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It is nearly 3 in the morning and today she has eaten a salad bowl and 5 chips which is better than yesterday but still not good as she is complaining of this sick, full feeling. I'm sure she doesnt need to go to the hospital yet, seeing as she is eating something.. or does she? does anyone know if this is tell tale signs of any illness? I still haven't completely ruled out anorexia..
 

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Originally Posted by kipper3972

It is nearly 3 in the morning and today she has eaten a salad bowl and 5 chips which is better than yesterday but still not good as she is complaining of this sick, full feeling. I'm sure she doesnt need to go to the hospital yet, seeing as she is eating something.. or does she? does anyone know if this is tell tale signs of any illness? I still haven't completely ruled out anorexia..
I say anorexia, or.........maybe the flu or something more serious?? I will send many vibes and hugs to you and her. Keep us posted please.

 

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Shes 14 your the adult...Don't ask her to go to the doctor tell her she is going and than take her! Sounds like she is ill and the only way to find out what the problem is ..is to have your doctor check her out..
 

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I think you should make her a doctor appointment asap. Even if it's not a real emergency the doctor will be able to point you in the right direction, and shed some light on what may be wrong.
 
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I can't at the moment because it is 3 in the morning were I live and I just cannot sleep! tomorrow I shall get up and make her some pancakes or something. then say we will go out but I will take her to the doctors instead.
 

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Sorry I was a bit suspicious


Salads and and junk food aren't very nutritious, can you get your eat some soup? That should be easy on her stomach. Go ahead and get a doctor's appointment scheduled and don't let her get out of going. She may get mad at you for it but it's better to take her in now then to wait until she's worse.
 

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sorry, but how long has she been feeling sick? There could be alot of reasons for her not eating. Anorexia, illness, depression and alot more
If it's been more than a week I would suggest making a Dr. appointment to rule out medical reasons. She may not want to go but it's better to be a mean Mom now and find out what's wrong than to keep worrying and do nothing
 

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Originally Posted by kipper3972

It is nearly 3 in the morning and today she has eaten a salad bowl and 5 chips which is better than yesterday but still not good as she is complaining of this sick, full feeling. I'm sure she doesnt need to go to the hospital yet, seeing as she is eating something.. or does she? does anyone know if this is tell tale signs of any illness? I still haven't completely ruled out anorexia..
A stomach bug usually pops up for a day with nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea. If it lasts more than one day it's worth seeing the doctor over. This isn't like a fever that or flu that takes 3-5 days to get over.

The digestive system is so important to the human body that it's not something to risk with. I'm no doctor, but here's a few possibilities of what it could be:
  • A stomach ulcer or bacterial infection in the stomach - requires treatment from a doctor, and if left untreated can result in severe hemmoraging that can be fatal (just lost a relative to this).
  • A blockage in the intestine - can be fatal within 3 - 7 days if left untreated. Can also increase the risk of cancer.
  • A food allergy - symptoms can cause dehydration which can become fatal or cause brain damage.
  • Annorexia - can be fatal or cause brain damage, and works a lot faster than you think.
When you say you haven't ruled out annorexia, I believe you, but don't think it's any less serious than these other things. The fact that she refuses to go to the doctor makes me think even more that it is annorexia. She probably thinks the doctor will find it out and tell you and that you'll be mad. Even if she confesses to it, you still need to take her to a doctor ASAP. She might be severly dehydrated or suffering from starvation already.

A small salad after a week of not eating is not enough to consider her "eating" and out of the woods. Get her to a doctor.
 
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I suppose so. She has been feeling like this for 7 days and it hasnt got worse or better. I have given her pasta and chips because thats her favourite foods and I am doing anything just to make her eat. What can happen after 7 days of not eating very much?
wednesday: breakfast normal lunch normal [this is when the problem started]dinner- a lettuce leaf
thursday: Half a sandwich
friday: a biscuit
saturday: 2 mouthfuls of noodles and a piece of chicken
sunday: 2 mouthfuls of rice
monday: 5 mouthgulfs of candyfloss and a slice of lamb
tuesday: 5 chips and a salad bowl
is this a dangerous amount to eat in just a week?
[I think it is about 6 days actually]
 
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you have mentioned a blockage? could this be why she feels so full up all the time. she claims that when she eats she can 'feel it' inside her going down.
 

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Originally Posted by kipper3972

I suppose so. She has been feeling like this for 7 days and it hasnt got worse or better. I have given her pasta and chips because thats her favourite foods and I am doing anything just to make her eat. What can happen after 7 days of not eating very much?
wednesday: breakfast normal lunch normal [this is when the problem started]dinner- a lettuce leaf
thursday: Half a sandwich
friday: a biscuit
saturday: 2 mouthfuls of noodles and a piece of chicken
sunday: 2 mouthfuls of rice
monday: 5 mouthgulfs of candyfloss and a slice of lamb
tuesday: 5 chips and a salad bowl
is this a dangerous amount to eat in just a week?
[I think it is about
Yes that is not enough to support a teenager. How is she drinking? Has she been retaining fluids? If so, what has she been drinking?

Get her to a doctor in the morning.
 
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she has been drinking normally, things like water and fruit juices. just what she normally drinks
 

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Originally Posted by kipper3972

you have mentioned a blockage? could this be why she feels so full up all the time. she claims that when she eats she can 'feel it' inside her going down.
It's possible, but only a doctor can tell. And if it is a blockage, if it's gotten to the point of these symptoms don't try treating it yourself as it could be fatal.

