Momma Mika update..

ok tell me to mind me own if you all want to , but i really dont think you all should be trying to get her to go behind her mums back , think about someone telling your child to discard what you tell your child? and go behind your back?
i for one would not be happy. i know with most of us we would take this cat in , but her parents have said no, this is why i strongly belive this cat should be found a new and forever home and somewhere safe to have her kittens.

Tasha we wont tell ya that. She came here asking for advice so we all give it. And yours is welcomed also. Even if people dont want to hear it we all know we are all different and have are own opinions it is what makes us individuals..

I do understand what a mean me being a parent also

~I agree however aweful as it may seem, with XxTashaxX. This cat needs to be found a new home, foster home, rescue etc ASAP so she can have her kittens in the safety of a warm home. taking risks with their littkle lives is selfish and asking this young girl to disobey her parents is not solving the problem but possibly making it worse. What if she brings the cat inside, she has babies then the mother finds them or finds out? Then they risk being discarded outside, or worse! Face it everyone doesnt have a love for animals like all of us here and I have a bad feeling that this can go REALLY badly if she sneaks the cat inside and mom finds out that she disobeyed her. Even worse that a group of adults have encouraged her to lie to her mother.~

~I have animals, and I have children but we cannot break the laws of "Motherdom" here. I would be extremely upset if somebody told my child to lie to me regardless of the reason/situation. If she cannot convince her mother into letting her bring the cat inside then we all need to put our heads together and help this girl find a rescue etc to take the cat and ASAP. We still have alittle time here to get this cat to the right place before babies arrive.~


~What city and state are you in? I am in contact with many dog rescues and although they do not specialize in cats I am sure one of them can either take the cat or find a rescue/foster home for her at least for right now and until she can have her babies.~ Send me a private IM if you like. Ill do everything I possibly can to help you find this cat a new home. If she doesnt find a place to go this can go badly for her and the kittens and even if she does deliver them safely outside she can come back into heat soon after having them and you will have the same problem all over again. Do whats best for this cat and find a rescue, foster home etc for her while you have time.~

Ok, I understand everyone's concern, and all, but, I just don't want to get rid of her.. I don't want to, I just can't... I know it would be best, but, I just can't. And how do you really know if the cat is going to a good home?? Even if the home is screened, and all, you never know its the right home. I am sorry, but I don't want to put her in a rescue, I put Shadow in a rescue, and felt horrible, but I knew I had to do it with her. She was a danger to my niece, and nephew.. And I still regret putting her in the Animal Shelter. I hate myself for that one. I still do. And I will hate myself for this one too. I know it would be better to adopt her out, but, I hate myself the way it is. I care about the cat, but I am a minor.. So I really have not much say, and I can't drive yet. And my parents would talk me out of getting rid of her, because then I will be an emotional reck for days, maybe months. I am still an emotional reck from Shadow, and Sugar being put down, and still am in pain from it. And my step-dad being an alcholic... And people telling me I killed Sugar! I know its the best thing for her, but I would get talked out of it, by my parents, and I am weak. Maybe I'll ask my sister, if she would allow her to have them there, if I put up a place for Mika, away from the kids. Or maybe my next door neighbors. I'll see what I could do. I'll try as hard as I can to get her to have them in a house. I know you guys are giving me advice, I love it, and I know you guys want me to get rid of my cat, that is about to give birth, but I don't think I could get rid of her permanently. I am sorry if I have upset you guys.. Very sorry.. I know I am a horrible person for not getting rid of her.

~I know how hard it must be, and how you must feel. Im not saying you shouldnt have a cat. But its in the best interest of the cat and her babies to at least be able to have them indoor. I understand that you are young and you are having alot of emotions right now. What happens if something goes wrong when she gives birth? What happens if one of the babies isnt breathing? God forbid but what happens if she has to have an emergency C section? You cant provide the care a pregnant cat needs and its selfish to not think of her and her best interest. Ive been in rescue work for 7 years. I check backgrounds, criminal records, vet references etc. You would think you are adopting a human child with all the things I do to ensure my animals go to the PROPER homes.~

Good luck with your girl I wish you the best.

She is my best inerest. And I have wanted to get her spayed for a long time now. But she wouldn't let me spend my Christmas money on it. Maybe I can convince her to get a crate, and I can camp outside that night. Or something.

Originally Posted by Spirita2010

Ok, I understand everyone's concern, and all, but, I just don't want to get rid of her.. I don't want to, I just can't... I know it would be best, but, I just can't. And how do you really know if the cat is going to a good home?? Even if the home is screened, and all, you never know its the right home. I am sorry, but I don't want to put her in a rescue, I put Shadow in a rescue, and felt horrible, but I knew I had to do it with her. She was a danger to my niece, and nephew.. And I still regret putting her in the Animal Shelter. I hate myself for that one. I still do. And I will hate myself for this one too. I know it would be better to adopt her out, but, I hate myself the way it is. I care about the cat, but I am a minor.. So I really have not much say, and I can't drive yet. And my parents would talk me out of getting rid of her, because then I will be an emotional reck for days, maybe months. I am still an emotional reck from Shadow, and Sugar being put down, and still am in pain from it. And my step-dad being an alcholic... And people telling me I killed Sugar!

I know its the best thing for her, but I would get talked out of it, by my parents, and I am weak. Maybe I'll ask my sister, if she would allow her to have them there, if I put up a place for Mika, away from the kids. Or maybe my next door neighbors. I'll see what I could do. I'll try as hard as I can to get her to have them in a house. I know you guys are giving me advice, I love it, and I know you guys want me to get rid of my cat, that is about to give birth, but I don't think I could get rid of her permanently. I am sorry if I have upset you guys.. Very sorry.. I know I am a horrible person for not getting rid of her.

