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post #1 of 28
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I've just spent the past 3 days in absolute hell.

I'm moving interstate and have settled on just flying my 9 cats, instead of driving - and thank god for that, as the so called driver is the one involved in my huge headache.

My seemingly friend has been giving me the nastiest advice he could.

One such comment, was how, I shouldn't have so many cats, and turning to my dad, said, we should get some of that green stuff the vets have - aka the euthanasia drugs.

He consistently made comments on how we should just let them all out, to run on the road and be hit and killed.

Even when I told him to STFU, and started screaming obscenities at him, he just raised his voice to repeatedly inform me, I am CRAZY, I AM STUPID, I AM PATHETIC, DIRTY, my cats stink, that they're horrible, I should just dump them, have them put to sleep - just get "rid of them".

He blames them for my stress in moving, blames them for what he thinks my life is "chaotic" and has been harassing me about them for days.

Right now, I'm sitting here fuming. He has not only insulted me, he has been downright rude and disrespectful. I was ready to throw him out.

A
post #2 of 28
Simply put, that's not what I would consider a friend..
post #3 of 28
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Originally Posted by strange_wings View Post
Simply put, that's not what I would consider a friend..
I second that.

Though it can be worse.
post #4 of 28
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Originally Posted by Autumnblueangel View Post
I've just spent the past 3 days in absolute hell.

I'm moving interstate and have settled on just flying my 9 cats, instead of driving - and thank god for that, as the so called driver is the one involved in my huge headache.

My seemingly friend has been giving me the nastiest advice he could.

One such comment, was how, I shouldn't have so many cats, and turning to my dad, said, we should get some of that green stuff the vets have - aka the euthanasia drugs.

He consistently made comments on how we should just let them all out, to run on the road and be hit and killed.

Even when I told him to STFU, and started screaming obscenities at him, he just raised his voice to repeatedly inform me, I am CRAZY, I AM STUPID, I AM PATHETIC, DIRTY, my cats stink, that they're horrible, I should just dump them, have them put to sleep - just get "rid of them".

He blames them for my stress in moving, blames them for what he thinks my life is "chaotic" and has been harassing me about them for days.

Right now, I'm sitting here fuming. He has not only insulted me, he has been downright rude and disrespectful. I was ready to throw him out.

A
This person would be out of my life as soon as they turned their back.

It's not worth having a person like that around you. They suck all the energy out of a room.
post #5 of 28
I would get rid of him. Sometimes it can be hard for people to understand if they arn't animal lovers but the things he said there is no excuse for. If he could be that heartless to even think such things I wouldn't want him in my life at all. Not worth it and it seems he isn't that good with people either. I think you should dump him on the side of the road.
post #6 of 28
Dump that "friend". You know the saying, with friends like that, who needs enemies.


He's a jerk.
post #7 of 28
Yep, I have to say get rid too. Someone like that really isn't worth all your energy. Someone who can be so heartless and rude isn't worth a penny. Your'e better than a 'friend' like that.
post #8 of 28
People like that are worse than useless. But I am glad you are flying the cats - it will be less stressful for them and you. As I said before, I did a two day trip with 5 cats across Europe, and it went well, but I would not do it again in a hurry.
post #9 of 28
I would not consider that person a "friend".
post #10 of 28
I'd throw him from the moving car
post #11 of 28
Yeah that to all of the above. Some friend. I'd be kicking his behind to the curb so fast, he wouldn't know what hit him..
post #12 of 28
To me that person is just rude, inconsiderate, uncaring and just an idiot -which spells out JERK! I would dump him so fast he wouldn't know what hit him. I would also recommend that he get the "green stuff" because no one in their right mind would want him!
He has me fuming so bad I could spit. If I would you, I would dump him and let him find his own ride! Unless it is not your vehicle, I would find some other transportation. Other than that, get rid of him. You do not need the aggravation, nor the insults. Someone who insults you and tells you what you should or shouldn't do is not your friend.
If at all possible get rid of him as soon as possible. You derserve much much better. I hope that it will get better for you soon. Keep us posted.
post #13 of 28


Um, I would be quietly, without fuss, withdrawing from his life. I wouldn't create a big hoo-haa, he sounds a tad aggressive and unstable.

