Breif history:
Kitty was my only cat who I got as a stray 3 years ago. It took a long time as he was nervous and untrusting but we had a great bond until almost 3 weeks ago when I took in anouther cat.
I took it really slow, used Feliway difusser and spray, new cat had own room, they had about 4 face to face meetings that lasted about 2 minutes each.
Kitty became more distant so I stopped the intro`s. He was spending more time outside and with a neighbour.
He was still affectionate though and spent most of last saturday cuddled on sofa with me. Then sunday he came in and I noticed a big lump on his back. We have since been to the vet and it was an abcess from a bite wound. ( I have seen a new cat in our back garden and wonder if they fought over territory? )
Anyway, since sunday Kitty has only come home for food, about 4 times a day. He doesn`t come when I call, he hates for me to stroke him, he no longer rubs round me, looks at me with big black eyes and walks away if I approach him.
Three nights ago I moved the new cat out of the flat to try and encourage him back in as I need to give him anti-biotics. This has made no difference.
I know he goes to a neighbour and I think thats ok as long as he doesn`t feed him. If he stopped letting him in I think he would go elsewhere instead of coming home and he is safe there.
When I`d moved the other cat out I tried locking the catflap after he came in for supper. It was aweful. After 6 hours of no sleep because he was just going mental I let him back out.
Do you think he associates being bitten with the new cat and that`s why he wont come home? He acts like he really hates me and the sudden change in him is heartbreaking.
What can I do to encourage him back? I`ve tried tasty treats but as soon as he`s finnished eating he goes straight away. I`m guessing it will take a long time but do you think he will ever trust me again?
I`m heartbroken and he must be pretty unhappy too.
Kitty was my only cat who I got as a stray 3 years ago. It took a long time as he was nervous and untrusting but we had a great bond until almost 3 weeks ago when I took in anouther cat.
I took it really slow, used Feliway difusser and spray, new cat had own room, they had about 4 face to face meetings that lasted about 2 minutes each.
Kitty became more distant so I stopped the intro`s. He was spending more time outside and with a neighbour.
He was still affectionate though and spent most of last saturday cuddled on sofa with me. Then sunday he came in and I noticed a big lump on his back. We have since been to the vet and it was an abcess from a bite wound. ( I have seen a new cat in our back garden and wonder if they fought over territory? )
Anyway, since sunday Kitty has only come home for food, about 4 times a day. He doesn`t come when I call, he hates for me to stroke him, he no longer rubs round me, looks at me with big black eyes and walks away if I approach him.
Three nights ago I moved the new cat out of the flat to try and encourage him back in as I need to give him anti-biotics. This has made no difference.
I know he goes to a neighbour and I think thats ok as long as he doesn`t feed him. If he stopped letting him in I think he would go elsewhere instead of coming home and he is safe there.
When I`d moved the other cat out I tried locking the catflap after he came in for supper. It was aweful. After 6 hours of no sleep because he was just going mental I let him back out.
Do you think he associates being bitten with the new cat and that`s why he wont come home? He acts like he really hates me and the sudden change in him is heartbreaking.
What can I do to encourage him back? I`ve tried tasty treats but as soon as he`s finnished eating he goes straight away. I`m guessing it will take a long time but do you think he will ever trust me again?
I`m heartbroken and he must be pretty unhappy too.