Weddings Rant

Weddings are so expensive these days. But it's a special occassion, one that will hopefully only happen once in a lifetime. So I think It's worth the price.

Yep, weddings are expensive!! I think with ours, our bridesmaids paid for flights, and we paid for pretty much everything else... I can't remember now - we organised it all in about 7 weeks so it's a bit of a blur! We were certainly aware that on short notice we couldn't expect anyone to fork out a huge amount of money. We also let the bridesmaids choose their own dresses which we paid for. They were in a different state (but lived near each other), so they met up, went shopping and found something they liked that they thought they could wear again. We just gave them ideas on colours and let them have free reign.

I'm glad we did too, I think that was more fun for them to choose what they wore. And the dresses were gorgeous as well, they both looked beautiful

My cousin is getting married this summer....so far, I have to go to 2 or 3 showers, with a gift for each, plus buy a wedding present. Also, there is a stagette which I'm sure has a buy in (though I haven't been sent the info, just a request to RSVP, which is a whole other thread...) and a party where a ticket to attend is $40 (profits to go to them) and I'm sure another present is probably expected. Oh, and buy my dress and rent a hotel room, as the reception will be held at a hotel. My BF needs a suit, too. I'm not even in the wedding party or close to my cousin and this is going to kill my bank account.

We can't afford this and it's only the beginning....this cousin's sister is getting married next year and another cousin of ours will likely do it the next year after that.

I want to elope, but I'm afriad I can't get away with that...bf is doomed to a "big fat greek wedding".

WOW!!!! This is why Scott and I are going to elope in Vegas....we'll turn it into a honeymoon as well. Scott's family can't complain too much....his parents did the same thing and no one found out they were married until several months afterward. However, one of his aunts wants us to....

I have 2 bridal showers and 2 weddings to go to...

one for my cousin and one for Scott's cousin.

I know a bunch of us were pitching in on a large gift for Scott's cousin. Do you have to buy a gift for both the shower and the wedding?

Both of of them are younger than we are. It's scary!

Originally Posted by sofiecusion

Do you have to buy a gift for both the shower and the wedding?

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The newest wedding etiquette says if you decline an invitation, then you do NOT have to send a gift. However, if you accepted, then YES you must send a gift.

Originally Posted by Sadie's Mom

The newest wedding etiquette says if you decline an invitation, then you do NOT have to send a gift. However, if you accepted, then YES you must send a gift.

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That's ridongcolous!!! LOL Scott and I aren't close with these cousins at all! Is this just a way to scheme more gifts out of people???? UGH! I feel almost compelled to go to Scott's cousins because its being held at Scott's mom's house since it's "in the middle of where everyone is". We are also getting pressured to pay for a hotel room for the wedding which is an hour away. I will tell Scott of this scam! LOL

Buying a tux might be cheaper than renting several times.

I've been griping about weddings and costs for ages.
I'm especially annoyed at wedding showers, b/c you also have to pay for wedding stuff and gifts, the bachlorette party, etc. It goes on and on.

I asked my one friend why do ppl have wedding showers? Mind you, she was 32 and living with her fiance for two years already. She says "To get more gifts". That really pissed me off.

Anyhoo, I eloped and recommend it

Also, the majority of my friends are cool and dont have lavish weddings where mucho gifts/$ output is required. Thank goodness!

I wish more people would do what dh & I did -- we specifically told people we did NOT want any gifts (monetary included). Instead, we provided them with a list of our favorite charitable organizations and asked them to make a contribution on our behalf instead. That way, they could spend what they were comfortable with and what they really could afford. The idea was very well received and thousands of $s were donated to the Canadian Cancer Society in memory of my grandfather.

Originally Posted by CDubbie

Buying a tux might be cheaper than renting several times.

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A lot of people want everyone in the wedding party to have the exact same tux though.

Originally Posted by Sadie's Mom

I wish more people would do what dh & I did -- we specifically told people we did NOT want any gifts (monetary included). Instead, we provided them with a list of our favorite charitable organizations and asked them to make a contribution on our behalf instead. That way, they could spend what they were comfortable with and what they really could afford. The idea was very well received and thousands of $s were donated to the Canadian Cancer Society in memory of my grandfather.

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That is a wonderful idea.

I'm having a $150 wedding
That pays for the minister (excluding tip) and a small wedding chapel, and bouquet and 5-10 guests.
No fancy recption, no black tie event, we'll likely just end up having dinner at a local restaurant for a reception.

The wedding isn't the important part, the marriage is

Originally Posted by Arlyn

The wedding isn't the important part, the marriage is

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That is so true!!!

Isn't it a shame that so many people forget that?