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Well, to be honest, your home is not a good one for the cat either, so it really doesn't matter. If you care about the cat at all, which I'm sure you do, you need to do the right thing for her. She needs to live indoors, she should have been spayed long before she was able to get pregnant, she needs to be able to have her kittens somewhere other than a dog house, somewhere she won't be disturbed. She needs to be spayed after she has the kittens, so this can't happen again. I know you are a minor, but you need to step up here and be the adult, because the adults in the situation are not acting very responsibly.

I will for now on stay off this thread. I am trying to help the poster in her situation and I dont want to scare her away or make her think no one is trying to help her.

I havent read the whole thread. But I gather there isa dog outside with this outside cat who is going to have kittens? Please be VERY carefull...with the dog around the kittens. The pup may not mean to harm them, but easily could..i have seen it happen on the farm.

Originally Posted by Spirita2010

Ok, I understand everyone's concern, and all, but, I just don't want to get rid of her.. I don't want to, I just can't... I know it would be best, but, I just can't. And how do you really know if the cat is going to a good home?? Even if the home is screened, and all, you never know its the right home. I am sorry, but I don't want to put her in a rescue, I put Shadow in a rescue, and felt horrible, but I knew I had to do it with her. She was a danger to my niece, and nephew.. And I still regret putting her in the Animal Shelter. I hate myself for that one. I still do. And I will hate myself for this one too. I know it would be better to adopt her out, but, I hate myself the way it is. I care about the cat, but I am a minor.. So I really have not much say, and I can't drive yet. And my parents would talk me out of getting rid of her, because then I will be an emotional reck for days, maybe months. I am still an emotional reck from Shadow, and Sugar being put down, and still am in pain from it. And my step-dad being an alcholic... And people telling me I killed Sugar!

I know its the best thing for her, but I would get talked out of it, by my parents, and I am weak. Maybe I'll ask my sister, if she would allow her to have them there, if I put up a place for Mika, away from the kids. Or maybe my next door neighbors. I'll see what I could do. I'll try as hard as I can to get her to have them in a house. I know you guys are giving me advice, I love it, and I know you guys want me to get rid of my cat, that is about to give birth, but I don't think I could get rid of her permanently. I am sorry if I have upset you guys.. Very sorry.. I know I am a horrible person for not getting rid of her.

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im sorry your having such a bad time with everything that is going on in your life at the moment i know it cant be easy . and we dont by no means think your a horrible person atall.
the way i see you is a very caring person who wants to do everything she can to help animals. i think asking your sister would be a great idea . then you will still be able to see her and look after her , and then once she is spayed you can go back to how things have been without the fear of her getting pregnant again or the worry about where she will have her kittens.
i really do wish you all the best in what you chose to do.

I completly understand you not wanting to give her up to an animal shelter. It would seriousely kill me. You are not a horrible person for tha. And I know that if you would give her up, then she probably would find a good home. But I don't think anyone could love her as much as you do. I know noone could ever love Keisha like I do. I also know that you are doing the best you can for her. So keep on doing that

And for everyone else,
-no shes not fixed,
-yes she probably should have been,
-yes mika could probably have a better home (living inside)
-yes alot of bad situations could come up during birth/labor
-yes it would be better for her to have them inside
-no she probably shouldn't go against her mothers words
-yes hershey may harm the kittens (notintentially)
-no it wouldn't be the best for her to have her babies in dog house
Thats all been stated. And its all true. It doesn't need to be said again. She gets the point.
We need to respect Spiritas decision, in not wanting to give her cat up, and support her with her questions.

Spirita, I totally understand how you wouldn't want to surrender Mika to a rescue or shelter, even though you acknowledge that the situation is less than ideal...it's not your fault! As a young person who has limited resources and jurisdiction in your home, you're doing the best you can with what you have...we applaud that much! I also respect that you're respecting your parent's rules, however misguided they may be in terms of caring for a pregnant cat.

I would definitely look into having your sister temporarily "foster" Mika inside, or look into having a reliable neighbor do so...do you have any good friends at school that you could ask? Explain the situation, and either you or your mother could speak with your friend's parents about becoming a temporary shelter or foster home for Mika and her kittens. If someone agrees, perhaps you could put part of your allowance or paycheck (if you do start working) toward bottles for the kittens, food, KMR, litter, etc. Or, you could even ask some of your teachers if they'd be willing to temporarily do this for you! I'm a teacher, and I'd be more than happy to foster a pregnant momma cat for one of my kiddos, and gladly help with something like this...

If you go to church, or belong to any other extracurricular groups or clubs, perhaps someone there could temporarily help you with your situation as well. Make it clear to everyone that it's for Mika's and the kittens' welfare, and that you will be responsible for re-homing the kittens. Please also understand that since Mika is pregnant, all of the kittens will need to be checked out by a vet, checked for parasites, ear mites, de-wormed, and vaccinated. How do you plan to pay for this? You have several weeks to save some money for this, or bargain with your mom on how to pay for this expense...the time to think about these things is NOW, rather than wonder how it will be done later.

Remember, we're here! We're always around for suggestions, or for ways to help...you CAN do this, and improve the outcome for Mika and her babies. There's still a lot of options available for you.

Wookie made some very good points above. If you can find someone to tepmorary let her live with them, that would be awesome. Are your next door neighbors nice? Because, then you would have easy access to them.