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post #1 of 28
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But not for me! My friend called me a few minutes ago to let me know how her night went last night and I can't help but laugh at her at this point.

She's living with this dating couple at the moment. And she has a huge crush on the guys best friend who they have introduced her to. So the guy roommate's birthday was Thursday. Instead of giving him a gift, she decided to pay for his dinner and stuff and they'd all go out wherever he wanted. So last night they went out and a bunch of other people came, including the guy she likes.

Well, the dude she's into only stayed an hour because he had to work today. She tried to initiate conversation with him about the usual boring topics (work, his sister who she's friends with now also but is too young to have come, etc.) beyond that not much was said. The girl roommate thinks he's on the shy side with people he doesn't know. And he's only met my friend say 5 times.

Well, this is where we need some insight, when he got up to leave (they were at a bar) he shook everyone else's hand and said goodnight, but she got a punch in the shoulder and a 'see ya later ******!' What the heck does that mean!?! He didn't hit her hard, she said he barely touched her!


So what do you think of that? I'm no good at interpreting guys. For DH I used to have to go to my guy friends and they were usually right. I can't see how he could not think she's physically attractive, she's adorable! And her personality is very friendly and easy to get to know. So maybe she's too much for him still? Not that she's the smother someone type, just easy to talk to and always has a smile on her face.

Any insight would be appreciated....though she will probably kill me for posting her business on here....but then we go back to 10th grade Biology so I think she'll get over it too!
post #2 of 28
To me, it sounds as if he likes her.If he only shook everyone elses hand and actually gave her a *love thump*, I say he really wants to get to know her better and see where it goes.
Don't you remember when you were in Grade School and the boys that picked on you, were the ones that liked you?
post #3 of 28
err, hmm, errr, i hate to say this, but i have no idea.....
and i think i am a guy. maybe some of the other guys hanging out
can help with that.
post #4 of 28
LOL!!! That's the way it still is today at school!(I have 4 kids in school)
post #5 of 28
Since he treated her differently than the others, I'd say there's interest on his part.
post #6 of 28
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Originally Posted by SwampWitch View Post
Since he treated her differently than the others, I'd say there's interest on his part.
He did something different with her..I would say that means he sees her differently
post #7 of 28
I'd suggeset that he's interested, but really doesn't have a clue how to approach the situation. I have to ask whether or not he's had that much experience with women after maybe high school...... ? Hrmn. I think he needs for her to initiate a further contact, just to show him the way. A thump on the arm isn't the best way of showing affection, granted, but I guess he doesn't really understand anything better! Perhaps she should thump him back!
post #8 of 28
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Perhaps she should thump him back!
I'm gonna suggest that to her!

From what I understand, he's had 2 or 3 long term relationships, including high school. (I think he's 25 or 26) She said all the other guys there were trying to flirt with her, be it flipping her hair or whatever.... Maybe he was holding back because of his other friends flirting?

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Don't you remember when you were in Grade School and the boys that picked on you, were the ones that liked you?
That's what one of her other friends told her! When DH and I were first flirting we'd throw wads of paper at eachother....
post #9 of 28
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I'm gonna suggest that to her!

From what I understand, he's had 2 or 3 long term relationships, including high school. (I think he's 25 or 26) She said all the other guys there were trying to flirt with her, be it flipping her hair or whatever.... Maybe he was holding back because of his other friends flirting?



That's what one of her other friends told her! When DH and I were first flirting we'd throw wads of paper at eachother....
The guys still do that!!!! And they also come up behind the girls and swat them on the shoulder or arm........nothing hard, just a HEY there kind of thing.
post #10 of 28
Sounds like the male half of the dating couple might have also said.. um, dude, you know she's into you.. and he (the guy of interest) might be interested and knows she's interested, but might be even more shy because he knows. Next time she sees him.. I'd say consider a smile and a wink at him if he taps her on the shoulder again.. I dunno. There's a reason I'm single.. maybe I'm not best to give dating advice. Might have something to do with my attitude, though.. I'm usually pretty good at flirting.

But overall, I'd say he's interested, and he set her apart by doing that.
post #11 of 28
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Ok well we have some insight from the guy roommate now.....ya'll were right!

