Anybody else here adopted?

Anybody else on this site adopted? I was adopted at 5 months. It was a state adoption so the records are sealed. My parents were wonderful and gave me a great home and life, but they have both passed unfortunately, and I've been thinking about trying to find my birth mother. I would like to get a genetic medical history, but I would also like to meet her. Not to replace my mother, but to thank her..does that make sense? I don't want to replace my mom...no one could replace her...but I grew up as an only child and I would like to know if I have any genetic brothers and sisters. Has anyone else done that? Any ideas or suggestions?

I say if that is what you want to do go for it. Good luck finding what you want to find.

My husband was adopted, also my cousin, neither one of them looked for birth parents...but I personally would have to, if it were me. My husband's parents NEVER told him or his sister they were adopted...they found the papers as adults in a drawer one day

Good luck with your search...I say definitely go for it.

My cousin was adopted as a baby (I don't know the exact age). Her parents were told they would never ever have a child of thier "own", so they adopted her. Two years later, they had a son naturally. A year and a half after that, they had a second son. They never had any other children after that and they NEVER used any form of birth control. My aunt said those were the three children God meant for her to have.

We always knew she was adopted. Once, when she was maybe 11, her brother was teasing her that she wasn't really his sister blah blah (kids are cruel and her brother was a particularly mischevious boy). She went crying to my aunt, who told her, "My love, your father and I were very lucky that we got a chance to pick a perfect girl to bring home and love. Given the same chance.....do you think ANYONE would pick out your brother?" LMAO

I don't have any suggestions to help you find a birth family, but I wish you the best of luck.

I think if you truly want to try, then you should do it. Just be prepared if it turns out that your biological mother or other family wants nothing to do with you. I think in most cases, the parents are willing to meet and can even build a nice adult relationship, but don't get your hopes up too much, just in case.

I wish you all the best.

Originally Posted by Bella713

My husband was adopted, also my cousin, neither one of them looked for birth parents...but I personally would have to, if it were me. My husband's parents NEVER told him or his sister they were adopted...they found the papers as adults in a drawer one day

Good luck with your search...I say definitely go for it.

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Oh, that must have been terrible for them! My parents told me as soon as I was old enough to understand. They even had a story book that explained what adoption was, that I was chosen by my parents. I can't even imagine what it would be like to find out when I was an adult. I bet there are definite issues there.

Originally Posted by PaulaS

I think if you truly want to try, then you should do it. Just be prepared if it turns out that your biological mother or other family wants nothing to do with you. I think in most cases, the parents are willing to meet and can even build a nice adult relationship, but don't get your hopes up too much, just in case.

I wish you all the best.

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I know it is risky. And I don't want to interrupt anyone's life or expect my birth mother to welcome me with open arms. I mainly want a medical history. I hate it when I go to the doctor and they ask for family history and I say "I don't know...I'm adopted". Then I start thinking about what COULD be wrong with me, what should I be looking out for. I don't even know how to get the history. All I know is she was around 21 and I'm Irish, Welsh, English decent.

I'm not adopted. But I wish you luck in finding your birth parents. Even if you don't form a relationship with them, I think it would still be interesting for you to meet them and kind of see where you came from.