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I hate being a newbie!!

post #1 of 21
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My name is Gina, 37, I'm from Wisconsin. I lost my soul-mate, Cilla, 13 months from 3/16. I belong to a wonderful pet loss group called The Lighthouse, which is a wonderful place. I just needed to find another place where people aren't grieving as much.

I have a golden classic tabby, Buddy, who will be 11 on April 12, and Mia, a dilute tortie, who will be 1 on 6/21. I lost my soulmate Priscilla on 2/16/06, she was 13.

I found out my vet was incompetent in taking good care of my little family (it's just us) but I was too late. I was there on a routine checkup for Bud and Cill, they took Cilli in the back to draw some blood and I never again saw her alive. She was healthy, they told my mother and I different accounts of what happened. They transferred calls from the shelter to the point that the shelter told me they sounded "sheepish" - I assured them that I was never going back there again, I had found a new vet. I still haven't recovered from losing my girl, but will try to not get into it here. I'll keep it at my pet loss forum.

Anyway, I began taking things into my own hands after demanding the charts of my two babies. A fool could have read these charts from year to year and realized that there were questions to be answered. Never once did he suggest looking into Buddy's vomiting or heavy breathing. He never mentioned putting Cilla on a prescribed diet, even though one year she gained 2 pounds. I had never seen these charts before. He never made any recommendations.

I've since learned a lot about cat food, and I so wish I had a second chance to make things right for Cilla. I also learned that one should choose their veterinarian more wisely. Mia came from a shelter to me in September, and I wasn't really very keen on the idea. My family pushed me to look for a kitten. I was just beginning to forge a new relationship with Buddy, who suffered the loss of his best friend as well.

After Mia arrived, everything changed again, and I lost that bond with Buddy that we were beginning to have. Things are just going a day at a time. My boyfriend of 5 years has 2 11-year old ladies who will move in with us sometime this year. That will be interesting.

I've got a Purr-fect Fence that I installed last fall, and the cats absolutely love it. And I've got a nice area that is defined for landscaping now. I'm very interested in any forums or discussions on non-toxic garden plants. I made a promise to Buddy that I would make this area a beautiful garden in honor of our Cilla. And it was in the veggie garden over 10 years ago that Buddy and I met. As a young guy he came through a field to my yard every day to visit me in the garden, after a few weeks he worked his way into my heart and my house, and a few more weeks he worked his way into Cilla's heart too.

Unfortunately I realized that a safe world consisting of 2 cats and a girl is not as safe as it seemed, as my life was devastated by Cilla's death last year. I'm in process of trying to find a different type of support system, though I know that none will be as happy and as trusting as the family I once had. Obviously I'm a very emotional person when it comes to kitties, I find them to be very pure souls who can teach us a lot. (But I don't have any problem with doggies, but I've never had one bigger than a cat! I grew up with 2 toy poodles, whom I also miss very much).

That's about it. I have a few other hobbies, particularly making garden stones and hypertufa planters. I'm looking forward to adorning our new cat garden with lots of garden stones, plants, walkways, scratching stuff, and perches.

kindest regards,


loving Cilla always
post #2 of 21
Welcome to TCS, Gina, Buddie and Mia! I'm sure you will enjoy it here.
post #3 of 21
Hi and welcome! So sorry to hear about Cilla. My Seb is 11 and won't always be around although he is healthy now. He is my best friend and I think you will find others here who feel the same. He loves me no matter what and THAT is saying something I am not always easy to get along with.

This is usually a very upbeat site, though I love the Fur Pictures section and have learned a lot in the other areas.

Your garden sounds lovely. I hope you will be able to share pictures of your feline friends and your garden, too when it is ready.
post #4 of 21
Hi Gina. Welcome to TCS. Sorry to hear about your baby.
post #5 of 21
Hi Gina, and welcome to TCS! I'm sorry you lost your Cilla.

I know you'll find a lot of kindred spirits here who care for their kitties as much as you do!
post #6 of 21

I am sorry to hear about Cilla
post #7 of 21
Welcome to TCS!

I'm sorry to hear about your Priscilla. I look forward to seeing Buddy and Mia when you can post some pictures.

post #8 of 21
Thread Starter 
Thank you so much for the warm welcome. I feel myself welling up already -time to get some work done before I come back!!


loving my Cilla always
post #9 of 21
Hola y bienvenido a TCS!..
(Translate: Hi and Welcome to TCS!!!.....)

See you on the forums!
post #10 of 21
Hi welcome to TCS, this is such a great site and everyone here is so nice Also this site can be very helpful and informative too And of course we do have fun here time to time, so join us in the lounge sometime ! But anywho, I cant wait to see pics of ur crew, we just pics here ! Also I am so sorry u went through all of that with ur vet I am also sorry for the loss of Cilla, R.I.P Cilla ! I look forward to seeing u on the forums
post #11 of 21
Hello and welcome to the forum!

post #12 of 21
Welcome to TCS! I look forward to hearing more about your babies. Sorry to hear about your other ones, and if you ever need to talk about it just check into "Crossing the bridge" where other people are going through the same things as you. I love this place, and I feel you will too! It becomes addictive
post #13 of 21
Hello and welcome Gina. I am sorry for your loss. We are glad that you and your fur-family are here.
post #14 of 21
Thread Starter 
My beloved, Cilla and Buddy.

Our Family picture, 1996

my precious Cilla, (1992-2006), in my heart she'll never die.

Teeny Mia
post #15 of 21
Thread Starter 
can someone explain this vbPlaza stuff with the points and the bank?? I've never seen this before.

post #16 of 21
Hi Gina and welcome to TCS! Your story of Cilla went right to my heart as I went through something similar a few years ago when I lost my Kirby. I'm so sorry you lost your soulmate kitty.
post #17 of 21
Hi Gina and welcome to TCS!
I have a Mia also.
post #18 of 21
Originally Posted by ginamarina View Post
can someone explain this vbPlaza stuff with the points and the bank?? I've never seen this before.

Try here:


and here:


Hope that helps!
post #19 of 21
Welcome Gina!

I'm a relative newbie too! I already love this place...everyone made me feel so welcome. Hope you enjoy it here also! Your kitties are lovely. I'm sorry about your loss of Cilla.....I lost my soul-mate kitty, Spooky, nearly 7 years ago....and I still miss her like it was yesterday. Hang in there, the pain does lessen over time. My heart goes out to you because you are still grieving so deeply. I hope you will share your stories of Cilla here with us, so we can come to love her too.

Pookie & the girls
post #20 of 21
Hello Gina & welcome to TCS. I'm sorry to hear about Cilla, she looks a little like my Coco who's 15. I also have a 6 1/2 m/o kitten. I hope you found a more caring & knowledgeable vet.
post #21 of 21
Welcome Gina, Buddy, Mia and family

to TheCatSite and my deepest condolences to you all on the loss of your sweet Cilla. I empathize and understand, I think, how you must feel -- I would, too, and a memorial garden is a wonderful way to pay tribute to the special bond you and Cilla will always share. We always plant a plant on the resting place of our loved ones who go on over the Bridge, and we also adopt another deserving cat, not to "replace" as this would be absurd, but to open our hearts and our home to another sweet cat who needs a loving forever home.

You sound like wonderful people and I hope your combined families will blend happily. We'd love to see photos if you feel like sharing...and we hope the forums here provide friendship and comfort to you.
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