Since we lost our Mozzie, we left it a couple of days before the whole family felt it was time to let another kitty share our home.
We got onto the Bengal Rescue/Welfare Society, and was put in touch with someone who wanted to rehome a 6 year old cat they've had since kittenhood. After a couple of chats and loads of emails, the owner said that while he felt we were an option, and he'd be happy for the cat to come here, he also wanted to explore other options, to see if he could keep his cat. And so nearly 40 days after first contact and that rush of excitement, we are still waiting to see if his other options are working, ( we've heard nothing to indicate one way or the other ) or if we should pursue other Bengal cats from the rescue when one comes up for rehoming. As we are so keen to take on the 6 year old, the Bengal rescue say that we should give it some time to see how it all works out. They've heard nothing either.
We all feel we desperately need another kitty to help us with Mozzie's loss, and I'd love a Tuxedo cat, after losing my 16yr old black and white cat to old age last November. So we started looking in rescue centres. Now comes the problem. Mum has a form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, in that she believes the house is never tidy enough for guests. We don't believe in buying animals, and all our pets are rescues. All the sanctuaries want to do home checks which is very good, but quite frankly, the house even when tidy, is cluttered ( my father is a hoarder ), and we haven't had a guest enter the house for 3 years now, because mum can't cope, so there is no hope for any homechecks, and therefore no hope for a new cat, unless I personally rescue it like I did with the two cats I mentioned previously. With the 6yr old cat I first mentioned, the owner, said he wouldn't bother with a home check, and as long as we go to him to meet the cat, should he wish to rehome him, then all would be well, but it seems at this stage, we'll never take on that cat anyway.
Anyway, so in my local paper, I rang a number advertising a private rescue, that has young cats and kittens needing homes. I rang in the morning, and after she described a few cats that I felt I wanted to meet, and maybe take one home, the woman - a nice lady - asked if I could call back in the evening. She said she rehomes by interview and says she has a good feel for people. We talked a while and then she asked about where I live. I told her I live in a Semi-detached house, amongst other things. She asked about what is on the detatched side, and I told her a part of a T junction of a quiet road. She asked if that meant that should the cat jump the fence, would it mean it would be on a pavement. I said yes, it is afterall the truth. Then she became very reluctant, and eventually said she didn't feel we'd be suitable to give her cats a safe home, and that she'd worry about them. She said that it was proof enough to her that Mozzie had been killed by a car, and that she'd rather her cats went to a good safe home.
It is her perogative, and if she feels we are not good enough then I'd rather she said no. It is for the cat's best interests, that she is thinking afterall. So why then am I sitting here feeling so bad ???
When I hung up, I hugged my teddy bear and sobbed ( I'm 27 yrs old now, and I still behaved like this ). I just can't shake that feeling of rejection. We've never turned an animal away, and all our pets recieve all the best love and care and attention, that we can give, and now we are turned away because of our house location and maybe something else not mentioned ??? I feel terrible. I also feel very bratty and moany. My poor mother hears me whine every day of how much I need a cat - very childish - but I want the daily nightmares of cleaning Mozzie up after his passing, to end, and the space he left is so vast, that it needs filling soon. And while she wants a cat too, we have this 'no buying, no guests', hang up banging down on us, what can we do ????
Whilst at work yesterday, after a particularly bad night, I sat cuddling and petting a ships cat that the company I work for commissions for sale. They are a cardboard moulded body, covered in garenteed by product from the food industry... real rabbit fur. I loathe fur products, but these ships cats do look as real as you can get, and it is real fur so it gets warm as you pet it, and I am really desperately longing for a feline companion to snuggle. I know that when I actually get a feline companion, I'll be horrified when I realise how close I am to buying a ships cat...it's all so silly, but I've never been without a cat in all my life, and it all seems so empty without one here. A home is definately not a home, without a cat !!!
Any suggestions at all right now would be gratefully received !!! Am I over reacting??? If so, how can I break the cycle ???
You guys have always been so supportive, so I figured I'd rant on and hope you can help. Thanks in advance, and I'm sorry this is so long.