Just slowly, peacefully, stop answering or returning his calls, emails or other attempts at contact. Withdraw from his life in an unobtrusive and quiet way. If he wants to know why, I wouldn't tell him, I would just calmly and steadfastly say that you realised that you and he didn't have too much in common, and that you felt that perhaps you'd outgrown the friendship.

Under no circumstances would I suggest that you keep him in your life. Of course, I don't know him or his relationship to you, and that may seem a little extreme, but someone who demonstrates such a clear lack of respect for you (whatever his feelings are about cats, he should have more consideration for YOUR feelings about them) and continues to do so despite how much it obviously upsets you, is not someone you should consider your friend or someone who would be valuable to have in your life.

post #14 of 28


But however you decide to drop the arsehat.. do it soon before he causes you anymore unneeded stress.
post #15 of 28
And great big for having to put up with that loser in addition to the stress that moving already brings - with or without cats!

post #16 of 28
Did he ever consider that he's the stress in you're life? Jerk-face!

Sarah has great advice. I hope the move goes well & this person isn't too much more awful.
post #17 of 28
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I'd throw him from the moving car
After a liberal application of .
post #18 of 28
Dump this so-called friend, I would never, ever speak to him again, just kill the relationship, period. Never let him be around the kits alone.
post #19 of 28
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Originally Posted by KitEKats4Eva! View Post


Um, I would be quietly, without fuss, withdrawing from his life. I wouldn't create a big hoo-haa, he sounds a tad aggressive and unstable.

Just slowly, peacefully, stop answering or returning his calls, emails or other attempts at contact. Withdraw from his life in an unobtrusive and quiet way. If he wants to know why, I wouldn't tell him, I would just calmly and steadfastly say that you realised that you and he didn't have too much in common, and that you felt that perhaps you'd outgrown the friendship.
I wouldn't trust this person as far as I can spit, which isn't too far!
post #20 of 28
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Originally Posted by Autumnblueangel View Post
One such comment, was how, I shouldn't have so many cats, and turning to my dad, said, we should get some of that green stuff the vets have - aka the euthanasia drugs.
I would wholeheartedly agree with him, and then ponder aloud "But I don't really know the dose that would work on a grown man of your size."
post #21 of 28
He would be getting a beating from me and then thrown out of a moving car.
post #22 of 28
Yeah. Not a friend. Just a jackass that is enjoying being in control and making the most of it. Once you are done w/him. Write him off.
post #23 of 28
I think my reply would have been, hmm, well, you know.. I respect that you're entitled to your opinion about cats, but truly, I have to tell you that these cats are more important to me than you are, so perhaps you should leave. I obviously made a massive mistake in my judgement of your worthiness to be a friend of mine. I'm so glad that you are acting as you really are, so that I am no longer suffering from delusions of grandeur of your personality. See you!
post #24 of 28
All I gotta say is tell him to get his rude behind out in the middle of the road and play in traffic. People like that are rude inconsiderate jerks...
post #25 of 28
He's stoopid. Be thankful you're moving out of state and won't have to see him for a LONG time.
post #26 of 28
Don't dump your kitties, dump that jerk.
post #27 of 28
I don't know what this guy's agenda is, but he needs to be out of your life immediately. I wouldn't ride with him anywhere. There's got to be another way.

And they're right, you don't need to let him anywhere near your cats!

Have a good safe trip...
post #28 of 28
Seconding the motions -- I don't know what this guy's agenda is, but he needs to be out of your life immediately. I wouldn't ride with him anywhere. There's got to be another way.

And they're right, you don't need to let him anywhere near your cats!

Have a good safe trip...
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