.....the dude called the guy roommate and said something to the effect of asking about her and saying how cute she was last night....and something about them all getting together to go out on his boat next friday..... Ooooo I wanna be a fly on that boat! I told her she better go dust off her bikini....her reply was 'darnit (not that word exactly) why didn't i order that thighmaster!'
post #12 of 28
LOL!!! So glad things worked out for her and we were right.
post #13 of 28
Woohoo! If she's worried about her thighs, tell her to get one of those oh-so-cute little wraps that cover your thighs and butt .. the little ones that tie around your hips. I know there's a proper name for them but it's not coming to mind at the moment.
post #14 of 28
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Woohoo! If she's worried about her thighs, tell her to get one of those oh-so-cute little wraps that cover your thighs and butt .. the little ones that tie around your hips. I know there's a proper name for them but it's not coming to mind at the moment.
sarong maybe?
post #15 of 28
If all she's worried about are her thighs, then she's alright! People like me are worried about everything from just under the bust, to the ankles!!
post #16 of 28
I was thinking sarong but then I think when I saw them in the Land's End catalog it was something different. They're long and pretty and very feminine, though.. a really nice touch to a bikini or bathing suit.
post #17 of 28
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Ok well we have some insight from the guy roommate now.....ya'll were right!

.....the dude called the guy roommate and said something to the effect of asking about her and saying how cute she was last night....and something about them all getting together to go out on his boat next friday..... Ooooo I wanna be a fly on that boat! I told her she better go dust off her bikini....her reply was 'darnit (not that word exactly) why didn't i order that thighmaster!'
That's cool. actually I was going to say the opposite. Everytime some guy thumped me in the shoulder it was because we're "good" friends. Nothing more.

Then again though I've had WAY too many guys that want to be "just friends" I've always been one of the boys
post #18 of 28
Well, doesn't this sound promising. Now you better keep us informed, because we are all interested in what will happen next. Don't tell her that you have a whole bunch of on-line friends that want to know about her love life!
post #19 of 28
I used to date a guy where we did that to each other and joked around calling it the "buddy punch." If I hadn't already read the outcome, I'd have guessed there was interest on his part, especially since he didn't know her that well. Maybe he was just worried she wasn't the type to dig a hug? *shrug* lol
post #20 of 28
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Well, doesn't this sound promising. Now you better keep us informed, because we are all interested in what will happen next. Don't tell her that you have a whole bunch of on-line friends that want to know about her love life!
It can be our little soap opera!
post #21 of 28
If she's worried about her thighs, she shouldn't be. I doubt he asked her out in spite of them Tell her to just have fun and not obsess about something she "thinks" he may notice. Men just are not as picky as we are when it comes to picking our bodies apart
post #22 of 28
True that, but if you feel insecure about something it can affect your overall confidence level.. and those are a pretty way to cover up. I'm sure he thinks she's overall cute. But, lol, women don't generally think that way. All depends on how obsessed she is about it.
post #23 of 28
I remember that if the boys liked you they'd kinda "punch" you on the arm

But if he's shy and doesn't know how to approach, then she might have to be the one to ask him out - maybe for coffee at Starbucks or to bowling/pizza, something like that. They can get to know each other better.
post #24 of 28
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True that, but if you feel insecure about something it can affect your overall confidence level.. and those are a pretty way to cover up. I'm sure he thinks she's overall cute. But, lol, women don't generally think that way. All depends on how obsessed she is about it.
I wish she wouldn't worry so much over her thighs, but then that's an hourglass talking to a pear....so maybe I don't understand her view of herself really. She is totally cute....the first thing everyone notices is 1. her green cat eyes and 2. her smile. So she's got a whole lot to keep him looking up! And down and up again.... I'd post her pic, but she might not like that! I dunno though....she thinks it's funny I've posted her business on the internet on a site for cat people!
post #25 of 28
That's too funny. Besides which, men like thighs that are little generous, often. At least this is what I'm told..and I can't think that she's more than a "little" generous, given that she's talking about wearing a bikini. I've been told that men, in a general sense, have three things that they look for... and this apparently differs from man to man... but if a girl meets those three things, then they don't really notice much else. So, if one man likes "tops" and eyes, and hair.. it doesn't really matter overall what the thighs or hips or butt is like, because the three things that attract them in the first place are attractive to them already? Yeah, that sentence made a lot of sense, eh? Hehe... anyway..I can't remember where it was that I read that. Probably some magazine that had no real research behind it (but I will say that my male friends agree with this theory).
post #26 of 28
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I dunno though....she thinks it's funny I've posted her business on the internet on a site for cat people!
J (my fiance) is convinced we don't actually talk about cats on TCS. The name "The Cat Site" is just a gimmick to lure in crazy cat people who will then gather and discuss everything under the sun except cats.
post #27 of 28
We do talk about cats! They're mentioned in just about everything we write! Even if they happen to be mentioned in posts to topics that aren't really about cats....
post #28 of 28
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J (my fiance) is convinced we don't actually talk about cats on TCS. The name "The Cat Site" is just a gimmick to lure in crazy cat people who will then gather and discuss everything under the sun except cats.
That's funny!

We can talk about cats related to this once we find out if he's a cat lover or not....he better be! He has a Terrier though....a supposedly very crazy terrier! But he's got to love her kitty, Oreo, who lives with her Dad at the moment but really belongs to my friend.
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