Greetings!
My name is Gina, 37, I'm from Wisconsin. I lost my soul-mate, Cilla, 13 months from 3/16. I belong to a wonderful pet loss group called The Lighthouse, which is a wonderful place. I just needed to find another place where people aren't grieving as much.
I have a golden classic tabby, Buddy, who will be 11 on April 12, and Mia, a dilute tortie, who will be 1 on 6/21. I lost my soulmate Priscilla on 2/16/06, she was 13.
I found out my vet was incompetent in taking good care of my little family (it's just us) but I was too late. I was there on a routine checkup for Bud and Cill, they took Cilli in the back to draw some blood and I never again saw her alive. She was healthy, they told my mother and I different accounts of what happened. They transferred calls from the shelter to the point that the shelter told me they sounded "sheepish" - I assured them that I was never going back there again, I had found a new vet. I still haven't recovered from losing my girl, but will try to not get into it here. I'll keep it at my pet loss forum.
Anyway, I began taking things into my own hands after demanding the charts of my two babies. A fool could have read these charts from year to year and realized that there were questions to be answered. Never once did he suggest looking into Buddy's vomiting or heavy breathing. He never mentioned putting Cilla on a prescribed diet, even though one year she gained 2 pounds. I had never seen these charts before. He never made any recommendations.
I've since learned a lot about cat food, and I so wish I had a second chance to make things right for Cilla. I also learned that one should choose their veterinarian more wisely. Mia came from a shelter to me in September, and I wasn't really very keen on the idea. My family pushed me to look for a kitten. I was just beginning to forge a new relationship with Buddy, who suffered the loss of his best friend as well.
After Mia arrived, everything changed again, and I lost that bond with Buddy that we were beginning to have. Things are just going a day at a time. My boyfriend of 5 years has 2 11-year old ladies who will move in with us sometime this year. That will be interesting.
I've got a Purr-fect Fence that I installed last fall, and the cats absolutely love it. And I've got a nice area that is defined for landscaping now. I'm very interested in any forums or discussions on non-toxic garden plants. I made a promise to Buddy that I would make this area a beautiful garden in honor of our Cilla. And it was in the veggie garden over 10 years ago that Buddy and I met. As a young guy he came through a field to my yard every day to visit me in the garden, after a few weeks he worked his way into my heart and my house, and a few more weeks he worked his way into Cilla's heart too.
Unfortunately I realized that a safe world consisting of 2 cats and a girl is not as safe as it seemed, as my life was devastated by Cilla's death last year. I'm in process of trying to find a different type of support system, though I know that none will be as happy and as trusting as the family I once had. Obviously I'm a very emotional person when it comes to kitties, I find them to be very pure souls who can teach us a lot. (But I don't have any problem with doggies, but I've never had one bigger than a cat! I grew up with 2 toy poodles, whom I also miss very much).
That's about it. I have a few other hobbies, particularly making garden stones and hypertufa planters. I'm looking forward to adorning our new cat garden with lots of garden stones, plants, walkways, scratching stuff, and perches.
kindest regards,
Gina
loving Cilla always
My name is Gina, 37, I'm from Wisconsin. I lost my soul-mate, Cilla, 13 months from 3/16. I belong to a wonderful pet loss group called The Lighthouse, which is a wonderful place. I just needed to find another place where people aren't grieving as much.
I have a golden classic tabby, Buddy, who will be 11 on April 12, and Mia, a dilute tortie, who will be 1 on 6/21. I lost my soulmate Priscilla on 2/16/06, she was 13.
I found out my vet was incompetent in taking good care of my little family (it's just us) but I was too late. I was there on a routine checkup for Bud and Cill, they took Cilli in the back to draw some blood and I never again saw her alive. She was healthy, they told my mother and I different accounts of what happened. They transferred calls from the shelter to the point that the shelter told me they sounded "sheepish" - I assured them that I was never going back there again, I had found a new vet. I still haven't recovered from losing my girl, but will try to not get into it here. I'll keep it at my pet loss forum.
Anyway, I began taking things into my own hands after demanding the charts of my two babies. A fool could have read these charts from year to year and realized that there were questions to be answered. Never once did he suggest looking into Buddy's vomiting or heavy breathing. He never mentioned putting Cilla on a prescribed diet, even though one year she gained 2 pounds. I had never seen these charts before. He never made any recommendations.
I've since learned a lot about cat food, and I so wish I had a second chance to make things right for Cilla. I also learned that one should choose their veterinarian more wisely. Mia came from a shelter to me in September, and I wasn't really very keen on the idea. My family pushed me to look for a kitten. I was just beginning to forge a new relationship with Buddy, who suffered the loss of his best friend as well.
After Mia arrived, everything changed again, and I lost that bond with Buddy that we were beginning to have. Things are just going a day at a time. My boyfriend of 5 years has 2 11-year old ladies who will move in with us sometime this year. That will be interesting.
I've got a Purr-fect Fence that I installed last fall, and the cats absolutely love it. And I've got a nice area that is defined for landscaping now. I'm very interested in any forums or discussions on non-toxic garden plants. I made a promise to Buddy that I would make this area a beautiful garden in honor of our Cilla. And it was in the veggie garden over 10 years ago that Buddy and I met. As a young guy he came through a field to my yard every day to visit me in the garden, after a few weeks he worked his way into my heart and my house, and a few more weeks he worked his way into Cilla's heart too.
Unfortunately I realized that a safe world consisting of 2 cats and a girl is not as safe as it seemed, as my life was devastated by Cilla's death last year. I'm in process of trying to find a different type of support system, though I know that none will be as happy and as trusting as the family I once had. Obviously I'm a very emotional person when it comes to kitties, I find them to be very pure souls who can teach us a lot. (But I don't have any problem with doggies, but I've never had one bigger than a cat! I grew up with 2 toy poodles, whom I also miss very much).
That's about it. I have a few other hobbies, particularly making garden stones and hypertufa planters. I'm looking forward to adorning our new cat garden with lots of garden stones, plants, walkways, scratching stuff, and perches.
kindest regards,
Gina
loving Cilla always