A friend of mine recently went through all the symptoms you described, and finally checked himself into the hospital 8 days after the initial problem started. His intestine had become blocked, and the food started rotting, and it ended up eating up parts of his intestine. He had to have 2 feet of intestine removed and it took him 6 months to recover. He is now on a special diet.

All the other possibilities I mentioned are things I have personally seen happen to my friends. All with the same symptoms you are describing about your daughter.
 
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good grief!! I am a extremely worried mum now :'( I am taking her to get some help if she likes it or not. I'm her mum and I will just ignore her tantrums. I asked her yesterday if she had constipation or diarrhoea and she said she doesnt so would this mean she still could have a blockage?
thankyu for all the replies so far!! it is so lovely how you all care so much!
you are all angels and I appreciate it
 
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I am going to go to sleep now but I will be back in the morning to update you on how things are going.
xox
 

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It just dawned on me too, that this could be a blockage or torsion of the intestine! I'm glad to see someone else has already brought that up.

In case of that, it would NOT be good to force her to eat. Just take her straight to the doctor or the ER, first thing in the morning... please.
 

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I just found this thread now and oddly enough my sister just had her second abdominal surgery for a blockage, actually a partial blockage called a stricture. She had to have a foot of intestine removed and is now having complications. She too had the same symptoms.

Another thing, which normally isn't thought of is extreme anemia. I say this because I had it as a teenager and it gave very vague feeling of being unwell and after I ate I would feel nauseated and eventually vomitted no matter what I ate. My hair began falling out is well. I was also very pale. I was severly anemic by the time I went to the doctor. Does your daughter have heavy periods? This could very easily set her up for iron deficiency anemia.

She may not like doctors, but being ill is a fact of life and if she wants to stay alive she is going to have to go sometimes.

My sister doesn't like doctors either. She knew there was something wrong for six months but didn't go. Finally she went in for a "check up" and they found a tumor the size of a cantalope in her abdomen. She had to have an emergency tumor removal and full hysterectomy. Because she waited so long the sugery was difficult and 5 week out she developed the stricture from the first surgery retractor placing pressure on her small bowel. She had that removed 4 weeks ago, but is having problems again and has to go back to the surgeon tomorrow. We are hoping is it not another blockage, adhesion or stricture.

PLEASE, this is potentially life threatening to your daugher, whether physical or psychological. She needs to go, even if you have to call the ambulance on her.

Sending lots of good vibes your way and please keep us posted.
 
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she does have partically heavy period and bad stomach cramps. It is early in the morning 5 hours sleep and I am feeling exhausted. My daughter is in bed and i told her to get dressed and ready to go to the docs. I hace a feeling this is going to be difficult

thankyou to everyone x
 

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When I was in high school I had an eating disorder. I suffered a como of anorexia and bulimia. Part of it was peer presure and part of it was a contrp; issue.
I will start with the peer pressure part. In school all the guys wanted these skinny wafe like girls. I noticed all the girls that were super popular never ate at school. They spent their lunches just hanging out and not eating. I thought hey, maybe thats the answer. This was 11+ years ago, today it is much worse, girls like Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie make it cool to be super skinny. Girls and boys can be very mean even over one pound. When I look back I realize these girls were not really happy. They looked bad and tried way too hard to fit in.

For the control issue. Food was the only thing in my llife I could control. My parents spent tons of money triing to help me realize that food was a nesity not something to play with. For 2 years I never at more than 1 apple and 1 cup of yogurt a day. That was it. I had so much pressure from my parents to do well in school, my freinds to look a certain way, my teachers to get things done. Then I had a job on top of it off so I had a manager to be on me and want a job done a certain way. The only thing I had was what I ate. I was able to decide when and how much I needed to eat. My life was out of control. Suicide became a real possability for me. I felt I had no other optoin.

My parents finally put me in a hospital when my weight got close to 100 pounds. They had been watching me. My hair was thinning, my skin pasty, none of my cloths fit any more. I stopped sleeping. Afet two months I was realesed with some knowladge. I put on 15 pounds and looked pretty good. I learned that Ineeded to talk with my parents more. When pressure hit let them know. They were there to help. My mom became very strickt. She made sure I ate at least twice a day and when I did eat most of the time it was a fight. I was still worryong about calories and putting on weight. She would not let me leave the table till I ate evrything. If that ment I sat there all night, she sat with me.

Today I am almost 30 pounds overwieght. I no longer use food as a tool. I have learned how to deal with stress. Plus I have a wonderful DH who knows the signs to look for and won't let me go with out food.

My concern for your girl is that there is something else going on. I said the same things at the begining. I felt sick or the food was gross, you name it I said it. I don't think its a medical thing. Girls will say anything to get sympathy and make the 'rents feel sorry for them. Thus letting them get away with not eating. I would suggest that she see a therapixt who specializes in eating disorders. It sounds like she is on the path to one, if not there already. I think there is something going on that she does not feel comfortable talking with you about. She may never want to talk with you about it. There are things that I still have not told my parents. They ask everyonce and a while but I still brush it off. Talk to her councler at school to get refeances. You are still the parent. She is 14. She has to do what you say. Don't be weak about it. She may hate you for making her realize what has been going on. Trust me she will hate you. She will grow past that. She needs help. She needs someone she can talk to and try to figure out why she is doing it. Be strong.
If it is a peer of hers and not hers call her mother and have aheart to heart. Whoever it is the girl needs help. There is something going on.

PM me if you need to. I have been there. I know all about it.

Sorry about the spelling. I wrote this fast.
 
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