After a while I decided I needed another cat to keep me from going completely crazy. So I got another tabby just like my previous cat. I have always liked the regular tabby, I'm not a huge fan of cats like siamese or any other pure breed, not to say they aren't great cats too, I am just partial to a tabby. I have had this cat well over a year, I have a terrible memory so I can't remember the time line in all of this, but I know the cat is close to two years old, mayber over two years old. This new cat is a fine cat, I never expected her to take the place of my other cat, and she never will, but I still love to have her in my life. But there are a few problems. This cat just seems to think of me as, I can't explain this very well, she knows I exist and sometimes she will let me pet her, but most of the time she keeps out of sight. I live in a rural town with a pretty good side yard, and behind my yard is a huge area of natural grass land. I just don't think my new cat likes me.
My old cat used to sit on my lap all the time. If I was watching T.V or reading she would find me and sit on my lap for hours. She loved to play hide and seek, I would hide and she would run around until she found me, then she would run away and give me time to hide and we would start over. And every night without fail she would sleep at the foot of my bed, so every morning the first thing I would see was my cat's amazingly cute face, then I would pick her up and pet her for a while and this would be the great way I started each day. I am not asking for all of this from my new cat, I think it would be naive to expect that from any cat. But I just feel like I never even get to see my cat anymore. I never get her to sit on my lap for any reason, and she usually doesn't even let me pet her. My old cat used to rub each one of her cheeks against mine, then she would put her head down and rub the top of her head on mine. I love that cat so much. This cat just doesn't seem to like me.
Almost every night she will run into my room just before I go to bed, I think this is when she has just come inside after being outside all day. Then she jumps up onto my bed and onto my chest. I will rub her chin, cheeks and behind her ears because I think she likes that (she always drools everywhere when I rub her cheeks and behind her ears). But after literally less then one minute she jumps off my bed and runs out of my room as fast as possible. If I want my new cat to spend any time with me at all, the situation has to be perfect. It has to be during the day. She always eats breakfast and goes outside for a little while to run around, then around nine or ten she comes inside and decides to go to sleep. She usually sleeps in the same place, well, actually she has two or three places to choose from, but she will always choose one of these three places. If I can find her and she is asleep or just going to sleep, I can usually take her to my room or to a couch, lay down or sit down, and she will fall asleep on my lap, or chest. I think the only reason she will do this is because she is so tired, not because she likes me. This is the only time I ever get to spend with my cat, and this only happens one day out of the week if I am lucky. So what can I do? Is she too young right now, and maybe as she ages she may slow down or calm down and spend more time with me? I don't want her to stop doing whatever she does to have fun, but I do want to get to spend a little time with her each day, otherwise, what is the point in having a cat. I don't know much about cats and how they communicate, or how to get them to like me, but I do know that I love cats, particularly my cat, and I really want her to love me back. So any advice would be greatly appreciated. I would also appreciate any help in finding some other information about cats. Info like, how best to pet them, what certain gestures a cat may make mean etc. etc... I guess websites are the best source as I don't have a library near me, so any help with any of this would be greatly appreciated.