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post #1 of 45
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Hubby just told me today that he is leaving me. He has been thinking about it for the last 2 days and decided that he cant live with me anymore.

But he wants us to be friends as we have to live together until i find a new place to live with the kids.

I will hopefully be moving back to Scotland before June so I can get the kids in school at the start of term.

Feeling really crap just now and hurt

just thought i would vent out here as you seem to be great listeners

thanks for letting me bend an ear (sort of)

angela
post #2 of 45
Oh crikey!, i'm so sorry He's just thought this over the last 2 days though? Has there been any problems that you can think of?
post #3 of 45
aw gosh, I'm so sorry. I am sending you a
post #4 of 45
I'm sorry Angela. Is there any way you two can work it out? Counseling maybe?
post #5 of 45
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Originally Posted by Rosiemac View Post
Oh crikey!, i'm so sorry He's just thought this over the last 2 days though? Has there been any problems that you can think of?
we've not been great for a while but we were trying to work through it for the kids sake but now hes just had enough so he said. he did this last year and i went home for 6 months then he changed his mind and i came back but im not going to do it this time if i move thats it im not changing kids schools again and again.

thanks for the hugs folks
post #6 of 45
Awww, I am sorry to hear that How much thought can you really put into a decision of that magnitude in 2 days?! Sounds like he was planning this a lot longer.

Many, many hugs to you.
post #7 of 45
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I'm sorry Angela. Is there any way you two can work it out? Counseling maybe?
No he wouldnt do that no chance he likes to keep his business to himself.
post #8 of 45
Angela.. I'm so sorry!! Lots and lots of {{{{hugs}}}} for you and your kids!
post #9 of 45
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Originally Posted by afraser1 View Post
he did this last year and i went home for 6 months then he changed his mind and i came back but im not going to do it this time if i move thats it im not changing kids schools again and again.
It's not just that, it's confusing for you and the kids by keep going back and forth and wondering if it'll happen again a few months down the line

You'll survive this don't worry
post #10 of 45
Oh Angela, I am sorry to hear this I hope that you can work something out that can get you through
post #11 of 45
Oh, honey - I'm so sorry.
post #12 of 45
I am soo sorry to hear this. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers We are all here if you need us!!
post #13 of 45
I'm so sorry! I wouldn't want to be bouncing the kids back & forth, either. I hope that this can end well for all of you!
post #14 of 45
I'm so sorry. I hope you can work this out...
post #15 of 45
lots of hugs for you I know you'll be okay!
post #16 of 45
Angela,

I am so sorry to hear this. Its a shame that things can't be worked out, but you have to do what is best for YOU.

Hugs
post #17 of 45
Angela, I'm very sorry to hear this.............lots of hugs coming your way..........
post #18 of 45
Sorry to hear this. A breakup is never easy, especially when there are kids involved.

However, when one door closes, another opens.

You said that things have been bad for awhile now and last year you guys split for a period of time.

It's never a good idea to stay with someone for the sake of the kids. Kids aren't stupid and you can't hide things from them. They pick up on tension and behaviour changes, and all that will come of it is that they will learn that it's ok to stay in a bad relationship out of obligation.

You have to think of yourself first, and your happiness. When you are happy, then those around you will be too.

Why is it that you are the one moving out of the house when he is the one who wants the divorce? You have the kids so it would probably be easier for him to be the one to move out instead of you uprooting the kids.
post #19 of 45
Aww, sweetie. So sorry your going thru that. I will be thinking of you all. Please know we are all here for you.

post #20 of 45
Aww I'm so sorry to hear about this. It's too bad that you guys couldn't work it out.
post #21 of 45
I am sending hugs for you and your kids from Mississippi.

post #22 of 45
Angie, I am so sorry about this - take care of yourself and the little ones, I really hope things go okay for you
post #23 of 45
I'm so sorry to hear this, many hugs and prayers and Good thoughts coming your way
post #24 of 45
I'm really sorry to hear that <3 I do believe things happen for a reason, and I hope you can move on from this and find happiness *hugs*
post #25 of 45
Angela, I'm so sorry you're going through this! I also firmly believe that when God (or whatever) closes a door, he opens a window...it's just really hard to know that when you're going through something like this. Please know that we're here for you any time you need a shoulder to cry on.
post #26 of 45
I am so sorry you have to go through this. A breakup is never easy. But like Natalie_ca said, the kids can pick up on the tension. One of my sisters is going through this right now and her kids are continuously acting out because of all the tension at home. Do what is going to make YOU happy. Lots of hugs going out to you and your kids!
post #27 of 45
Oh Angela, many more coming your way during this difficult time. Just know that we are all here for you, and anytime..
post #28 of 45
What an awful shock... I'm so sorry for how you must feel. But it's great that you've already decided that you won't go back, even if he does change his mind again! That's a big, big step forward on the path to your new life! Congratulations!

I've lived in Germany, and it's lovely, but gosh... you just can't beat Scotland! I'm sure you'll be so happy, going back!
post #29 of 45
I'm so sorry you have to go through this, we're all here for ya!
post #30 of 45
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Originally Posted by afraser1 View Post
Hubby just told me today that he is leaving me. He has been thinking about it for the last 2 days and decided that he cant live with me anymore.

But he wants us to be friends as we have to live together until i find a new place to live with the kids.

I will hopefully be moving back to Scotland before June so I can get the kids in school at the start of term.

Feeling really crap just now and hurt

just thought i would vent out here as you seem to be great listeners

thanks for letting me bend an ear (sort of)

angela
Is there a reason why YOU have to find a new place for you and the kids?? He should be the one to move out.

I am so sorry you and the kids have to go through this. We are here to listen to whatever venting you want to do.
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