

Now i have Tristan who is complete opposite! He has blue eyes, blonde hair, red beard, stocky & muscly. He is a gentleman, funny, weird, sensitive, open-minded and alot more.

I dont need to look anymore
 

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Originally Posted by furryferals

The most important to me is

Honesty - I can ALWAYS tell if someones lying
even though I might not want to
admit it......

It doesn't matter what they do,wether it's against the law or not-I'll just grass them


Seriously
I can deal with most everything but deceit and that I have great difficulty with,not that
I can't forgive that but it will take more time to deal with-as long as they haven't
murdered someone or an animal
That is a very good trait to look for, I also like honest people.
 

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I got my man, and I can honestly say I didn't have a list and he was different from everyone else I dated. 1 important criteria that I thought I wanted (Catholic) he didn't have, and you know what - I have been ok with that for almost 11 years of marriage.

Things that helped me love him were his dry sense of humour, respect for his parents, love of animals (especially cats). He bought me my 1st 2 cats (2 weeks before we got married). He cooks, cleans and would do the laundry (but he shrinks things - so he's not allowed). He held a steady job. I am taller then he is. He is a neat freak and I am not, but we comprimise. When you meet the right person your lists all disappear and you make new lists together.
 

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Sense of humor is #1. He must be self-confident but not one of those posturing, macho types. MUST like animals. Polite, respectful, well-spoken, gainfully employed or retired.

Physically, I have a weakness for silver hair and blue eyes. Facial and chest hair are pluses but not mandatory. Height isn't an issue but, I do like to be able to rest my head on a man's shoulder. Strong, yet gentle hands, laughing eyes and a ready smile. Nice buns are good, too.
 

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For ALL of you:

WRITE down a list of 15-20 different qualities you want in a potential mate. Be specific. Not too general. Also include looks (blonde/dark hair, etc.). If you really don't know what you want when you are looking, you wind up settling for what comes along. Compromise on minor things, never on major things. For example: if you don't like smoking, then don't date/marry a smoker. It will NOT work! If she has 2 kids and you only wanted one, that, IMO is a compromise - not a major thing. Now if she has kids and you don't want ANY, then it would be a major thing.

Background:

DH and I both married the wrong person when we were young. We both were divorced from the ex's 17/20 yrs later (for other reasons). This time, we made a list of what we wanted and DIDN'T want (before we met each other). One big thing on both of our lists was no drinking, smoking, gambling.

DH and I met in a divorce chat room, talked/flirted online for 3-4 months before getting more serious. It was about 9 months later we met in person - by that time we really knew each other and found almost EVERYTHING we wanted in the person on our list. We actually matched the lists 90%.

We've been very happily married now for 5 yrs and STILL on our honeymoon. We learned from our previous mistakes in how to handle things, how important communication is (internet forces you to learn), and what REAL love is for the 1st time. We both realize the ex's were not people we loved at all - we married them for the wrong reasons.
 

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My DH is perfect for me. Honest, compassionate, great sense of humor, casual-hippy type, loves our cats, and loves me. He is not materialistic. A kitten or a tree is more important to him than any amount of money. He works hard at his job and loves his work. He's thin with big shoulders and long hair. He is my soulmate. I couldn't have done better if I had made a list.
 

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lol I think I fit most of your criteria except for the blue eyes and pale skin (I'm Asian - Filipino
) but just to let you know its not an impossible set of criteria


As for me....let's see. I think the most attractive trait for me is just competence, a guy who's really good at whatever it is he does, whether that be a handyman around the house or a neurosurgeon or whatever. Smart would be a plus, and so would being interested in the sciences, since I'm getting a doctorate in Genetics and its nice to have someone to talk to.

A love for music since I like to sing and play the piano...

A good leader, cause I think a guy should be the head of the family (even though the ladies always run things anyways
) and very strong in his faith, preferably Catholic because I want someone to share my faith with.

Someone who's fun and will be goofy with me, but also knows how to be serious and in charge. And someone who will be in charge when I don't want to be, but let me take over every once in awhile.



note: I was going to post this about 3 last night, then the power went out!
 

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Physically, I like men who are taller than me. Since I'm only 5'1", this isn't a hard criteria to meet.
I also like guys who are just physically bigger -- not hugely muscular, but broad-shouldered and kind of teddy-bear-like. Although I'm fiercely independent and can take care of myself, I like guys who look like they could come to my rescue if I need it. J is more than a foot taller than me, broad-shouldered and muscular; he is what you would call "physically intimidating."

Personality-wise -- and more importantly to me -- I like intelligent guys. I want my partner to be as smart as I am, if not smarter; I want someone I can talk to, on a wide variety of subjects, and not someone who just mouths my own opinions back to me. What's more, my guy needs to not be intimidated by how intelligent I am. I don't play dumb just to get guys to like me; if they can't handle the fact that I'm a smart, geeky chick, they're not the guy for me. A sense of humour is also extremely important, and I tend to favour dry, sarcastic wit over bathroom humour. Things like honesty, integrity and respect are also important, of course. I need someone who can treat me as an equal partner, not as a trophy or an accessory. (I'm not really pretty enough to be a trophy-wife, anyway.
)
 

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I've already found the perfect guy! Everything on my lists, I found in John.

Physically: blonde hair and blue eyes are my weakness! a nice smile, strong hands, I like guys that are more muscular... so I can feel safe in his arms.
Personality: romantic, can always make me laugh even when I don't want to, quiet and sensitive but not overly so, and most importantly... MUST LOVE ANIMALS.

John and I have been together about a year and a half, and he just earned major bonus points the other day by telling me we should rescue those little orphaned kittens!
 

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Originally Posted by bnwalker2

John and I have been together about a year and a half, and he just earned major bonus points the other day by telling me we should rescue those little orphaned kittens!
He's a keeper!
 

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I like BIG guys (I'm 4'11" and Rusty is 5'11" and weighs about 100 pounds more than me). He also has to have an excellent (and preferably warped) sense of humour, be intelligent, be a decent human being, and obviously love cats.
 

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Yes, I forgot to add: Liking cats (and animals is general) is a must. It would help if J wanted to have more than two cats, but I'm working on that!
(His personal theory is that the cats shouldn't outnumber the people, but we disagree on that one ...)
 

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Originally Posted by Lemur 6

I'm curious in what you people look for in potential mates. I'm always told I have rather strange taste in girls.

I like shy and childish girls, especially on the spacey side with a touch of loneliness. A bit of goof is a plus too. A little lip gloss is ok, but finds makeup disgusting. Closet musician. More interested in chowing down on a parfait than shopping for fancy shoes or clothes. Jet black hair, deep dark blue eyes, pale skin, and petite body would be perfect.

Haha, sometimes I have doubts that people like that exist, but a guy can dream.
Wow, I saw on your profile that your 25?!?! And you want a girl like that? That is definately weird..not in a bad way. I guess I like to think of guys my age wanting "women" as opposed to "girls"



As for me, I like a short guy..not shorter than me, but shorter than a giant. Clean cut, and build doesn't really matter as long as he has confidence. I need a sense of humour..I am a freak and I want someone who gets me. He needs to be motivated, have a place, car, and a career. Must like cats! I don't want someone who is super into the bar scene. Someone that appreciates his and my independance..no clingy guys here please! I will not tolerate a jealous guy..that is the WORST thing a guy can be.
 
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