How did you meet your partner/DH?

This is a matter of some debate between us.

He says we met on halloween night at a bar. I was dating someone else at the time and we were never formally introduced. He was there with a mututal friend and I was there w/ the guy I was dating. Of course, he may remember it because I was in a corset and later in a wet T-shirt contest. LOL

I say we met later... closer to Thanksgiving when I was single again. I called up said mutual friend to see if he wanted to hang out. I didn't know he'd moved in with Matt and was pleasantly surprised when Matt answered the door. Being single I immidatly took notice. He had long dark hair and manners! LOL He held doors bought drinks and was just a general sweetheart. We've been together (off and on a few times) ever since and are getting married in June. What's funny is neither of us was looking for long term. We both though it's be some fun hot sex and that was it. Turns out we were way off the mark there.

The first time we met was actually in 9th grade. We met again when we both worked at a fast food joint when we were 17. We married at 18 and have been married for 11 years now.

I was subletting an apartment for the summer, and one of my roommates was friends with this guy. We'd hang out together, but to be honest I found him a little intimidating: he was a big guy (tall and muscular) and had a really sharp, sarcastic sense of humour. He and my roommate started going out, but they weren't really clicking. Anyway ... they broke up, I eventually moved out but continued hanging out with that group of friends, and before long, J and I were seeing each other. It always makes me feel like a bad friend, though, that I started dating my ex-roommate's ex-boyfriend, you know, like I'm violating some kind of code ... (It's not as bad as it sounds, though.)

Originally Posted by kittiesx2

I'm in the mood for some mushy love stories...lay em' on me

First I'll tell you mine

My husband and I actually started dating my junior year of high school..
We were together for about six months and ended up having an awful breakup ( he cheated on me and got one of my friends pregnant) He did what he felt was the honorable thing and got married and had a son ......

F- forward five years... I was a new Mom and had just left my babies Dad..he was abusive ...bad situation...
Ran into my ex (now DH) and something clicked....He and his wife had split up...we went out...my Mom was not happy

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We spent the entire night talking about our lives and our children....It was such a beautiful thing...I think that the first time that we dated neither of us were ready for a relationship...We were too young and had we tried to make it work it would have failed...
We've been together 8 years and happily married almost 5 years

No-one thought that our relationship would work given past experience but ya'know some things are meant to be...
Given the strong commited relationship that we have now I wouldn't trade the past for all of the money in the world!

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According to your title, it would appear you do not think there are any DWs out here. It is true that as far as I know, I am the only person that is using that term. I figured that if there could be so many DHs, there should be at least one DW.

Anyway, the answer is short and sweet: on the internet. Forget all the horror stories you have heard. I had lots of fun dating all kinds of women before finding my true love. The internet can weed out way over 90% of those people you would never want to meet and I only met a few bad dates, all of which lied about their weight.

Originally Posted by mooficat

uumm wrong forum Bruce

met mine at work - attached but in the midst of un-attaching himself

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Unless he meant DH = Dear Hampster??

I met DH when we both worked as residential computer consultants as students in college (we went out and fixed network connections in the residence halls when students would call in). I was TECHNICALLY his supervisor.

When we met, I was dating someone else, but we were still really good friends. When the guy I was dating turned into a moron (I mean really...how cowardly do you have to be to just act like a jerk when you move away just to get the girl to break up with you, so you don't have to do it yourself???) , I took some time to be single (he and I had dated 10 months).

I knew for a while that DH liked me...it was fairly obvious, but I wasn't sure I was ready to a) risk a friendship or b) get into another relationship.

Well, I decided to go for it, and 4 years later, we're married and happy (and he LOVES the kitties).

Originally Posted by Persi & Alley

Anyway, the answer is short and sweet: on the internet. Forget all the horror stories you have heard. I had lots of fun dating all kinds of women before finding my true love. The internet can weed out way over 90% of those people you would never want to meet and I only met a few bad dates, all of which lied about their weight.

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I would think that ANY lie would make for a bad date. Unless you are saying you are vain and the person's appearance matters more than the person themselves.

John's cousin was my best friend at the time... one day my friend and I were talking on instant messenger and he sent me an email address and said "Talk to this guy"... with no explanation and he immediately got offline. I added the guy to my instant messenger and when he came online he started talking to me. We talked online for hours that week, well into the middle of the night. My friend invited me to see a movie with him and his cousin and another friend of his... so we went to see Corpse Bride and that's where I met John in person. That was September 2005 and we've been together ever since. I moved in with him a little more than a year ago.

I met my DH online in a chat room, We lived 100 miles apart, we talked online for a long time then on the phone then we met halfway between where we lived and talked started dating and got married 10 years ago.. It worked pretty good

I walked into a video store and demanded a copy of City of Lost Children. He said that he'd go back to his house and loan me his copy, but I had to give him my phone number first. The rest is history.