Peace, Love, and Happiness, Always
Sonia
We got onto the Bengal Rescue/Welfare Society, and was put in touch with someone who wanted to rehome a 6 year old cat they've had since kittenhood. After a couple of chats and loads of emails, the owner said that while he felt we were an option, and he'd be happy for the cat to come here, he also wanted to explore other options, to see if he could keep his cat. And so nearly 40 days after first contact and that rush of excitement, we are still waiting to see if his other options are working, ( we've heard nothing to indicate one way or the other ) or if we should pursue other Bengal cats from the rescue when one comes up for rehoming. As we are so keen to take on the 6 year old, the Bengal rescue say that we should give it some time to see how it all works out. They've heard nothing either.
We all feel we desperately need another kitty to help us with Mozzie's loss, and I'd love a Tuxedo cat, after losing my 16yr old black and white cat to old age last November. So we started looking in rescue centres. Now comes the problem. Mum has a form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, in that she believes the house is never tidy enough for guests. We don't believe in buying animals, and all our pets are rescues. All the sanctuaries want to do home checks which is very good, but quite frankly, the house even when tidy, is cluttered ( my father is a hoarder ), and we haven't had a guest enter the house for 3 years now, because mum can't cope, so there is no hope for any homechecks, and therefore no hope for a new cat, unless I personally rescue it like I did with the two cats I mentioned previously. With the 6yr old cat I first mentioned, the owner, said he wouldn't bother with a home check, and as long as we go to him to meet the cat, should he wish to rehome him, then all would be well, but it seems at this stage, we'll never take on that cat anyway.
Anyway, so in my local paper, I rang a number advertising a private rescue, that has young cats and kittens needing homes. I rang in the morning, and after she described a few cats that I felt I wanted to meet, and maybe take one home, the woman - a nice lady - asked if I could call back in the evening. She said she rehomes by interview and says she has a good feel for people. We talked a while and then she asked about where I live. I told her I live in a Semi-detached house, amongst other things. She asked about what is on the detatched side, and I told her a part of a T junction of a quiet road. She asked if that meant that should the cat jump the fence, would it mean it would be on a pavement. I said yes, it is afterall the truth. Then she became very reluctant, and eventually said she didn't feel we'd be suitable to give her cats a safe home, and that she'd worry about them. She said that it was proof enough to her that Mozzie had been killed by a car, and that she'd rather her cats went to a good safe home.
It is her perogative, and if she feels we are not good enough then I'd rather she said no. It is for the cat's best interests, that she is thinking afterall. So why then am I sitting here feeling so bad ???
When I hung up, I hugged my teddy bear and sobbed ( I'm 27 yrs old now, and I still behaved like this ). I just can't shake that feeling of rejection. We've never turned an animal away, and all our pets recieve all the best love and care and attention, that we can give, and now we are turned away because of our house location and maybe something else not mentioned ??? I feel terrible. I also feel very bratty and moany. My poor mother hears me whine every day of how much I need a cat - very childish - but I want the daily nightmares of cleaning Mozzie up after his passing, to end, and the space he left is so vast, that it needs filling soon. And while she wants a cat too, we have this 'no buying, no guests', hang up banging down on us, what can we do ????
Whilst at work yesterday, after a particularly bad night, I sat cuddling and petting a ships cat that the company I work for commissions for sale. They are a cardboard moulded body, covered in garenteed by product from the food industry... real rabbit fur. I loathe fur products, but these ships cats do look as real as you can get, and it is real fur so it gets warm as you pet it, and I am really desperately longing for a feline companion to snuggle. I know that when I actually get a feline companion, I'll be horrified when I realise how close I am to buying a ships cat...it's all so silly, but I've never been without a cat in all my life, and it all seems so empty without one here. A home is definately not a home, without a cat !!!
Any suggestions at all right now would be gratefully received !!! Am I over reacting??? If so, how can I break the cycle ???
You guys have always been so supportive, so I figured I'd rant on and hope you can help. Thanks in advance, and I'm sorry this is so long.
Peace, Love, and Happiness, Always
Sonia