Hi! Just wanted to say that declawing is really a bad idea! There's a good article on the main cat site page you can read about. I don't have any experience with soft paws, but I've heard a lot of good things about them.
I regularly trim both my cats nails. Chloe has gotten so used to it that she doesn't mind. If you start trimming their nails when they are young and easy to handle, they will adapt to it. I usually wait until Chloe is asleep, then I can trim her front paws pretty quickly. Sometime I will do the back paws too. The most important thing to remember is to only trim the tips, you don't want to cut into the living part of the nail. My other cat Anya really hates to have her nails trimmed, so it's more complicated with her. I have to hold her down and do one paw, then the next day I'll get the other one.