Does it count if you (a) never actually got married and (b) aren't still together? This gentleman and I are still best friends, and I expect we'll grow old in adjacent rocking chairs on the front porch of the old folks' home, so I think he counts as... let's call him a Dear Ex! So here's how I met DX:

In Austin (TX) in 1984, I was working at two sister radio stations, one Rock & Roll and one Adult Contemporary. I did everything there, from writing spots and doing voicework to answering phones to filling in as a DJ on both stations. I knew there was this guy with a great baritone voice who did traffic from the plane (no helicopter -- just a little Cessna) and hosted an oldies show on Saturday nights for the Rock & Roll side, but because he worked mostly out of the airport, I'd never met him.

So one day, I come in the front door of the station on my way to a production room, and I notice a fellow sitting in the lobby, talking to the receptionist. I barely glance at him, because he looks like a teenager, wearing shorts and mismatched tube socks... I just head on toward the hallway.

And then from behind me, I hear him say something in the most perfect Jack Nicholson voice I've ever heard in my life. I whirl around, delighted, and say, "That was the most perfect Jack Nicholson voice I've ever heard in my life!"

"Whyyy, thankya, thankyaverramush," he says, in the most perfect Elvis voice I've ever heard in my life.

Well, anybody who can make me laugh that hard has my full attention. So even though he was just out of college and six years younger, our traffic reporter/oldies host and I got to be friends.

I had just recently discovered Springsteen (I don't know how I missed out for so long!), and he was a big fan, too, so he dubbed off some bootleg Bruce for me. One night he called me and said, "I've got to bowl!" so we went bowling. Eventually, we decided to try being a couple, which we did for four years before realizing it just wasn't the right relationship -- we were meant to be best friends.

So we separated, I later introduced him to my best friend from high school (who had just reappeared in my life), and they got married and now have an amazing twelve-year-old boy for whose existence I take as much credit as I can grab! I'm just happy as can be for them, we remain very involved in each other's lives, and nobody ever had better friends.

I apologize in advance, this is a bit long, but I want to tell the whole thing.
Dh to be ended up taking in a cat that he had advised a friend about, and she was a biter. He was seeking advice on how to deal with this (and I mean she was a real biter) and being as into computers as he was, ended up in one of the first online forums for pets (this was back in the early 1990's).

I met a gal at Madison Square garden where I was showing one of my American Curls who was very interested in the breed. We became good friends, and I was fascinated with her telling me about Prodigy, message boards etc. I got my first computer during this time, and during the first several years of our friendship, she found this same forum, I joined and eventually became a sysop there.

Dh to be was involved enough on the forum that he also was asked to be a sysop...as a new sysop, I noticed when he began posting in the private message section that was just for sysops. I was just for the first time in 9 years, feeling ready to try even flirting with someone again...I found his emails intriguing and we emailed privately a couple of times, cat chat etc.

This was the Fall of 1994...in December that year, I decided to send him a care package...homemade cookies, goodies for his kitties, and (thank you Great Aunt Marion) some of my great aunt's homemade raspberry preserves. I was so uncomfortable doing this, afraid of him thinking I was some odd older chick...kept telling myself it was never wrong/foolish/silly to gift some one.

I was rather frustrated with some emails because I could not tell what he was thinking...was he/could he be interested in me? I think I once told him he did coy better than any woman I knew!! I knew he was younger, though not how much (turns out 13 1/2 years)...and at least knew he was who he said, as another forum member had met him.

We had a bet about an online cat show (photos) being done on the forum..whoever lost would have to call the other. I believe he arranged to lose after that first telephone call we only missed less than a week of talking every day thereafter until we married in the Fall of 1995. We were engaged the day after Valentine's day 1995- flustered everyone in both families, all my co-workers etc. as we were engaged before ever being in the same state. While he was from NJ, he'd been out on the West Coast for years, and was a Desert Storm vet, who after discharge from the Army, remained on the West Coast. I was living/working in Central NYS.

What can I say...this was meant to be, I truly believe that God brought us together, and my belief that we were meant to be has only grown stronger and stronger over the years. Our 12th anniversary is this Fall

What a wonderful story, Pat & Alix! Makes me so happy for you both... clearly you've found your true soulmate.

I'm not currently married but I currently have a GF and I met her at a new years party last year. I kind of owe it all to a buddie of mine. Me and a bunch of my friends went to play hockey and my buddie invited someone he met at the University. So I met him that night and then at the new years party a couple weeks later, he came along and he brought on of his frinds who brought one of his friends who happens to be my current GF.

Originally Posted by CarolPetunia

What a wonderful story, Pat & Alix! Makes me so happy for you both... clearly you've found your true soulmate.

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Thank you! I did