Does it count if you (a) never actually got married and (b) aren't still together? This gentleman and I are still best friends, and I expect we'll grow old in adjacent rocking chairs on the front porch of the old folks' home, so I think he counts as... let's call him a Dear Ex! So here's how I met DX:
In Austin (TX) in 1984, I was working at two sister radio stations, one Rock & Roll and one Adult Contemporary. I did everything there, from writing spots and doing voicework to answering phones to filling in as a DJ on both stations. I knew there was this guy with a great baritone voice who did traffic from the plane (no helicopter -- just a little Cessna) and hosted an oldies show on Saturday nights for the Rock & Roll side, but because he worked mostly out of the airport, I'd never met him.
So one day, I come in the front door of the station on my way to a production room, and I notice a fellow sitting in the lobby, talking to the receptionist. I barely glance at him, because he looks like a teenager, wearing shorts and mismatched tube socks... I just head on toward the hallway.
And then from behind me, I hear him say something in the most perfect Jack Nicholson voice I've ever heard in my life. I whirl around, delighted, and say, "That was the most perfect Jack Nicholson voice I've ever heard in my life!"
"Whyyy, thankya, thankyaverramush," he says, in the most perfect Elvis voice I've ever heard in my life.
Well, anybody who can make me laugh that hard has my full attention. So even though he was just out of college and six years younger, our traffic reporter/oldies host and I got to be friends.
I had just recently discovered Springsteen (I don't know how I missed out for so long!), and he was a big fan, too, so he dubbed off some bootleg Bruce for me. One night he called me and said, "I've got
" so we went bowling. Eventually, we decided to try being a couple, which we did for four years before realizing it just wasn't the right relationship -- we were meant to be best friends.
So we separated, I later introduced him to my best friend from high school (who had just reappeared in my life), and they got married and now have an amazing twelve-year-old boy for whose existence I take as much credit as I can grab!
I'm just happy as can be for them, we remain very involved in each other's lives, and nobody ever had better friends.